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***TAMOXIFEN number 19***

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MaryAnnSingleton · 31/01/2012 16:41

ta daa !

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holstenlips · 20/02/2012 19:27

You sound very brave to me Ned, well done for getting through it. Have a good rest.

KurriKurri · 20/02/2012 19:33

Thank you for posting Pennies, - have been feeling so sad since I heard about Wubbly, and my heart goes out to her husband and little boy Sad

well done Ned, - first one out of the way, - don't worry about the wibble, it is a hard thing to go through physically and emotionally - the enormity of it can really hit home. Take it easy, and just play it all by ear for this cycle, - expect some grotty moments, but try to enjoy the feeling better times too Smile

topsy - it sounds as if you are doing well, and they are keeping things closely monitored, well done for getting though today Smile

Holsten - I had three or four sessions of one to one counselling before I started my chemo, which I found very helpful - I can give more details if you'd like, or if there's anything specific you wanted to know about.

Sparkle - I'm glad they are organising things for DS's feet - poor chap, he does go through it doesn't he? Horrid to have sore feet Sad

Waving to Figgy, hope you are feeling good today Smile

Hope you get on Ok at doc's Gig.

KurriKurri · 20/02/2012 19:42

MAS - that Larkin poem is lovely, - remember if you do decide to do it, that no one expects people to read things perfectly at funerals, and there will always be someone who will take over if you become too emotional.

If you do decide to do it, I know it will come from your heart xx

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MaryAnnSingleton · 20/02/2012 19:58

thank you kk Smile I shall have a think !
Shall we have a day of candles and thoughts for Wubbly tomorrow ? Real or virtual candles and kind thoughts to her dh and son.

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KurriKurri · 20/02/2012 20:10

I think that's a lovely idea MAS, - time for some quiet reflection.

LimeJellyforBrains · 20/02/2012 20:18

Well done. First one out of the way. It is very emotional, seeing that first one go in, and so sorry about the messing about. Bear in mind that your brain may not be much more in gear tomorrow - it's called chemobrain and covers a multitude of sins! I used to come on here and waffle on no end Smile

Shall be lighting a candle for Wubbly tomorrow. What a lovely and loving family they sound. Best and warmest thoughts for her dh and their son.

OneInEight · 20/02/2012 20:39

Just checking in briefly to see if Ned survived her chemo. I had my tears in the carpark before going in for the first one - the next ones are honestly not so terrifying. I expect I will never be able to have any red liquid ever after the treatment. Mine seemed to take forever today but got released at 5. Off to top up my anti-nausea pills now - don't care if it is too early. Take care everyone.

holstenlips · 20/02/2012 21:16

Feel better soon Onein8.
I'm sorry to hear about Wubbly, although I didn't know her. Will def light a candle tomorrow.
Gig, hope all ok at the hosp tonight.
Thanks KK, re the counselling, don't really know what to expect, I suppose just go and see what happens.
Peaceful night everyone.

amberlight · 20/02/2012 21:19

Ned, hugs. One down.
Oneineight...blimey, that was a long time...
Brew for both of you...and the rest of you too

Gigondas · 20/02/2012 21:25

Ned well done for being so brave. Have been thinking of you.

Dr took ages but glad I went as wound cleaned dressed and got anti bios and could ask questions about various aches/pains (have some sore bits and some numb bits).

Mas I think the candle day is an excellent idea.

sandripples · 20/02/2012 22:00

Just saying hello and thank-you for posting about Wubbly - so sad.

Hi to Pennies- I do hope you're keeping well.

And bon courage to all those having active treatment - I remember that big red stuff so well- you'll get through.

xx

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MaryAnnSingleton · 20/02/2012 22:27

well done to oneineight and Gigondas for their respective treatments today= hope everyone sleeps well.

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MaryAnnSingleton · 21/02/2012 07:23

Virtual candle lit for Wubbly today- am in and out so this seems sensible- and sending my thoughts to her family.

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holstenlips · 21/02/2012 07:33

Candle for Wubbly lit. Thoughts with her family.

Gigondas · 21/02/2012 07:44

Lighting my candle here too

topsyturner · 21/02/2012 07:48

Lighting my candle for Wubbly today .
Her DH wrote such a beautiful post about her last days and her passing .
On a selfish level Wubblys dream/vision made me feel very very peaceful .

Hope everyone is feeling well today .
And hope the chemo girls got through the night ok .
Remember if it makes you sick , phone for help . There are more meds you can have !

Be kind to yourselves today Ladies , we all deserve a little kindness in our lives x

amberlight · 21/02/2012 09:25

Thoughts and prayers for Wubbly here too

Sometimesiwonder · 21/02/2012 09:36

candle being lit her for wubbly and her family. I have fond memories of her, and I found her husband's post very moving.

RIP wubbly x Thanks

Ned and everyone else with treatments yesterday - well done for coming through: it's another step on the journey to health. Take it steady today. That first chemo is hard, Ned - the next one won't be nearly so scary. Remember to keep drinking lots.

Sparkles, your poor ds and his feet. I am glad he has a rapid appointment. and hope that they get something sorted fast for him.

MAS - I am sure you would make a lovely job of reading the poem. But don't do it if it is too much of a worry: you want to be able to spend the time reflecting on someone you have known, not worrying about your part in the service. x

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MaryAnnSingleton · 21/02/2012 09:38

wise words topsy

My dad says he'd like to say a few words about Patience at the funeral,so he may do that and read the poem,rather than a kerfuffle with us both going up and back..it's such a lovely poem but I think quite hard to read well-in a flowing way.I feel quite torn between wanting to do it and feeling a bit relieved if I don't - gah ! I know dad will say some lovely things about her (truly she has been in our lives,and her family all through ours) and he has a lovely speaking voice so would do the poem justice (I sound like a girl- I cringe !)

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Sometimesiwonder · 21/02/2012 09:56

I imagine that's only in your own head MAS. But if your Dad is happy to do it, it's a good solution.

Gigondas · 21/02/2012 10:09

I think I need some FBs. Feeling tired and low prob not helped by marathon trip to dr (flashback to getting original dx but assume that is quite normal when you go back to hospital ) then good/bad night - good is dd2 slept from 10-5 Grin , bad is that involved me having her next to me in bed (as wouldnt go in Moses basket) so crap night sleep for me (dh happy tho). Also am getting anxious about oncology appt next week already .

Chocolate got to help though

Sometimesiwonder · 21/02/2012 10:14

Having such a littley at this time makes it extra tough, Gig.

FBSs are made for a time such as this. I really am trying to give up for Lent, so before it starts, I am slinging chocolate covered brandy snaps onto the trolley, if anyone is interested [sidesteps stampede]

Gigondas · 21/02/2012 10:23

Sometimes that's very true- i felt hit by a truck physically/emotionally with dd1 (and didn't have a c section) so I suppose no shock that there are days like today when have no physical/emotional energy left.

But alcohol and chocolate based snacks would help.

holstenlips · 21/02/2012 10:24

Watch out sometimes, I'm coming through to grab some brandy snaps..will drop some lindt bunnies on for Gig too. And some hand holding if you need it. Entirely understandable to be feeling low, knackered and worried. We all 'get' it.

KurriKurri · 21/02/2012 10:34

I've lit my candle too.

Good night Wendy, - sleep gently Thanks

And hugs to all the girls on this thread, - I don't say it enough, you all mean so much to me xx