Thanks for the encouraging words, I hope it turns up, if not the PO will only compensate us £40 and it's worth more than that. I think she needs to chase it up with the PO and check it hasn't been put in a shed or something.
Dad is a bit brighter today, he's looking at TV, and eating reasonably well (mostly soup and yogurt still) he can't walk though and they seem to think he'll be there a long time.
Mum says the staff at the hospital are treating her like a half wit because she's old - she asked what a drug was they were giving him, and was patted on the shoulder and told 'something that will stop him having strokes dear' - she has a science degree, and a big fat book of all the drugs because she likes to look it all up and check for S/Es etc. 
Plus she says he gets cold and no one checks on him - she gets there and he's freezing, but no one has felt his hands or feet and given him an extra blanket, or put a jumper on him. She says they'll give you blankets if you ask, but he can't ask 
Hope everyone has had a nice Saturday, - hope you are feeling better amber, and the nose bleed has stopped.