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**t*a*m*o*x*i*f*e*n** number 14

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MaryAnnSingleton · 05/10/2011 18:19

here we go !

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amberlight · 07/10/2011 18:14

Earth, Happy Birthday from me too! Thanks

Hi everyone!

Pink, eek re DS! Have that kip.

I was 47 when diagnosed.

Just back from hospital where an earnest young male Doctor has spent half hour ultrasounding my heart. He says I'm fit enough to have herceptin. Jolly good.

SparkleRainbow · 07/10/2011 18:23

Hope you have garbbed that settee and are having a well deserved kip pink.

Happy birthady Earth Thanks and Wine for later....mn really needs to do something about the lack of a cake emoticon!!!! I will put in a request. Smile

Forpitysake I saw your thread, and I am so glad you have come over.... I was 38 when my lump was found, and then removed 2 days before my 39th birthday...which reminds me ladies, as I shall not be having a party to celebrate my 40th..... I hope you will join me in a virtual one in January. Smile My lump truned out to be precancerous forpity, so there is always hope, more hope and lots of hope....no matter what the dx.

Thinkinf of you Smee, and missing you Kurri

topsyturner · 07/10/2011 18:48

Happy Birthday earth , hope you are having a great day < sniffs around for cake >
Glad you have made your decision treatment wise , and even happier that your medics are being supportive .

forpitysake - I have just turned 42 on Wednesday (eeek) and first saw my gp for my lump on Good Friday , seen at hospital withing 3 weeks , mastectomy and lymph node clearance on 2nd of June .
Now only got 1 more round of chemo to go , then it's 3 monthly scans to see if anything else has grown . (my case slightly diff to some of our other ladies as I have lung secondaries , but we are not letting that defeat us !)

Have been very sleepy this week , went back to bed yesterday and spent the afternoon on the sofa today .
Think DH is getting a bit pissed off with me .
He keeps coming home from work and doing "angry tidying" .
Today , even though I have been tired , I still managed to do a load of washing , a load of dyring , hoovered all floors downstairs , washed all floors downstairs , did dishes , changed our kingsize bed .
But I think he was pissed off that I didn't have dinner waiting when he got home .
Ah well , he will just have to suck it up that he is on dinner duty tonight !

amberlight · 07/10/2011 19:05

topsy, grr re attitude of your dh. He should try going through this lot and seeing how he'd feel if you came home and expected dinner on the table.

Figgyroll · 07/10/2011 19:08

Happy belated birthday wishes, Earth. I hope you're having a lovely day. Well done on choosing your treatment plan, it must be a relief for you now you've made up your mind. Thanks and Wine for you.

MAS, I'm so glad you got your first injection out of the way. Poor old Smog, he must be wondering what's going on.

Pink, have that kip on the sofa, you'll feel the better for it. I'm with you about choosing your battles carefully while you're doing radiotherapy. Save your energy for the important things. I had a little snooze today, have had most days and don't feel at all guilty which is a new thing for me.

Amber, glad you're heart's healthy and you can go on the herceptin. Must be all that red wine. Grin

Topsy, no wonder you're feeling sleepy but I'm cross on your behalf with DH for his "angry tidying". My DH did that a few times when I was laid up with the sickness and nausea - I suppose the stress of it all gets to them eventually - worried about us and the future as well as looking after things at home. On the other hand though, how the hell do we cope and we're the ones going through it all? I don't go round "angry tidying", just get on with it. Must be a man thing. Mind you, I had to laugh the other day when I "did a Topsy" in the bedroom. Couldn't find a thing to wear that made my chesticle area look normal (still suffering from lopsideness with the softie as the seroma goes up and down) and I left it in a real mess. I had to explain to DH what doing a "Topsy" meant and he laughed too. You're famous. Grin

Rads went okay today until they couldn't decide where the tattoo was on the side of my chest - there is a freckle there too doing a very good impersonation of a tattoo but they've written down the exact location now for future reference. Luckily for me, when I changed into my gown and took my bra off, I found the piece of Hobnob I'd lost earlier while munching on one after lunch. It had stuck to my beautifully soft and moist (aqueous creamed) chesticle area. Goodness know what they'd have made of that. Blush

MaryAnnSingleton · 07/10/2011 20:14

Grin @ figgy's lost hobnob !! Am envious of gown-we had a scrap of paper to cover ourselves with ! Topsy- I always feel I have to justify what I've done each day in case anyone thinks I've been slacking! Today I dusted which is hugely boring and I hate it,did 2 lots of washing but I also finished 2 pictures and successfully injected Smog - much better today. There's a horrid bit where there;s some resistance before the needle goes in which unnerved me .
Is KK back soon ?
Thinking of smee too.
Hope you got your rest pink Smile

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pranma · 07/10/2011 20:42

Oh gosh found out this morning mammo is Wednesday not Monday-two extra days of worrying :(

topsyturner · 07/10/2011 20:48

I do feel horribly guilty as I am not working either .
I suppose he has been spoilt as I worked full time and did 90% of all the household stuff aswell .
But aswell I do feel sorry for him , he has had a lot to cope with over the past 6 months .

Aaaagh , fecking Cancer !

No word from smee yet ? Hope she is doing well .

When does kk get home ?

Anyone got any cake ? Fancy a Lemon Drizzle cake from M&S . They make a delicious one with icing on the top .

Am also Grin at figgys lost hobnob . Thats how I end up with bedtime snacks . When the bra comes off , I get my leftovers Grin

DeeScent · 07/10/2011 22:16

lol at lost hobnob -reminds me of when I lost the door keys in the garden and found them in my knickers which I was wearing

Seen the consultant and am having ultrasound next week to check they can still locate it as it is pretty small and the biopsy will have made it smaller (hooray!).

Felt low yesterday and had a bit of a howl but I think that will have done me good. Still being brave (for my family) and we haven't told our parents yet as they have their own very serious "stuff" going on at the moment.

Saw the GP today who, given a couple of my abdominal symptoms, thought it worthwhile for me to come back and have a blood test for ovarian cancer...

Am not even thinking about it because that is too awful to contemplate. Am believing it is just hiccupping ovaries and nothing more. Will have the test though - it was routine screening that found the breast area so I can't turn down any further tests.

Glad you swore about your cancer just there, topsy- I don't normally swear but honestly, this is a bleep, bleep, bleep disease.

MaryAnnSingleton · 07/10/2011 22:18

swearing is allowed !

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Iamseeingstars · 07/10/2011 22:58

Had a "chat" recently with doctors who have painted the doom and gloom about having treatment, and making sure I have sorted my will, realise I could die and that I dont have to go ahead with treatment if I dont want to.
Are they for real? they tell you you need the treatment or you will die within 6 months, then tell you you dont need to have it if you dont want because the treatment could kill you anyway. But if it does work then I might be OK.
Then they tell you to stay positive and do meditation classes etc. so that you can stay positive when you are going through hell. Unbelievable.

janemacer · 07/10/2011 23:27

just lost my post. too tired and eaten too much driving downthe m1. Mum in rehab nursing home place. house feels empty. sleeping in the room where i was born.night night.

pinkstarlight · 08/10/2011 01:07

topsy...i found with each chemo i got more and more tired ,i never had any idea the effect that chemo has on you what with the side effects etc so i guess its hard for others to understand.your hubby sounds stressed it effects the whole family in a big way do you think hes bottling things up,is there someone he can talk to?last thing you need right now is to be worrying about him,crack the whip and tell him he has to man up.

figgy..thats it no hobnobs for me thanks for the warning lol.

smee...hope your doing ok.

mas...i get that sometimes when i inject my heparin,my stomach can get really lumpy and i end up having to change position.

pranma..hope the next few days go fast for you.

imseeingstars..sending a big hug to you its not always easy to deal with medical people,i felt a few times early on i was being pushed for a reaction when in fact i was dealing with everything in a very calm way i swear they wanted tears.

deescent...sounds like your doctors on the ball which can only be a good thing,hope everything turns out to be ok.

jane..im the same if i get the house to myself feels really strange.

gave in to the settee and had a good sleep till ds was brought back from his friends at 9 pm,luckily he had a good time and was in a much better mood and all excited about a cinema trip him and a group of friends are going to tomorrow.

MaryAnnSingleton · 08/10/2011 08:48

glad you had a good sleep pink
iamseeingstars- it must be very difficult for you -docs saying lots of different things -I suppose they have to cover all outcomes but it sounds very brutal - sending you a huge hug.
jane- sounds exhausting -emotionally and physically..take care.

Dh off to watch the rugby with my dad

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Iamseeingstars · 08/10/2011 10:54

Talking of rugby, did any of you watch the world cup rugby? England and Ireland are both out, Wales through to the semi finals.

Will be so glad when it's over

topsyturner · 08/10/2011 11:34

A lot of ladies with a lot to put up with this weekend .
Sending you all as many positive vibes as I have spare , you sound like you all need them .

Dh at work this morning , but from the texts I have had from him , he seems in much better form . Despite Ireland loosing the rugby this morning Grin

DD has a party to go to shortly , and DS is going to the cinema with his mates .
DH and I will have the great pleasure of going to Tesco !
Rock and roll Ladies Grin

pinkstarlight · 08/10/2011 12:11

topsy...hes a man hes going to have his moods.

i have no plans for today house is pretty tidy so im going to whizz round with the hoover and the polish.

dd1 who is at uni has travelled to derby for the weekend to visit a friend who is at uni there theres a few of her old school friends gone with her just heard from sounds like shes having fun partying.

dd2 is off town with her mates to a bit of shopping and have a bite to eat.

ds who is 12 has gone to the cinema with a group of friends about 8 of them all together so is feeling all grown up,its kind of hard for me to let him go because he has sn.but the group of friends he has gone with hes known them all since he was 4 i know them all and i know all their parents and i know they will look after him.i fought tooth and nail to keep him out of special school so glad i did when i see how the so called normal kids include him it brings home i made the right choice.

im going to find a film or dvd to watch later,curl up with the dog and chill...bliss..

amberlight · 08/10/2011 15:55

Rugby - aye. Not sure what England were up to, really.
Pink, hurrah re ds and the cinema!

Afternoon all. Brew available for anyone still awake.

pinkstarlight · 08/10/2011 16:56

thanks for the cuppa amber waste of time trying to have a doze in my house today,first off ds came back wanting a pot noodle (have none) anyway feed him and im dozing as we watch some rubbish film on tv he decides to keep bouncing to try to keep me awake.he got bored so has gone out again and his mates keep knocking on the door which sets the dog off barking.kids huh.

topsyturner · 08/10/2011 18:40

Well I managed to fall asleep sitting upright infront of the tv this afternoon !
Only woke up when I heard the front door bang shut behind my DH and DC as they headed off out to Mass .

Am beginning to think I very much like the sound of deescent . What a woman , finding hre keys in her knickers . She's gonna fit in well on this board Grin

Have made sausage and mash and onion gravy for tea tonight , in a desperate bid to get back into the families good books for sleeping too much this week !

Now watching Strictly

smee · 08/10/2011 19:04

Stop making me laugh !! Hobnobs and keys and all. Grin Got back last night, but hadn't made it to the laptop before now. Feeling sick which is annoying, but then again I always do and sore, but so, so pleased to be back. DH and DS making one hell of a mess, but waiting on me and being very sweet. I will try and catch up, but thanks to all for the good wishes. Hope everyone's having a good weekend xx Smile

Figgyroll · 08/10/2011 19:40

Welcome home. I hope the sickness soon passes, and the soreness. Let DH and DS spoil you rotten for the next few days and make the most of it.

Deescent, lost keys in knickers made me laugh. Smile

Topsy, I'm good at sitting-up falling asleep. The only thing is, it can make your neck hurt (and there is the risk of dribbling too Grin). No more angry-tidying today, I hope?

Pink, how annoying. I hope you manage to get some peace and quiet this evening. Lovely to hear about DS and his friends involving him in things. My DS2 has Downs and went to the village school and then onto the secondary with all his friends and it's been lovely although, now he's nearly 21, they've nearly all dropped him from their social lives as they've moved on but, when he's out and about, it's lovely the way they speak to him. He has a very busy social life now which mainly revolves around his special needs friends but he has a couple of good friends who take him up the pub now and then so he's a happy chappy.

We're hunkered down for the night watching Strictly then X-Factor. It's lovely having a quiet night in when it's pouring down outside. The Wine is flowing and I think I have a stash of chocolate somewhere. Will sniff it out later.

Hope everyone is well. Thanks Thanks Thanks

topsyturner · 08/10/2011 19:47

smeeeeeeeee
You are back , we missed you . Sorry you are feeling sick , is it the anaesthetic ? Yacky stuff eh ?

figgy - yes it was waking up with a sore neck and a line of dried drool down my chin for me Grin

Watching X Factor now , it's for DD , honestly ...

forpitysake · 08/10/2011 20:33

evening all!

LOL at figgy's hidden hobnob! Grinthat did make me laugh.

i was at work today and i felt fine and not thinking about it all (much).
got home to a letter confirming the date and time of the next appt and now im sitting here snivelling!! why?? i knew the date and time already. stupid Confused. we need a 'highly-emotional-emoticon i think

ive just looked up the surgeon i saw on the hospital website and she seems to have lots of suitable qualifications and experience Grin even if shes got zero bedside manner/empathy!Angry

i had a good laugh last night first with my neighbour then with my best mate and her DH and my DH. nothing special - just chatting and giggling and it was lovely. i actually forgot all about it for a while - the power of laughter!

now im just debating to have some wine or not. Im supposed to be on antibiotics for an infected insect bite on my foot but ive not been taking them properly cos my minds been on other things (surprise!) so i guess a glass (or three) wouldnt hurt??

hope your blood test results come back as all ok dee

Iamseeingstars · 08/10/2011 20:38

Welcome back Smee. Hope you feel better soon.
Hello to everyone else

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