**t*a*m*o*x*i*f*e*n** number 14

[MaryAnnSingleton]

here we go !

Jane - I meant you. Topsy hasn't posted - sorry. My brain is addled from too much tea and too much typing (work, not here). Topsy has also been talking about having difficult discussions and i had a senior moment.

You have done brilliantly to tell people, hopefully that'll get it pretty much over with in one (probably painful, but hopefully short-lived) go.

Topsy - Hi! No twiglets, thanks they make me a bit

never heard of a contact lens breaking before

Mmmm twiglets thank you :) Managed to vacuum ds's room and dust his desk. Still needs more work but getting there. Swam 12lengths and back for sardines on toast shared with the cat - he went nuts and tried to climb up me. bit big for that now. Cousin going to stay again tonight then she has to drive home to Cornwall.

Swimming means you deserve a treat.

Off to parents evening. I wonder if i shall have to be stern later?

No drain, woo-hoo !! i have bought jelly to celebrate, as I promised it to DH if we got rid.

Sparkle, I was wondering where you'd got to. Hope the migraine's long gone by now. Miserable to suffer with those.

Topsy, telling a friend to spread the word sounds mighty sane, as does shopping. Hope you win.

Jane, coming back from holiday early must have been hard. Didn't realise you'd had to do that. I took a while to tell my mum too. She has early stages Alzheimers and I couldn't cope with her worry on top of my own. So hard when that relationship shifts - I haven't got it at all right so far.

Cakes, ouch on the contact lens. Your cottage sounds idyllic. I'll come as a cat and curl up on the Aga.

Kurri, great pics. Your mum and dad look so lovely, as do you of course. Hope Endo appt goes well.

MAS hope you're filling the house with fbs for you and Celeste next week. There'll be a national shortage of Cheeselets.

have just had to send ds back to school-he'd forgotten about choir (he mustn't miss any as they're rehearsing for their NY trip next summer and don't want him kicked out)
Hooray for no drain smee - and jelly !! yay
That must've been hard,coming home early jane to face biopsy results - in fact being on holiday with them hanging over you must've been tough.
KK - what are you on about- you aren't fat -tsk. Your mum and dad look adorable.
Good luck at parents evening cakes - am sure you won't need to be stern- I expect her English comments will be exemplary.
I meant to look in Iceland today to see if there were any deals on cheeselets- I boycott Iceland because I think they are crappy and our Woolworths used to be there. I will swallow my prejudices in order to purchase bargainous cheeselets mind.

I'll have a twiglet topsy thanks. Fair enough to want to avoid sympathetic looks, - good luck with your bids, how long to go before the auction closes.? Like the sound of those shoes.

jane - it's sad you had to shorten your holiday for results, but good that you found a way to tell people, it really is one of the hardest bits. Well done on your swim.

Hooray for no drain Smee, enjoy your jelly!
How is your mum doing at the moment?

Thanks for kind comments re. parents, - if I tell you I am 5'2" - it will give you some idea of how tiny my mother is , Dad is looking slightly bemused at the whole concept of having a photo taken .

Cakes I'm sure Cakes junior will have lots of good things said about her

Ooh parent evenings are always a bit odd. Ours make you sit in the little seats the kids use and i always have a dilemma as to where to put my legs. Hope she shines, Cakes. Am sure she will.

Kurri, your mum looks like a woman who knows how to wear layers. How on earth does she cope with your father. Must be incredibly demanding for her. My mum's still okay really - she repeats everything several times, but I'm getting better at not telling her she's doing so. She's still very independent and not a worry in lots of ways. Long may it last.

It wasn't too bad being on holiday - part was with mil who has been through it before and she was waiting for a biopsy result too - hers was benign this time. She had 3 ops last time, nearly 10 years ago. I was ok to be on my own didn't have to cope with dh's reaction as well. Went straight into work and told my team which made it easier as I wasn't supposed to be working that day and could leave after.

yay for smee and jelly

at mum's layering skills, - I suspect she may just add a new layer each day - God knows what she's got on!

You are right about dad being demanding, he's a lot less mobile now, and more incontinent than he was, which makes things hard. He's also has no internal check on what he says, - so can be quite rude (not in a nasty way, - just a bit 'frank'), But she's very good with him, - incredibly patient and kind.

Long may your mum's independence continue. She may well have several good years before there is too much decline, especially if she manages to stay physically well.

I would say Dad was reasonably mobile until about 3 years ago. It was really his bout of pneumonia and long hospital stay that seemed to spark off his decline.

Not the news I hoped for.
have found and area of concern on mamo
I'll be back to give propper report later too many kids about
but I am worried now

hug for 14k - come back soon x

14k hugs. :(

Ah no. Hugs from me too, l4k. Come and tell us later if you can. I'm sure it's one hell of a shock, but we might be able to reassure you somehow. xx

Oh no, and damn. Hugs from me 14k, hope you can get back on later -as Smee says, we might be able to reassure, or at least support.

Oh poo, 14k. Sorry to hear your news. I hope we will be able to reassure you and hold your hand when you get the chance to come back online.
Hello to FPS and Butterfly too. So sorry you're having to go through this too. It's such a dreadful shock to the system.
Have been AWOL for a few days with a yucky headcold which is better but not cleared. It's giving me headaches and of course my imagination has been runing riot. Someone please slap me with a wet fish
Last rads session tomorrow (yayyy). Must think of a way to celebrate that includes wine and chocolate.
Topsy, I think your friend should spread the news for you but still be prepared for phone calls and those pitying looks from those who are worried about you. Love the sound of those dresses and shoes. I hope you win. I remember when first diagnosed not seeing the point of buying new stuff but the more positive I became the more I started to spend.

Smee, so glad you've got rid of the drain. Enjoy the wibbly stuff
Sorry for missing anyone out but sending love and positive vibes to those that need them.
MAS, off on a mission tomorrow to buy some cheeselets. I hope you havent cleared the shelves.

Just heading off to Tesco in search of cheeselets ...

14k big unmumsnetty hugs to you . Come back and chat when you feel up to it .

have just pigged out on the last of the cheeselets in the tub- followed by lots of dried apple rings to balance it all.

hey figgy- hope you're feeling less coldy and hooray for last rads tomorrow- wine and cheeselets

Ooh Figgy, how exciting !! Last rads is a massive milestone. You must must celebrate, even if you're so worn out you need to be horizontal to do so.

Hope this is reassuring, but I had massive headaches at the end of rads too - my main paranoid niggle was about rib pain, so I bullied persuaded them to give me another CT scan, even though they said it would be clear and it was. The Oncs said aches/ headaches, etc are totally normal at the end of treatment, so relax.

Figgy - end of rads tomorrow - hooray, and well done, you definitely deserve a celebration (is it one of the boys birthdays too, or are they later in the week?)

Rads can def. make you feel a bit odd, and your cold will be giving you headaches as well.

MAS - I am imagining a national shortage of cheeselets, especially in your area of the country - Hopefully there's a few left where you are topsy

Hello lovely ladies
I haven't had time to read through posts I've missed so I'll catch up later tonight, but wanted to let you know that all your positive thoughts and candle-lighting have done the trick.
Maybe being pals with 2 vicars has helped too?? [Grin]
Can't do any harm, right??

The surgeon said I have a 3cm fibroadenoma that needs to be removed. That will be within about 12-18 wks time.
Just as I said I really didn't want an op unless desperate, it started up the nasty achey feeling again so I just said yup get it out. I thought about you all and what topsy had said and if you can go through what you go through day in day out then I can do this too and I need to think myself damned lucky with what I've been told I have.
[Smile]

That's great news forpity, - I'm so pleased for you, what a relief. Its a pain to need surgery, - but I'm sure you'll feel much more comfortable when its gone.

I think you need to settle down and relax with some treats for the night

Forpity, great news and you're sounding very positive. Definitely have a celebratory .
Yes KK, DS1 is 25 Thurs. and DS2 is 21 on Friday so a busy few days coming up. Roll on half term and a week off work.