Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

General health

Mumsnet doesn't verify the qualifications of users. If you have medical concerns, please consult a healthcare professional.

New thread for those having/had posterior or anterior repairs, TVT, rectocele and all the other down below stitchups

999 replies

MissingMySleep · 03/05/2011 11:03

Hello ladies, I hope you find this, I don't want to lose my pre-op and post-op buddies!!

OP posts:
blue11 · 16/07/2011 10:12

Well hello ladies,
just been catching up - a bag of mixed emotions, the newbies all the fear and questions we all had and the updates from those that went though it all at a similar time to myself. I've wiped the tears away now.... quite an emotional catch up.
I actually did place a couple of messages (3) and was quite frustrated as I realised they had not appeared, perhaps they were too long or big brother felt they would frighten you - I can only hope this will be entered.
Firstly the girls that have not heard from me before dont let this put you off, My story is just one that hilights a condition that should not be ignored and hopefully will improve reactions at hospitals when presented with complications as I was. I was just unfortunate, to have an allergy and a hospital ward that could not use basic common sense.
I had rectocele repair, but had a terrible infection caused by an allergic reaction to the sutures. I didnt realise at the time though as I didnt dare look down there straight away. I was scrubbing my legs and tummy in the middle of the night with exfoliating sponges - the itching was hell. I wanted to do the same inside but of course couldnt. I knew there was something wrong badly and I then got a terrible discharge, the smell so foul. I kept phoning the ward up but they would not give me the consultants details to contact her.
I was too ill to go to the gp but spoke on the phone and got some anti biotics collected. When I did get the mirror down there what a fright! I had bi infected swellings where the sutures were, I had been complaining about sitting on barbed wire which is quite a normal sensation at first but mine felt they were going to explode and when I gave one area a gently squeeze - it did explode!!! what a mess but eased the pressure immensly.
I was in the shower 6 times a day trying to keep the area clean, and had been sensible. I could see big holes and clearly the wound had not healed. I just kept clenched as much as a could and of course sitting on the loo seat normally was impossible - I kind of lay sideways.... us women what we go through ehhh!
I guess I retreated, I had little support at home, gave up asking my daughters to help - and knew I had an appointment at 7 weeks with the consultant. It was clear the GPs anti biotics had helped a little but the infection was still there.
I called the ward again, told them if they didnt give me her contact numbers I would be writing to the hospital! - I was given an appointment within days!
The consultant was outraged with what I had gone through and shocked at the ''raging infection'' I had. Agreed it was the sutures, did a swab and more anti biotics. She said the GP's were not the right type. She was going to ''have words'' with the ward, and gave me her private contact details. I was due back the following week. 5 days later the ''ward'' phoned me and said we have your swab results back and ''you have an infection! I basically said thanks to you it was so much worse - the nurse said ''you need antibiotics'' I had already been given some by the consultant, out of interested I asked which ones do I need? - and the nurse told me the ones I had were not the right ones. Anyway, I was seeing the consultant in two days so would discuss with her.
The area had healed and the sutures were gone, still very sore though. The consultant looked at the notes and actually said I had the right anti biotics? but I knew otherwise...ummmm me thinks!.. although had finished the course just and symptoms had improved. On examination although painful she seemed satisfied, I dressed and sat before her and asked when would the BM problems I had improve. She seemed surprised, as that was the reason I had gone in the first place - and suggested there could be an issue with the bowel now. I have read all your stories and was expecting improvements at the same pace as yours but no -
I am due to go back in a couple of weeks.
However, the day after seeing the consultant I have been struck down by the worst cold I have ever had, it has gone through me... throat, head, ears, chest - now two weeks on and this has been actually worst than the op itself. I have a horrible chest infection, but will not get any more anti biotics. I had three lots one after another, none were the right ones, but clearly have messed my immune system up badly. I guess I am feeling sorry for myself, but feel I have gone through all this for nothing apart from a lesson in allergic reaction of the sutures. I feel I have finally healed all bumpy, quite a mess, and will never want to let anyone close to me again. I had a terrible delivery years ago and that caused my problem but at least I healed well.
All you new ladies, again dont be put off, this was exceptional and hopefully a lesson for the consultant. I am full of cold feel awful and I guess thinking I may have to face something similar all over again, or correcting this one. Trouble is I just cannot bare to explore anything now as it is not me!
Hugs to everyone and thrilled so much good news here.
XXX

blue11 · 16/07/2011 10:13

wow!! it didnt go first attempt but I managed to go back copy and paste! that really would have upset me!!

Footle · 16/07/2011 11:53

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

blue11 · 16/07/2011 12:29

Hi Footle,
Ive been catching up with everyone all morning, amazing stories and what lovely ladies you all are. None of you deserve what you have gone through I guess I am included in all this too...... can you imagine what the world would be like if it was done to men? sorry to all those that cannot laugh yet because it hurts!!! really we know!!
I had a terrible chest infection following a C section years ago - this is not as bad, but the whole flu symptoms (was in bed for 3 days) have been far worse than the op. I will make an appointment with GP on Monday although wont get to see her until Friday I expect - if things get worse I will be able to speak to her. Just cannot face a student having to go through my history...etc etc it is sad that continuation cannot be provided when you need it most in the health service.
This site has been great, it supports you when you are alone and scared, even if you dont contribute all the questions you want answered are here, I only hope the consultants and nurses can learn from our stories too.
I wonder how many recommend cucumbers - so glad they were not necessary in the end but always makes me smile at the thought! xx

Everglades · 16/07/2011 12:50

Blue,
We haven't 'met' before but have read all your postings and am shocked by what you have had to go through. Do hope your health starts to improve very very soon. And do be very careful of that cold, after the birth of one of my children I landed up with pneumonia and pleurisy. Your immune system must be so battered that you need to be so especially vigilant. Maybe you could take Vitamin C and a good probiotic?
Anyway, very best wishes to you.

Footle · 16/07/2011 14:34

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Likeavirgin · 16/07/2011 18:02

Hi again ladies, hope you are all well. I see I have been away a while and find it difficult to catch up on everyone's stuff. If I am off for a couple of days there is so much going on that I find it overwhelming. I have a very busy weekend ahead of me, so I can't read all the posts.

I just want to post about how things are going now, I am 8 weeks post op now and doing fine in many ways. The sex part of things is really not going well for us. I still have pain in the area where the TVT wraps around the urethra and it pulls down to the groin. I can manage to get through sex, but it is highly uncomfortable if it goes on past 4 minutes. That is not a good thing if you like intimacy as much as we do. My husband fears hurting me so much now that he can't achieve orgasm. I am really not complaining about pain at all during sex, I try to hide that fact, but my husband can sense this I guess. I told him not to worry about it, but he just can't stop thinking about it during sex. This is not good, I feel so bad about it,I told him that I feel like I have ruined our sex life. He does't think so, but at this point we are just blaming ourselves and that certainly doesn't help either. I know sex isn't everything, but we had such a good sex life. Prior to surgery I wasn't liking sex very much because I felt like I had to pee the entire time and feared leaking and so I thought this surgery would help improve that part of it. That part is cured, no more peeing sensation or leakage. I in fact feel way more aroused as well in the area because the perineum is tighter and I like the sensation just inside the vagina there. Before surgery that was all gone. I have many positives with having the op, can poo straight, pee when I need too, not all the time, more arousal with sex and just feel more confident about myself now. Just must iron out the pulling pain now. I will go back to the doctor in a months time if this pain doesn't subside. I will see what he says about that. Maybe the TVT is too tight or perhaps more stretching needs to be done and once that happens the TVT won't seem as tight. That is all for now.

Have a great weekend and I will try to catch up later. Smile Wine

EMMDEE73 · 16/07/2011 19:24

It has been lovely to read some 'success' stories on this thread, but sad to hear that things don't always go straightforward. I hope all those in not such happy places get their success in the end.
I know I am very eagerly awaiting mine! I am (nearly) 4 weeks post op for posterior repair now. Whilst everything has been very straightforward I feel I really underestimated how long it does take to recover. Also have put on about 9lbs in 4 weeks due to comfort eating and lack of movement generally, and am itching to get 'back to normal' and be able to shift the weight. My main problem is the twinges around where the stitches are dissolving which makes everything uncomfortable. I can see they are going but cause soreness in the area. Am still taking same amount of painkillers I did at first because of this. There is no infection but just a slow process of healing.
Good luck to you all in your journeys.
xx

Footle · 18/07/2011 17:55

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EMMDEE73 · 18/07/2011 23:27

Footle - The painkillers were only paracetamol and ibuprofen. (I only had one dose of tramadol in the hospital). I think it has worked though. So far, so good!

Everglades · 20/07/2011 13:55

Jeepers I am so bored with myself - now I've got an infection! :( 4.5 weeks since my TVT, urgency and now a UTI. Having taken so many years to pluck up courage to do this op, I am doubting whether I did the right thing. I have a history of UTIs and kidney infections but have managed to stay clear of them for 2 years.
Hope everyone else is having a better day.

Footle · 20/07/2011 14:24

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Likeavirgin · 21/07/2011 19:55

Hi to all. I have been so busy this past week or so. I have been halping my husband catch upon his work and trying to manage the yard and garden, so much to do. My daughter is at summer camp and I was hoping to have some quiet time with hubby, but not happening.

Now on to business. Sex is becoming easier and easier all the time. I still have some discomfort, but not as much as before. Everything works down there and sex is better than ever because I don't feel like I have to pee during sex and no more stools in the bowel up against the vaginal wall. I believe that this surgery has improved my quality of life in all aspects. I feel more confident to do activities that I wouldn't do before because of leakage. I don't have to splint to go poo anymore, no more pads on a daily basis, sex is wonderful, the constant diaper type rash I used to get all the time is gone. I feel unbelievable. For those who don't know what I had done. I am only 45 years old, had 6 children and suffered for over 6 years. I am 9 weeks post op, had a rectocele repair, cystocele repair and TVT. Recovery was really a breeze when I look back on it. I was expecting worse and it was okay. Please ladies, anyone out there suffering, don't hesitate to get them fixed up. I was afraid of surgery and waited way too long to have them done.

I think that I am pretty much ready to get back to my normal life now and I appreciate all you woman who posted on here, offered support and helped me get through this. For all those recovering and thinking of going in or are scheduled good luck, take it easy and be patient with yourselves.

From Rectdownunder to Likeavirgin to now just being Dawn and I like it that way. Happy healing everyone!!!Wine Smile

Jannie49 · 21/07/2011 21:18

21 days post op. Feel lots better now, can relate to what everyone is saying about this cold going around, think everyone in the country has had it! I definitely felt worse than from the op, never usually have to use my inhalers, not since i gave up smoking 6 months ago but used em several times in the past few weeks. I have flu jab and havent had a cold for years.
Doesnt feel as if Ive had anything done if it wasnt for stitches still being there, and went back to my voluntary work yesterday, (help run a mental health support/drop in group, involves a lot of cooking!) Well, I havent missed a sesh really, but we all met for dinner at pub last week and previous week I just sat down (gingerly, lol,) and sorted the money etc. Yeah I could walk for miles, but wont, haha.
It is good to 'poo straight' but Id gotten so used to 'helping it out' every single time I went, what someone called' splinting,' that I forget n the hand goes down! I stop myself and think, no, you dont have to do that anymore!
Thanks for advice Everglades but Ive been totally put off Norethisterone, as soon as I came off the relief was immense, I would chuck Caneston on by the cartload to no effect and drive myself up the wall scratching so much I bled.
Have to have an ultrasound for the pelvic pains as the other doc I went to see actually thinks ovarian cysts which is exactly what I thought 4 months ago.
Lots of love and best wishes xx

blue11 · 21/07/2011 22:29

Hi everyone, well just caught up again with all your news, and lovely to hear how happy Dawn is, how well everything is working out and better than ever for her - keep us posted when you can! Jannie glad you are making progress - sorry about the cold though, like you I have had a real bad time with it as you all know from last week but I am now much better. I ended up on a drip in hospital with the dreaded pneumonia, I was a fool not to get seen sooner but had had enough. Thanks for your support Everglades, Footle I really did learn a big lesson.
Whilst I am still not 100% my lower half has healed now enough for me to work out what is going on. My bm's have not improved at all. I am having to do everything I did pre-op. I see the consultant next week, although I know I could not go through any more surgery particularly if I will face such a reaction.
Emmdee, keep going you are getting over the worst now - and poor Footle I am so sorry to hear re the infection, please let us know how you are?
Wishing you all speedier recoveries...
big hugs.... xx

EMMDEE73 · 22/07/2011 09:27

Jannie49 - I feel exactly the same about remembering I don't need to 'help out' the BMs. Such a strange feeling after 4 years not to have to do it!!

Footle · 22/07/2011 10:57

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

shazza40 · 25/07/2011 15:24

Hi ladies, Ive just joined and Ive been reading your posts with interest the last few weeks and you have put my mind at rest with regards to the op Im about to have, I am due to go into hospital this Wednesday 27th for a rectocele repair transanally, My question is has anybody had it done this way? What did you feel like afterwards in regards to pain. Hope someone can help, Im feeling a little anxious only 2 days to go.

sharron

Flowers40 · 26/07/2011 11:02

HI all,

Jewel, so glad to hear it all worked out 'alright on the night' wink wink.. Just a quickie eh, yeah I'll betcha, so thrilled for you tho and hope your making the most of it Wink .. I might have one or two on the go aswell on the old dating site, but will be very very careful about who I select to give my new 'cherry' too lol, he will need to be special. Good on you and good news for you too Dawn, and Footle hi to you and hope your'e doing ok. Blue, so sorry it's been so rough, glad your ok and hope the infection has gone by now and your'e on the mend. HI aswell to all the new people and hope your all ok. Hope I haven't missed anyone.

I am ok too, continuing to improve and get back to normal and had a job interview yesterday which gave me a boost regardless of whether I get it or not. Life does go back to normal or even better than before so don't despair anyone! Take care ladies and much love! xoxox

blue11 · 26/07/2011 21:14

Hi ladies, sorry I mixed everyone up previously - so glad everyone is moving forward, I am here on a mission and hopefully to help those who like me never spoke up for a long time but just sat and learnt that this was not a condition that only I suffered with and but one of those things that so many of us have suffered in silence.
My rectocele repair has not made any improvement, maybe it was to do with the terrible infection I dont know. I have not wanted to explore much but I have an appointment later this week so I want to know what can be done.
before the rectocele I could feel every lump and bump in the rectum through the vagina wall it would bulge out and impossible to empty without pressure applied. These are all normal signs.
Post op the bulge is still there, but there is more flesh, higher up it is how I assume it should feel all the way down. It is as if I have a large elastoplast
in place but there is a split half way up it causing the bulge to come through.
I wonder what the inside felt like pre childbirth, I really cannot remember.
Once I was keen at dressmaking and recall when I finally looked down there and saw the infection I remember thinking the stitches are so far apart they would stuggle to give a supportive healing and of course the infection delayed the healing process anyway.
Will be interesting to hear what differences you all experienced and those of you that had this done some time ago if you are still around please tell us how you are now.
Those of you just at the start of your journey, wishing you well - and a speedy recovery..

xx

blue11 · 26/07/2011 21:19

Sharron, I will be thinking of you tomorrow - be brave and above all make sure you rest and get as much help as you can afterwards..... keep us posted big Hug xxx

littlewaltham · 26/07/2011 21:57

Hi Flowers40 has sent me and I am amazed how many women have had similar ops! Google gives very little info except a plethora of photos of anonymous bulging vaginas.

I have had a rectocele repair 12 days ago:

Q: pinky blood normal?
Q: Is it meant to itch like thrush? stitches knitting or just thrush?

I am a bit nuts too but been helped greatly by replies to my post op depression thread. GA and medication depression is real not just me.

Everglades · 27/07/2011 19:26

Hi everyone,
Sorry you've not had any improvement, Blue, you really have had a tough time. And hope Sharon has had a 'good day' today with her op. Hope you get good news on the job interview Flowers.

And hello and hope all's well to Footle and anybody else who's reading :)

I'm still finding this recovery (TVT) very up and down with most of the last 5.5 weeks being down. Thought I'd cracked it last Monday as felt relatively normal and managed to go a couple of hours between loo visits without feeling dreadful. I have been on abs since last Wed for what I thought (and still think was a UTI) but then my results came back negative. Which was odd because it all improved after 6 days on the abs and then I finished them yesterday morning and this morning all the urgency and frequency came back, I really could have cried. It's been weeks since I've had any normal life as I don't feel comfortable going out too much due to the frequency. The gp grudgingly gave me more abs after me reminding her that I had had two kidney infections in the past even though my specimens were clear!
So I made a private appt with a Pelvic Floor/Incontinence Nurse I had seen before this afternoon, and she was brilliant. One of her suggestions is to use a Tens Machine on the pubic area or on the low back which is where the nerve roots to the bladder lie as she thinks it could be all the nerve signals being basically messed up and causing my problem. Anyway, she also said we could try other things like acupuncture but to wait and see what my uro/gynae surgeon says next week at my check up. He might suggest drugs for irritable bladder.
Sorry this is a bit long but thought it might be helpful for anyone else in this situation.

littlewaltham · 27/07/2011 21:18

Everglades and Blue keep your chin (s)?! up I thought I was having a mare. Everglades have a good cry you are not over egging it you must feel exhausted. Be encouraged that you have not tried everything yet. There are still options out there. nearly 6 weeks of being down is in many ways as damaging as the physical.

The more I read of this thread the more grateful I feel for the relatively simple process I am going through.

Flowers got there in the end and we can too :)

Footle · 29/07/2011 21:51

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Swipe left for the next trending thread