***Tamoxigang - thread number 40!***

[GoodbyeRubyTuesday]

Hello all! New thread as we have almost filled the last one. Help yourself to chocolate chip muffins from the trolley! :)

Lily - happy birthday to ds2. Hope the conversation goes all right. Will be thinking of you.

Malt - how are you doing today. Don't let anyone tell you AD are a sign of weakness, they are actually a sign of great strength, and they can make all the difference. I always sue the diabetes analogy. They wouldn't tell some with diabetes that it was weak to have to take insulin, depression is no different, it too is a chemical imbalance.

Kitkat - good luck today.

Kurri - how is the bite?

Ds is ok, his pain levels are high, and we have to hire a wheelchair if we are going out anywhere. Having said that he is generally looking quite robust. Have a big splash pool inflated on the terrace (too posh to be a patio) and all the kids are loving spending their days jumping in!

The girls are great. Dd2 is going to start reception in Sept and is so excited about it. She has learnt to read this year (being a bit of a literacy genius ) and is sitting and reading prolifically. Her decoding is so good she picked up Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows the other day, and I caught her reading it curled up in the arm chair. I have swapped it for Stories for parents to read to Five Year Olds instead.....little more appropriate I think!

MAS - having bought it yet, but keep going back to that swim suit link....I love it.

big gig looks v grown up in the picture -hope they have a lovely day !
Bloods done, Waitrose been to (saw parents in there and chatted to a friend) now to clear up and clean a bit. VV Hot here.
Good luck to those having appointments/treatments today - stay cool...

Mas - well done getting the bloods done x

I shall convince onc that I need to swim and then will order (and asome Zoggs goggles too !) sparkle !

am getting v casual about bloods sparkle

Good morning all,

kitkat do you have the Grey's Anatomy boxset? I'm very jealous I'm meant to be working my way through my West Wing boxset but it's quit heavy going! My cousin has also let me Sex and the city so might start that instead. I was catching up on Grey's Anatomy on lovefilm instant but now they've removed it congrats on being nearly halfway. When I got there I was singing Bon Jovi, woooooahhhh we're halfway there!

gigs grr at knee. Sounds like you've got a busy day. Hope all the appointments go well. And I hope big gig has a fun day out!

jchoc hope the sofa covers have come up nice and white! We have a white sofa too, was good until my mum's friend spilled red wine on it!

lily happy birthday to DS2 :) will DH tell DS1 at the same time?

malt enjoy friend's visit :)

I'm off to my first Macmillan exercise class this afternoon. I have an appointment with the physio type person beforehand and then the class runs for an hour. I'm quite nervous as I'm not sure I can handle a whole hour of exercise! Plus I have no idea what the format is or anything. Oh and I expect I'll have to run out to the loo several times but it's all part of getting fitter and healthier again

Ruby hope the exercise class goes well its bound to be a bit daunting if you don't know what to expect but I'm sure you won't have to be doing vigorous exercise for an hour !
Mas do you live in waitrose I had a Saturday job there when I was in the 6th form we used to have a lovely brown and mustard uniform
Sparkle your dd sounds very bright I teach reception and can count on 1 hand the number of children I've had start reading fluently and thats in 20 years
Sorry for another question but pâté yes or no ?

Ruby Plan is to tell DS1 and DS2 at about the same time. We decided not to tell them both straight away because we wanted DS2 to enjoy his summer camp after all the problems he had had over the past couple of years since his diagnosis. Also, it is always better to be told face to face. DS1 won't be back in the UK until Christmas, so we shall have to tell him by phone. Difficult for him being 9k miles away and with recent memory of DS2's diagnosis (though DS2 is now bouncing with health due to the wonders of medical science).

Chair cover back on, two seater on line after bit of spot cleaning to move marks from grubby w/m seal. Working up to 3 seater may have to go to laundrette with that, or just hand wash in bath?...
Ruby yay for fitter and healthier. Mas yay for waitrose. Sparkle lovely to hear news of your dcs. terrace and splash pool :)
Ds won't come out of his room and unload dishwasher. I think he is depressed. What should I do?

Pâté fine malt.

Have dumped big gig , done first two appointment . Now having luxurious lunch at greek restaurant with a book before some shopping. Am very Defo a lady who lunches .

I was told no pate or blue cheese/unpasteurised but have flouted both rules to no ill effect. And yogurt- (pro biotic live) which I really love.
It must seem as though i live in Waitrose....
Greek restaurant -am v envious gig - I could eat some grilled halloumi right now

malt pate is on the "avoid" list my unit gave me - it's essentially the same as the pregnancy "avoid" list -

mould-ripened cheeses, blue-veined cheeses, unpasturised cheese/milk, undercooked eggs, anything containing raw eggs (some mayo, ice cream etc), pate, raw/under cooked meat/fish, shell fish, probiotic/live yoghurt.

That is list that get given but my dietitian (approved by oncologist) was bit more common sense. I think you have to be most careful when on low immunity times but even then some of the advice like no raw fruit or veg was bit extreme .

Seems a bit of a grey area, had scrambled egg anyway though bet not as nice as gigs posh lunch
Jchoc can you lure him out with something other than the dishwasher ?

It races along here, I can't keep up but great that kitkat is half way through, can't believe how well it is going. I was far from the only one struggling with weird freaky blood on our regime.

ruby i am sure the Macmillan class will be designed to ease you in, and they will be used to people rushing in and out, not like the nazis who usually run those classes in gyms. Being dyslexic I have to avoid any that require you to know your left from your right, or indeed full control of your body, for fear of withering looks Be gentle with yourself at the start. I am sure it feels good to be getting started on getting fitter and healthier.

picture we are all with you on the head tilters.

gigs kalimera, enjoy your Greek idyll. (I am also fluent in the language of gods own Tesco )

jchoc you sound very busy. I think I might be hiding in my room for fear of being given a job! Sorry I missed that you had lost a friend, sorry, it's a bugger, that is for sure. Are you worried about your DS beyond an allergy to chores? It can be tough for them growing up these days, so many different sources of stress. I do ban all screens from time to time and make them play with the dog or whatever, do some simple stuff.

malt are your family scientologists? I think you would be doing them a favour if you did help reeducate them about ADs, after all none of us can say we won't experience mental illness (anymore than anyone can say they won't get BC) and won't need more than just help getting coping with a temporary trauma, which is all you would be seeking. It is complacent to say it is something that only happens to other people. What sparkle said is so true.

KK how's the bite? Might some orange help? I have loads, because we shop at Waitrose

MAS go for it

Sparkle how lovely for your Dd to be enjoying being curled up with a book. Little Copt didn't grow out of HP induced nightmares until she was about 14 so I think you are right to replace with tales for 5 year olds.

Aagh I am sure I have missed lots, little snippets emerge from the fog of my short term memory for ages after I post. I am sorry for always being so scatty but hugs to all who need it

Pants weather here topsy

Tzatziki, Aubergine dip, slow cooked beans and flat bread. Now waiting on iced coffee and baklava.

If you hear a distant wailing sound shortly that will be my credit Cards in the shops

at brave MAS taking blood tests in her stride.

malt- I too am a teacher, my other dc are very able, so but so far dd2 blows them out of the water in reading. Mind you ds knew all his times table by first term in Yr 1, forwards and backwards. He does them as divisions for fun now.

Ds has done d/w.in a crashy sort of way and refused poached eggs for lunch that rest of us had. Its not just chores allergy, it is a year since he crashed out of uni. Dh doesn't like to push him :( Cat has jumped straight back on armchair clean covers 1 minute after reassembly. . Spot cleaned in bath then shoved 3 seater cover in machine to see if it would work. Not much room for water. Dds have gone to leeds for the afternoon. So much for day off...
Mrnextdoor (81)was standing on roof of his shed earlier, yikes. Lovely and hot here breadmaker is on and now to make a cake. Bought sympathy card for friends whose dad/ fil/ grandad died. All the cards are funeral flowers and rather sickly. Want to put something appropriate in it may just make a cake for their dcs. Sorru for ramble. Hope smee is enjoying sun in shed now...

S'not bloody pants weather here .
Peeing down for 2nd day in a row !
So much for it being August ...

I am sure the fine weather will reach you soon. Fingers crossed anyway.

jchoc sounds like he needs to find a purpose / his thing. Can you get him to seek some help?

Although sadly the big bad world at the moment makes it hard for them to fulfil their purpose / thing even if they find it. A lot of my friends have DCs now out of uni kicking their heels or in any old job and getting fed up and frustrated

I'm back - 3rd cycle done. Just one wierd thing and that is that my glucose was sky high (and was before 2nd cycle too) - but normal before chemo started. So onc has removed the anti-sickness meds that had steroid in them so i have to cope with just 3 different meds this time (I did still get the steroids in the drip today). Anyway he wittered on diabetes but the nurse said it would be a big co-incidence to develop diabetes straight after 1st chemo and it was probably the steroids so not to panic (no other symptoms). May need to be re-checked once everything is complete.

Have whizzed through everyone's posts but will need to re-read when less zapped - sorry.

Well done kitkat halfway there! glucose thing sounds weird, hope it's just the steroids nothing troublesome, and I hope you get on okay without them! :)

Exercise class was good, not too easy so didn't feel like a waste of time, but not so difficult I couldn't do it. I think I will ache tomorrow though as far more than I've been doing recently! It was a circuit class so lots of variety and not too much pressure as everyone is busy doing their own thing :) several from my HOPE course were there and also a lovely lady I met in hospital after surgery 2 and also bumped into a few times since.

I've got a Macmillan Move More pack thingy including an activity diary and stickers I think I will use it as it will really help motivate me, especially when I can earn a sticker every time I complete a goal I think you can get the pack posted to you from their website if anyone else fancies it.

jchoc :( about DS, are any of his friends back from uni for the summer or anything? Obviously you don't want to push him to hard but a bit of a nudge might help :) it's tricky though!