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Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

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Rhubarb · 24/04/2006 12:43

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

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themoon66 · 28/04/2006 09:45

Sickandtired. Yes, headaches, and sleeping very badly. I came sooooo close to a drink last night, but cleaned my teeth instead and played with DS's gameboy. That is now THREE whole nights without alcohol, but today is Friday, when I do my big shop at morrisons after work. I bet there are some good wine offers on.

themoon66 · 28/04/2006 09:47

And it's my best mate's birthday this weekend and she is having 'early doors' at Witherspoons starting Saturday lunchtime (she is a worse old soak than even me!)

SoftStuff · 28/04/2006 09:49

Very bad dreams, yes. Not last night tho but only as I was trollied. I think i'm still drunk..

I only planned to have 1 or 2.

tyedye · 28/04/2006 10:02

Morning moony,welcome shewhoneverdusts!love your alias,what is dust anyway?GrinI am still drinking but reducing.I discovered valerian tincture yesterday,i drink out of habit but also to quell anxiety.Yes its still alcohol but 20 drops in orange juice and i didnt even feel homicidal in morrisons!Shockso didnt start as early as normal,stopped after 2 glasses,engrossed in "The Street" on telly.well done all you athletes,london marathon next year,a mumsnet team perhaps?

tyedye · 28/04/2006 10:03

Softstuff,hang in there girl,youre still here after all !xx

dinosaure · 28/04/2006 10:06

Oh softstuff, don't be hard on yourself, please. Sad

butty · 28/04/2006 10:19

Hi and well done to all who managed to cut down or go without last night.

I actually stayed in for a change!!!!

Well it is now the start of the weekend, and i am so determined not to go out, have had 2 invites from the regulars, but havn't quite made my mind up yet. Tonight will be the only chance i get to go out of the whole weekendBlush

Had a bad start to the day yet again with dd, she is such a pain in the rear it is unbelievable!!!!!!!, i'm just hoping that she can behave after school as i have her twin friends coming for tea, and i have promised will take them all to maccie d's as a treat, or more to the point, i cant be arsed cooking as they are very picky with their foodGrin

I know i cant go out 2morrow night as dd's cousins are sleeping over, and sunday night is a no no, as we are out in the lakes for the day on monday!!!!

Anything decent that you can recommend on the box tonight????

So not used to watching friday night TV, and on the slim occassions that i do stay in, there is naf all on!!!!!!!!!!!!

Butty.xxx

tyedye · 28/04/2006 10:37

I havent been to the pub for nearly six years!Sad

themoon66 · 28/04/2006 10:40

tyedye - pubs are too expensive when you drink as much as I do!

tyedye · 28/04/2006 10:43

I used to get bought alot,but i well past my sell by date now,unless i ask for a sweet sherry!Grin I used to work in a pub,paying for it wasnt my department.

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Rhubarb · 28/04/2006 10:43

I did a bit of research and it does say that drinking every day is worse than just drinking at the weekend. So for those who can't go cold turkey, can you manage to just drink say, Fri and Sat and not during the rest of the week?

When you do drink this weekend, remember to have a glass of water for every alcoholic drink, it'll rehydrate you and slow you down. Also take your time, don't rush. Get absorbed in a book or have a nice long bath so that you are not just constantly drinking. See if you can halve what you normally would drink this weekend.

I've had 4 nights off the booze and tonight I'll have that Guinness. It's got iron in it so it is good for me!!!

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tyedye · 28/04/2006 10:45

I cant imagine the misery of life sober,how effing crap is that.

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Rhubarb · 28/04/2006 10:49

But you don't have to spend your life sober. You can still drink and have a good time, you just need to teach yourself when to stop. It's about regaining control of the booze.

I read about a book a week, it stops me from drinking during the week and it gives my life new meaning, I lose myself in them, it's my escape. If I have a good book, it's in my head when I go to bed at night and I don't want to put it down until it's finished. For a while, alcohol is forgotten!
Nice long baths also help you relax without resorting to booze.
If you control it rather than the other way round, you will enjoy it a lot more, it won't have the depressive effect that it does have when you have no control.

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butty · 28/04/2006 10:59

Rhubarb,

sorry to interupt, but actually, it is a proven point that drinking everynight is in fact actually better than binge drinking 2 or 3 times a week.

If you go out like i do 2 or 3 times a week, and then consume the amount of alchol in one night of which i do, then repeat it again in the same week, you are infact abliterating your liver with such a large alcohol comsumption, then laying off it for maybe 24 - 72 hours, and then doing the same again, that the liver can't cope with releasing the toxins in the normal way as very irregular.

I only know this as watched the docu's last year about binge drinking and the effects it has.

Butty.xxx

tyedye · 28/04/2006 11:00

When you are chemically dependant on alcohol,as they now term it,you cannot stop,alcoholism is largely characterised by a loss of control of your drinking and is a progressive disease,many of you on here know you drink too much,i and one or two others are painfully aware,that we are further down the road than that.we cannot stop,and hope to drink just a little,i have to STOP,permanently.My family is peppered with alcoholics,i know i need help.I have been able to control it before,those days are a long way behind me.You are a sweetie rhuby,i cant read,i used to,like you do but my dp resents my attention being away from him,im supposed to watch his programs and drink with him.

butty · 28/04/2006 11:02

PS, not saying that everyone on here binge drinks like myself, but if you were to lay off it during the week, and then drink at the weekend, you are more than likely to drink double what you normally would in one or two nights.

themoon66 · 28/04/2006 11:03

Rhubarb, I understand what you're saying, but I feel like tyedye does - unable to imagine life forever sober. I've been out with mates and stuff where I've had to drive home, so couldnt drink, and everyone has been asking me all night why I look so bloody miserable. Its a long night when all around you are drinking and you are not!

kokeshi · 28/04/2006 11:04

lol@ tyedye! Actually, it's not that bad...it really depends on how happy you are with your life at the moment. If drink is a sticking plaster, enabling you to muddle through then the next step is for you to decide.

I agree, it is effing miserable of you are just "dry", we often find we are drinking for a reason/reasons, to make life manageable. If what you get form alcohol outweighs the cons of giving it up, then by all means keep going.

Stopping drinking completely requires a bit of a shift, and in that a willingness to maybe venture into areas you would rather not. I can't say that it's easy, but for me seeking help and admitting I had a problem has lead to a life I never thought imaginable. This is only my experience...not the same for everyone! Again, whatever stage you're at you have to figure out what's right for you. Hugs to all xxx

butty · 28/04/2006 11:08

Moon,

you are deffo right with that one!!!!!!!!

I so wish that i could go to the pub and not drink, but it is impossible for me to do that.

I did take the car one night, and after 1 hour without a drink, i got the car, parked it at my work, and then drank for the rest of the nightSad

It's so hard to fit in when everyone around you is having a larf and being stupid from the effect of a few beers, and some of it that supid, i would only get it when drunkSad

I feel that when i am out and after a few drinks, i am so much more capable of being the person i once used to be, before the kids, it's pathetic i know, but a drink helps me to be that crazy chick who doesn't give a damn and just lets rip on the dancefloor!!!!!!!

Butty.xxx

themoon66 · 28/04/2006 11:13

Butty - I'm known as the life and soul of the party and even my mates hate me coming out with them if they know I have to drive home. They even club together for a taxi for me. I must be very entertaining when pissed. Trouble is I get so bad I have to be carried out of Witherspoons and physically put in taxi, and when someone opens the door at the other end, I literally fall out into the gutter. VERY shaming.

tyedye · 28/04/2006 11:13

Butty,it would be such a disaster if i went clubbing now,i am a nutter,first on the dancefloor,stagediving at festivals etc,i know what you mean all too well about regaining a bit of youth back,but i musnt go back to that,that would be the end.xx

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Rhubarb · 28/04/2006 11:16

Blimey no! I wasn't suggesting binge drinking, which is why I was going on about drinking water too! What I meant was, if you drink a lot every day, not just one or two drinks. I was suggesting that people stop drinking during the week and halve their drinking consumption at the weekend. If they can manage that.

Tyedye, your dp sounds very unsupportive and very controlling. It will be impossible to curb your drinking whilst he is like that! Does he know how you feel? Why can't you sit next to him and read a book instead of watching his programmes? He sounds very controlling!

I could never just stop drinking either. For me it is a social thing, I don't drink on my own. If I went out and didn't drink I'd be as miserable as sin too! It's impossible to watch everyone drinking and having a good time whilst you're just sipping coke!

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tyedye · 28/04/2006 11:16

moony,you made me chuckle,your last post reminded me of abfab,eddy falling into the shrubbery after falling out the taxi,anyone remember?Grin

themoon66 · 28/04/2006 11:17

the trouble with clubbing is that it just extends the night of drinking and I consume even more. Last time I went clubbing I totted my drinks up the next day and figured that i'd had 11 glasses of wine!!! That was on top of the bottle of cava I'd shared with my mate whilst getting our slap on to go out.

tyedye · 28/04/2006 11:19

i could tell you some stories about controlling,but it makes me ill to dwell on it,he knows how rough i feel but because he is ill,he is unable/willing to change.