Thank you all, and hugs to all who have lost siblings - and to Elibean for popping in - how kind you are 
MAS - could I ask you to PM me the title of that book?, it sounds interesting. And special hugs for you, I hope I didn't upset you talking about my brother 
Lime - I hope DS2 gets some sun for his birthday, could the children all come armed with cagoules and run about outside regardless? I honestly think summer is now basically August and September if we are lucky. Its probably rose titnet spectacles, but I'm sure the summers of my youth started in May and lasted for months 
topsy you won't know what to do with yourselves when your DD is away - but I bet she'll have a great time, nothing beats the seaside for fun 