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[KurriKurri]

Tada! A shiney new thread - get me with my fancy asterisks

yes ,tibetan healing sounds the very thing KK - my mum would love that.
It makes ds grumpy,being in his room-I'd go completely mad if I had to stay inside -when I was a girl (old person emoticon) I'm sure I was out and about all the time. Ds never seems to want to buy things (good in a way as he isn't acquisitive and never asks for stuff) Gah ! Having said that,he is buying himself a new camera to replace the poor battered and sandy one.

Hello all - good luck for everyone waiting for exam results this week (and next) - I remember how nerve racking that is.

Its my wedding anniversary today (29yrs ), DH bought me a grapevine for the garden, - I love it, always wanted one (He also got me a card in which he had written "keep up the good work" - cheeky bugger )

MAS - It's a sign of teenagerdom, they start living in their bedrooms, only emerging for food

Hope everyone is feeling OK today, and that the weather is holding up for the holiday girls, - it's a bit showery here.

oh happy anniversary KK - 29 years !! grapevine sounds brilliant- how lovely

have been wafting about online and have come across a website which sells everything to do with one's insides- very jolly illustrations and plush toys -will link to it...there's an e-card for breast surgery which I'm not sure about really- though I really like the splenectomy one (it would have cheered me) and quite want a plush spleen. You can get a plush milk gland here

Tee hee! Now they are a good idea.

Happy anniversary Mr and Mrs KK! A vine will be lovely. He is a cheeky bugger, isn't he?

I have been trying to engage dh in a conversation about our anti virus software all morning as mine needs renewing and I have been advised to get something different and put the product on DH's machine and mine. Nothing doing until the IT guys phoned up - and now, all of a sudden, he keeps spouting information at me as if it is news - i have been telling him these things all morning and getting a deafening silence. I am wearing my stern, long suffering face - not very alluring. He has just said 'We need to sort this, my licence expired on Sunday' - No, dear, it didn't. Mine did. That's why we are having this conversation, I asked the IT guys to sort it for me!!!!

He can be absolutely infuriating.

Thanks all, - 29 years and never argued

MAS, - I like the bladder card 'urine my heart'

Cakes - I know that talking to a brick wall feeling, - it is infuriating, why do they do it?

Never argued, eh? I am pretty sceptical

Especially if he does the brick wall thing too

Hi all

Congrats Kurri no mean feat not killing the buggers after so long and I speak as one heading for my 37th wedding anniversary

Which begs yet another question (sorry) how did you show your Dh/Dp after surgery, did they want to see? and did it make a difference to sex?

dh definitely didn't want to look !
To calm Cakes I have a nice caramel biscuit...

Earth - my DH was totally unphased by the surgery, and he saw it in all its glory pretty quickly because I got a bit of an infection and he had to help change my dressings. Its a hard one, and I think you just have to play it by ear a bit. But I think we over estimate the effect it will have on our partners - I mean in terms of scarring etc, obviously they are upset at what you are going through and the scar is a reminder of that. Talking about it helps, - I did tell DH my fears that he wouldn't find me attractive any more, but he reassured me that it didn't change anything (one of his less brickwally moments )

The lack of a breast, hasn't made any difference to our sex life, - the recovery time from the surgery, and the chemo I had put a bit of a damper on things for a while, but once I felt well enough, things were back to normal. And I don't feel self conscious about my scar, I'm used to it now, and so is he.

Not sure if my dh is typical, but he was mlldly interested, it never seemed to make any difference. Mine is a lumpectomy though. The difference is more in my head, I think, as there is still some odd sensation there that is not that agreeable. It's reasonably easy to work around it though.

ooh, biscuit. Thanks!

I should maybe add that my DH is a scientist, and has often worked in medical environments, so he's fairly matter of fact about such things.

biscuits all round ?

Carrot cake here if anyone wants some, - not home made but it seems to be going down OK with a large mug of boringly decaff tea.

Takes biscuit too

carrot cake is a vegetable,so is healthy. thanks KK

KK I have been having odd palpitation type things in my upper chest/lower throat type area on and off for a few days now. Sometimes when I am just lying in bed. I had it a few years ago and had my thyroid checked among other things but nothing was found and it went away. Does it sound potentially thyroid to you? We have a history of thyroid things in my Mum's side of the family (Grandmother, Mum and DB have all had thyroid problems - underactive, i think). I'm asking KK as she is the thyroid expert here but everyone else's views are very welcome too, of course.

If it carries on Cakes, I think it would be worth getting it checked. I get the palpitations with my overactive thyroid, and it is supposed to be more common among people who have a family history. Google under and over active thyroid symptoms and see if anything else strikes a chord (I don't normally recommend google, but if you google symptoms it's usually just a list. nothing scary).

Even if that doesn't seem likely, I would get it checked, palpitations aren't much fun.
I think they are one of the side effects of tamoxifen too, so that's a possibility.

There's a fine line between health aware and raving hypochondriac - I frequently fall over it

I know, I do need to take control and get it looked at. I think the car knows its own way there by now.

Thanks everyone for your points, or your Dh/Dp's points of view.

Dh has been interested in all the bruising (very colorful) from the biopsies, but it's very obviously not the same thing.

My cousin told me that, at first, she refused to look at hers, in fact her husband saw it first and made her look to get it over with.

I'm hoping Dh will be a bit more sympathetic.

Earth - just try not to ovetrhink it. Often we worry about these things and they just happen naturally.

Afternoon all.

Happy Anniversary to Mr.&Mrs. KK. 29 years? You get less for murder, so they say

Earth, I only had my mx 10 days ago and it took a couple of days before I would look at it. The nurse who helped me get dressed was lovely and encouraged me to do so. When the drains and dressings came off I was much more at ease with it by then. DH has helped me washing my back a few times and saw the extent of the surgery round to my shoulder blade and wasn't phased by it but I held a towel to my front as I didn't want to shock him. I expect he will see it on Friday when he comes with me to see the BC nurse and the consultant, if not before then but I'm not in a hurry to show him.

MAS, I remember those teenage years well, encarserated in their rooms. If they forgot to open a window their rooms took on a smell all of their own. They're out of that phase now, thank goodness.

I walked to the village shop earlier for a few supplies pending my Tesco big shop which is arriving tomorrow. I got waylaid by a few people and my expedition took twice as long as it should have done. DS1 was about to ring me - he was worried I'd collapsed whilst out. I felt fine, just a bit self-conscious about my lopsideness which is a bit better now I've played around with stuffing and bra straps.

Has anyone else the problem of disgusting finger nails following chemo? Mine went discoloured and ridged which I disguised with pretty nail polish but last night I was hoiking my jimjams on and half a nail fell completely off and it happened again this morning when I was sorting out breakfast, in front of DS1 who nearly fainted. I reckon about another 6 are going the same way. It looks ghastly.

Figgy, I had FEC and mine just got horizontal ridges, but i think some of the other poisons drug regimes do cause nails to discolour and drop off very frequently. I seem to remember a couple of people mentioning it. Smee was one, I am sure she won't mind my saying so while she is not here. Sounds horrid. is it sore? and

nails bit would make me very queasy,I must say..several people have had nail probs during/following chemo,but my mind has gone blank.
I think in the week after surgery things look puffy and bruised and awful- The glue on my scar made it look a lot worse. I'd take each bit as it comes Earth, but it's natural to want to know how things might be/feel.
Ds's room seems to smell ok,he keeps the window open and doesn't eat up there or leave any old cups and whatnot - he's still at the biddable age where he goes up for his bath each night- hope that continues