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DH burnt the inside of his throat and is gagging

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 08:47

DH gets oesophageal spasm sometimes when he eats - lumps of food get stuck and are to shift. Happened yesterday lunchtime with a too-hot microwaved baked potato. Instant agony, coughing and retching. His breathing through his nose seems to be OK.

He says it's swollen up inside and keeps gagging. He's still in pain and says he is salivating lots. He refuses to see the doctor.

Should I just let him get on with it, or should I nag him incessantly until he does go and see the doctor?

TIA for any thoughts!

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Elibean · 07/05/2013 09:42

I would nag, personally, whilst offering tiny sips of ice water....

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 09:53

Thanks. Will continue to nag. His voice has gone all funny. Still can breathe OK and doesn't have any problems swallowing. It's going to be a hard nag though. He's refusing and shouting at me (as best he can under the circumstances).

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TanteRose · 07/05/2013 09:54

nag him to go to the docs

sounds serious

why on earth would he not get it seen to? Confused

TanteRose · 07/05/2013 09:55

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sheesh, if he's shouting at you, then let the bugger suffer

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 09:59

Tante - Grin

He says he hasn't got time (although the no time argument didn't apply yesterday when I suggested it).
Says they won't do anything.

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Leverette · 07/05/2013 10:39

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Badvoc · 07/05/2013 10:55

Look, he needs to be seen.
He is being an idiot.
A and e.
Now.

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 10:56

Thanks Leverette. Have passed on what you have said. Will continue to do my best.

TBH I am sick of having to nag him about every single health problem he has (some of these are not trivial) and trying (and usually failing) to get him to seek help, and then getting shouted at for not letting it go.

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Badvoc · 07/05/2013 10:57

If his voice has gone funny it could mean he has aspirated some of the food.
That is serious.

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 11:00

It's a strange tone and pitch of voice, rather than not being able to speak, IYSWIM. And it developed this morning when he woke up. Yesterday after the incident his voice was just a bit hoarse.

I agree. Idiot. He says he'll just sit in A&E for hours and hours. Might be true, but he can take his laptop with him.

With health, as with most other things, he is so stubborn and impossible to shift. In matters of health, as in many other things, it just makes me want to scream.

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Badvoc · 07/05/2013 11:03

Not at this time of day he won't.
Better now than 1am surely?

Badvoc · 07/05/2013 11:04

Sorry btw, I don't mean to get at you but men who take no responsibility for their own health infuriate me!
(My father for one who also suffers from this)

Iteotwawki · 07/05/2013 11:08

If his voice has changed it's possible the swelling from the burn has affected the nerves which supply his vocal cords. Any burn in the throat needs an airway assessment - bugger swallowing, if his cords get stuck "closed" then he won't be able to breathe. I tube all serious throat burns, give them 24h steroids and wake them up when the swelling has settled.

He. Needs. A&E.

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 11:09

Yes - I HATE IT HATE IT HATE IT HATE IT!!!!!!

(I know you're not getting at me Smile.)

Just had another 'discussion' with him and nothing doing. Am making him some salt water gargle, to try and keep his throat clean. And if it stings a bit when he uses it, at the moment that feels like an added bonus!

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Badvoc · 07/05/2013 11:13

If it gets worse they won't be able to tube him.
Dies he fancy a trach?

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 11:17

I know, I know, I know, I know. Have told him ALL the advice posted. Got told off for 'Mumsnetting'.

He refuses point blank. I can't make him go. Nothing doing. I don't know why I bother wasting my breath Sad.

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 11:20

BTW - thank you everyone. I really appreciate it.

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Badvoc · 07/05/2013 11:24

Hope you don't take this the wrong way, but is there anyone he will listen to?
Get them on board?

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 11:25

No, not really. He usually thinks he knows better than most people, including friends/family.

Good idea though - and not taken the wrong way!

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ElephantsTeaParty · 07/05/2013 11:27

Could you call an ambulance and see if the paramedics can persuade him to go?

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cardamomginger · 07/05/2013 11:31

That had crossed my mind Elephants. Thought I'd wait until it was demonstrably worse though.

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Badvoc · 07/05/2013 11:32

Imguess that would be my next suggestion.
Just phone for the paramedics and see if they can talk sense into him!

ElephantsTeaParty · 07/05/2013 16:13

Any news?