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**TAMOXIFEN 29**

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MaryAnnSingleton · 26/09/2012 11:16

crikey !

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thegreylady · 09/10/2012 17:00

Got my 6 year check up tomorrow-first one with no mammo.Given how scared a TN dx made me in 2006 I am so grateful to be still ok but I am,as always, nervous about the results.
Hope you are all coping well xx

thegreylady · 09/10/2012 17:01

I do remember I had a pre-op chest xray too.It really is routine.

NedSchneebly · 09/10/2012 17:05

Afternoon all Smile

I gave Jayden the Red Power Ranger for a good run (in the rain unfortunately) to meet my parents for lunch in Ringwood, and he behaved beautifully! Grin

Invicta I am with you on the P&P box set. I'll join you on the sofa for a spot of Colin. . . .

JustFab like topsy said, all checks are for the anaesthetic, not very specific to condition being operated on, iyswim. Heart, lungs, weight, height, feel of your belly, questions about how independent you are at home, can you normally walk up stairs etc, what support you've got at home etc. I didn't have a chest xray, so it might depend on the hospital policy. I only saw one nurse for the whole thing. Go with the flow, and it'll soon be over - one more thing to tick off.

kurri bet you did brilliantly in your lesson - don't put yourself down! I'm sure it wasn't easy if you've had the rain that we've had. Take it easy x

MAS how are your feet today? Thinking of you x x

Waves to all - must eat something and get ready for manic Tuesday evening - guitar lesson, back in house for 15 minutes, then out to choir!

Lots of love to everyone x x x x x

NedSchneebly · 09/10/2012 17:06

X post - waves to greylady - good to see you! Fingers crossed for check up. Please pop by tomorrow and let us know how you get on x

SparkleRainbow · 09/10/2012 17:07

Ahhhh Colin....and P & P!

As you were Grin
PS got the kettle on....anyone?

JustFabulous · 09/10/2012 17:27

Thank you so much for all your advice. If I hadn't known all this and been hit with it I would have been in major panic mode. I have had a hyster-whatsit before but this time I also have biopsy and last time I didn't have an x-ray.
Trying not to stress but tbh I am stressing more about whether I will be able to get to school in time to get the kids than anything else.

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MaryAnnSingleton · 09/10/2012 19:18

Waves to greylady - lots of luck tomorrow and let us know how you get on xxxxx
Glad Jayden did well on his first voyage !

Am very sleepy and had a lie on the sofa with cat- feet are fine though. Walked to town and did a rough for a v interesting commission and started going through the jokes for the joke book.
Looking forward to GBBO and Jewish Mum of the Year

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graciesmall09 · 09/10/2012 20:46

Will be thinking of you tomorrow greylady. Hope your review goes well.

topsy may give BCN a call re: DD. I haven't seen a social worker or been offered one. Sometimes consultant only care is not such a good thing.

Today was the first day I have taken the furball for a good walk in months and I really enjoyed it. No breathlessness although it was all flat walking but I'm hoping that is a good sign for my heart.

Glad the car is driving well ned. Were your parents impressed?

Off to bed soon as early start again for rads. Night all.

JustFabulous · 09/10/2012 20:50

Hope all goes well for you tomorrow greylady.

overthemill · 09/10/2012 21:52

gracie lots of good info here on talking to children
my dd who is 13 is having nightmares which i think is related to me having cancer. she is struggling definitely and i just try to take it piece by piece. poor kids.

just fab good luck with pre op
greylady good luck too

night night everyone else, totally knackered so early night for me!

KurriKurri · 09/10/2012 22:24

Good luck for tomorrow for GreyLady and JustFab - hope all goes well Smile

OTM - sorry to hear your DD has been struggling too, - it is so hard for children. Well it's hard for everyone, so must be even more so for young ones, my DD was 18 when I was DX, and she found it very hard, - still does in many ways even 4 yrs on.

Sleep well all x

Gigondas · 10/10/2012 08:49

Good luck to greylady and justfab

Sorry that gracie and otm dd finding it hard- I have noticed that big gig is more clingy which I think is partly me being in hospital but more that we have had a late jealous reaction to big gig (can't bear it if I talk or pick mini gig up ). Any tips as at the moment I am failing to balance the two of them so its me dealing with big gig and dh/nanny dealkng with mini if they are both together.

Am afraid I failed royally to get rid of painful mum but hoping her coffee visit will be short lived. Am tired but not as bad as have been but I would like some more time to watch tv and snooze .

topsyturner · 10/10/2012 08:58

Good luck for today Grey and Just Fab
Keep us posted !

Gigs can't believe you didn't pull the "I've got Cancer" card with pushy friend !
It's one of the few benefits of all this Grin

Watching GBBO , to be followed by the Pushy Jewish Mum program .
I have Doritos and chocolate mousse .
Anyone care to join me ?

invicta · 10/10/2012 09:10

Good morning everyone!

NedSchneebly · 10/10/2012 09:42

Morning all!

Just a quick pop in to wish greylady and JustFab loads of luck for today - thinking of you both x x x

Have to go in to town to get pressie for my sister in law and new nephew who was born yesterday Smile Why is it that everyone else babies look gorgeous moments after birth? DS looked like a very pink, very pissed off peeling prune. . .

JustFabulous · 10/10/2012 10:41

Thank you for all your good wishes. I am starting to panic a bit now and the stupid thing is it is still about getting the kids from school. DH and I have a plan so they will be picked up by me or him but I am still in a state about it. Maybe focussing on that as I am in denial.

I haven't told the kids anything though when I mentioned to DD that I would be telling Daddy she has misbehaved in case he picks her up she said "why, where will you be?" I can't remember if I said anything but I definitely did not mention the hospital. She really sounded entitled. Like, why would you be anywhere but waiting for me at school Grin.

New symptoms with different breast this morning which brought major panic this morning Blush. Tomorrow is breast clinic.

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MaryAnnSingleton · 10/10/2012 11:00

try to breathe and keep calm fab
Congratulations aunt ned Smile
I watched GBBO (poor danny, I liked her )and the Jewish mum thing - all of them dreadful-the one's who made packet cake for the Bar Mitzvah Shock !

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KurriKurri · 10/10/2012 12:47

Congrats on new nephew Aunty Ned Smile

Good luck fab and Greylady and anyone having rads today.

Also watched GBBo - I liked Dannym she just had a bad day at the office I think because usually she's very good. But I like all of them so would have been sad whoever went.
Jewish mums were hilarious - DD and I are hooked Grin

Off to town to shop for DH's birthday tomorrow (I have his main present, just want to get card and a few extra bits). DD is doing a cake Smile

thegreylady · 10/10/2012 13:02

NED thank goodness the surgeon was lovely and we talked for a while about why my triple neg had gone so well so far-I actually feel fortunate within the parameters of having bc!
Next year it will be a mammo then check ups with mammo every two years forever.
I asked about a scan but he does not recommend unless there are symptoms.
I havent read back yet but my love and thoughts are with you all xx

graciesmall09 · 10/10/2012 13:39

Great news greylady. Your surgeon sounds lovely as well.

Congrats to Aunty Ned. Bet he is just gorgeous.

Thanks for the link otmI will have a look and sorry your DD is struggling too. It is awfully hard for little ones.

Hope your pre-op appointment goes well just fab and hope breast clinic appointment goes well tomorrow.

Hope everyone having a good day.

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MaryAnnSingleton · 10/10/2012 13:52

brilliant news greylady and am hoping you can relax and feel reassured Smile x

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MaryAnnSingleton · 10/10/2012 15:06

Am googling stuff like a mad thing as I have got it into my head that my lung mets are something else and not cancer- have emailed my bcn to tell her that I'm thinking this (have already asked her twice before if they're sure an haven't made a mistake) Do you think this is a normal (!) reaction. OCD does make me crave certainty about things. When I was pregnant I couldn't really believe I was for quite a long time.

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JustFabulous · 10/10/2012 15:07

Thanks again everyone for all your advice about what would happen today.

I was there nearly 2 hours and I had to have blood tests and an ECG. Without your prewarnings I would have freaked out more than I did.

Home now with a very sore arm and hand, finding it very difficult to lift it up as it hurts every time.

Have to go and get the children in a few minutes. Really want to just curl up in bed.

amberlight · 10/10/2012 15:26

MAS, I think that's a perfectly understandable thing to keep thinking/hoping for.

topsyturner · 10/10/2012 15:31

Mas perfectly normal .
Especially when I was told by the Onc that the only way to know if lung spots are definitely cancer , is to biopsy them .
She said if they respond to chemo , then they were probably cancer .
But that if they didn't respond to chemo , then that doesn't mean they weren't cancer !!!

Can I ask what you are thinking they might be ?