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Morning all, new thread, croissants on trolley, and I'll put a brew on.

Hi Footle

The best thing you can do is listen .
I found , especially in the early apts , that I remembered nothing the doctors said to me .
So someone who can relay it all back to your friend later will be a great help

Apart from that , just treat her normally . Take your lead from how she appears . And continue being the kind friend that you already seem to be

Emins daughter thank you for letting us know, we will all be thinking of you and your family and sending you love
X x

DaughterofEMIN I'm so sorry to hear that EMIN has taken a turn for the worse. I hope she is pain-free, that you all get a chance to say goodbye, and that the end is peaceful. Your mum has been a great support to lots of us and we will remember her very fondly. Thinking of you all xxx

footie that is very kind and helpful of you to support your neighbour - I echo topsy and amber

DaughterofEMIN, I am so sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. I wish you all strength.

Thank you for your kind words, I have passed them onto the family.

Our only comfort at this horrendous time is that mum wanted to be at home surrounded by her family rather than stuck in a hospital and she got her wish. We fought for that for her and the doctors and nurses have been very accommodating on that point.

She is quite agitated at the moment but who she was seems to be gone and she cannot communicate with us anymore. We are therefore relying on the medical team and the syringe drivers to keep her pain free. She seems a lot better in that respect than she was at the weekend so we get some comfort from that.

We are grateful for your thoughts at this time and I know how much she would appreciated small kindnesses in her name.

Thank you x

Daughter of EMIN I am so sorry to hear that things have taken a turn for the worse and I am sure, having sat through a friend's last days and hours, that all your love and care, and being able to do this her own way means everything to EMIN in these last precious days. I wish you strength. Your mum will live on in you and in her love for you.

I am afraid I was away for EMIN's thread but I know that I find these words from a book by Thornton Wilder comforting both in facing death and dealing with grief

?But soon we shall die and all memory of those five will have left the earth, and we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten. But the love will have been enough; all those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.?

Daughter of EMIN - so sorry to hear your news. I dint know your Mum and only saw a few of her posts but in those words she came over as a funny, loving and maybe slightly eccentric wonderful person.

My Dad died of cancer and was at home when he died with all of us with him (I have 3 sisters) and it may sound mad but it was a very close and loving time.

Wishing you all strength and light

Not been on all weekend as fighting youngest son for the laptop. Am going to have to treat myself to an IPAD I think - to help me get through all this !

Gig, have you had a look at a miniature schnauzer ? A friend has two and they are lovely, non shedding, very cuddly, and prefect size. Do keep their eyebrows well trimmed though !

I have a lovely week off before chemo starts. Went to LEGOLAND with friends yesterday, today is induction at 9 year olds new school today. Also going to start the great bedroom move round this week as want my bedroom to look good for reclining in and receiving guests.

Morning all.

Foofoo- IPad is way forward . I rarely use laptop now. It's god for watching films, iplayer, books (use Kindle app) and papers/mags. It is a must for hospital waits and stays. So go for it .

Bib gig has her induction this afternoon too. Not back til Thursday tho. An excuse to get out from builders tho as they were bashing and very noisy yesterday.

Schnauzers are good idea - will add to list. They are definitely of right size and always seem lovely dogs.

morning all. DS back to school today so up bright and early as he gets the bus at 7:15am. DD back tomorrow (same bus).

I still didn't sleep well and finally gave up about 5am - still can chill most of the day as only have a bit of work to do.

Woke up thinking of Emin hope she and her family had a peaceful pain free night

I have my LGFB session this morning. I'm not sure if I'm looking forward to it or dreading it, probably both
Hope big gigs gets on ok, my best friends dd started school yesterday she was fine my friend was in bits !
Kitkat get some rest today sorry you didn't sleep well
Love to all x x

malt: LGFB - is that look good feel better ??? What is it ??

Hi foo foo yes it's look good feel better, it's a session for anyone with cancer think they teach you about skin care and make up. Like how to draw eyebrows in and stuff. I'll let you know when I get back. Apparently you get good freebies !

have fun malt !
Today I need to work,no swimming.
Hope school inductions go well- T has college induction day on Friday

Hi all

Thank you so much for all the positive words. Particularly about the GA! Sounds like some of you really enjoy a GA I suppose a nice relaxing few hours sleep, can't be bad!

My parents came up yesterday, so we have today to do something fun?? Well try to take my mind off things at least!

malt I hope you have a great time.

Hope everyone else has a good day.

Sending love to Emin and all her family. I didn't know Emin but going on what others have said, and what I have read. She sounds like an amazing woman. She will always be in the hearts and memories of people around her. Xxxxxx

Ooh lgfb will be good malt.

Kitkat - boo about disturbed night but hope you have restful day.

DS2 has just gone off for his regular leukaemia blood test and I've asked him to bring back the results this time: "Oh Mum the doctor says I'm doing fine ...". He copes by taking his tablet and getting on with life but aged parents can't help but worry - and most CML patients monitor their results carefully and some even have an app to do it.
I'm only now getting up - yesterday was worst day in chemo cycle so it can only be better from now on ... Until the next time!

Daughter of EMIM - you are all in my thoughts and prayers. EMIN was a great support to me when I was first diagnosed, we will not forget her :)

to everyone else, as I've been well and truly hit by the taxotere bus. Will catch up later

DaughterofEMIN

I just wanted to add my thanks for your update, and my loving wishes for EMIN and you, her family. She has been a good friend to so many here on MN, and she is a wonderful woman - but you know that. I am so glad she could be at home with you, where there is clearly so much love for her. I wish her a peaceful and pain-free death, and much comfort and love to you all in the coming days and weeks.

I will light a candle for her now. x

To everyone else - I am sorry that i am not posting here at all at the moment - just came back to pay my respects and send my love to a wonderful, caring and funny woman and her family. On a day to day basis I am really, really busy, in a good way, and I can't keep up, so feel it's inappropriate to just helicopter in, and then out again. But I lurk occasionally to make sure you are all doing OK. Much love to you all. x

waves to sometimes ! always fab to see you x

And you! Mwah!!! xx

Sits in Tax corner with Betsy ... But we'll soon be out of it!
Reckon chemo seems like having recurrent flu ... Only 4 more to go (yuk).

Hi sometimes.

Chemo is like flu crossed with first trimester pregnancy symptoms. The only small comfort was that there was some predictability on good/bad days so easier to plan round .

Forgotten how bloody noisy builders are and cleaner here so no peace today .