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Welcome to our thread all about cake cheese and chcolate healthy eating. Well, on a good day!

I'm Mouse, I have the weight of a huge Camenburg to lose but have lost lots already thanks to the support of this thread and the lovely LIGHTer ladies!

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God Bitter thats a nightmare

We were lucky in that a lot of other parents had had problems with this one boy that was bullying dd. They tried to fob us off at first but once I think the 6th parent had gone in they had to take notice.

Our teacher was crap too, we found out later shes friends with this boy's parents

Anyway, I'd go in and state your concerns, explain in the severest terms how its affecting ds out of school, ask to see their bullying policy (or get a copy in advance off their website). Ask them to start the bullying policy on these kids now (if they havent already), ask them if they've talked to these kids parents too.

If they say they haven't seen any incidents then you need to discuss why there isn't more supervision at lunch/playtimes.

Main question is 'How are you going to convince me my child is safe and happy while at your school', get them to tell you what they are going to do, its their reponsibility to keep your ds safe in school.

We tried to be reasonable by saying 'they're 5/6 we know there will be playground scuffles and upsets, but this is far beyond that and needs to be nipped in the bud now'.

What our school did (eventually):

1. got the parent's of the child in repeatedly

1. used punishments such as no football practise with him, he's now on a written warning (leads to expulsion eventually)

1. introduced much more supervision at play time /lunch

1. in 'circle time' discussed being 'kind' etc, also asked children to discuss their feelings (this only works if the children arent too frightened to say obviously)

1. had lots of conversations and discussions with all the children all the time about 'personal space' so when they line up they have to leave a 'person' space in front and behind, at the end of each day they have to sit on the floor on their own in a 'space' for 2 mins to try to explain boundaries and inappropriate play

1. we had an original meeting with the teacher and then a meeting every friday pm for 2 weeks till we felt better about the situation - communication is really key to making you have confidence in their ability to deal with the situation.

1. discuss the idea of a friendship stop or buddy bench with them

1. at our school there are monitors, older children who also check everyone is ok and help the younger ones if they see bullying etc, they will tell the teachers off any incidents too.

1. they brought a thing in where each child was paired with a different childs for say 3 days, then they swapped. This broke up some 'unholy alliances' a bit and got kids talking to each other/becoming friends with ones they hadnt mixed with before.

will carry on thinking....

write questions down before you go in maybe so you dont forget anything you want to say.

god, epic sorry

mouse for nemo, you might drop lucky, when dp and i were both ill neither dd1 nor 2 got it which was weird.

dp is wandering around (earlier) saying he was bruce lee. apparently a bloke at his work says it when he's... wait for it,... 'entered the dragon' the night before

Bitter - sorry, skipped your post about DS

Poor little chap! Leave him alone!! Do you want me to come and sort them out?

Brian has given excellent advice and yes, going in armed with the school's bullying policy will help.

I can't believe he is being picked on so much.

SAF - I'm hoping so too re 24 hours! MrM is going to have a great weekend otherwise!!

Is that your way of bragging about shaggin again?!

Thankyou, all good advice. I think the school see it as silly teasing and don't realise how miserable DS is.

On the plus side, he has stopped stealing food, despite there being a feww goodies in the house atm.

Glad he's stopped the food thing. Now we just need to get these bulies to leave him be.

Shout if there is anything I can do. xx

ours did a bit bitter - we had to say 'we understand they're kids but pulling trousers down, showing cock, threatening kids your dad will run them over, telling kids they'll never see their mummy and daddy again' etc is not normal'

my friend who teaches said be polite (obviously) but also be fairly 'determined' they're more likely to sort if they understand you wont just 'go away'

You gonna go all Momma Mouse on they asses Mouse?

Thanks, this is all new to me and you know I hate confrontation but my funny smart little boy is miserable.

Thankyou again. I'm shitting bricks to be honest.

Oh Bitter. (((((XXXXX)))))

Morning all:) Sorry your child is having such a hard time at school Bitter, it's every parents nightmare! But good advice on here.
Got weighed by my friend last night and oh boy am I overweight:( weigh almost half a stone more than I thought so am going to have put some serious effort into shifting some lard . .
Mouse sorry Nemo is unwell:(

Hey desire!

So, what's your plan of attack for today then? Less booze = less calories too don't forget.

Morning desire.

It is a nightmare but it will be sorted, I am determined.

I remember being a lot heavier when I replaced my knackered scales. It can be disheartening but you have to remember that you are still the same weight, you haven't magically put on half a stone overnight, it's just your starting point is slightly different to what you thought.

Be positive and it means when you reach your target weight you will have made an even bigger acievement.

Morning Mouse, SAF and Bitter
Plan of action for today is starve .. Joke!
Really going to try to stick to 3 meals and if I need to eat in between (which I always do!!)then I will eat fruit (which I absolutely do not like:() Plus drink water and steer away from alcohol
Getting my vibro plate today so plenty of wobbling and shaking of fat this evening:) just hope the foundations of the house can survive the wobbling!

If you don't like fruit could you have a smoothie instead? Or some ricecakes with ham and laughing cow extra light?

Don't make yourself feel like you are being punished, that's just setting you up to fail. Post what you like to eat if you are not counting calories and I bet I could superslim those foods down for you.

Hard to superslim takeways Bitter:)

It's not! What do you like? Kebab, indian, chinese? All can be subbed healthily and still taste lush.

Here goes so . . take-away pizza, vegetarian 7", chips, chips and more chips, curry chips, quarter-pounder

Hellooooo, I fell asleep . Downside of being a member of Insomniacs United.

Let that determination carry you through Bitter, it really can make a difference. I went straight to the parents in the end as DS's school were useless dragging their feet. Insisted on talking to them with their child present. Always polite, but oh so firm and clear that it had to end.

Hello again Desire

Sorry Nemo is unwell Mouse .

Having a clearout can be sooooo therapeutic, Even as a smallish child Mum used to laugh if I asked for a bin bag . I'd like to get rid of loads in my house but it upsets the DC's. I discussed the impending doom of the sofa and DD cried so much.

Hey Mittz.

Desire - Low fat pizza. Top a wholemeal pita with tomato puree, oregano/basil, loads of roasted veggies and a sprinkling of low fat cheese.

Oven chips are fine, have them with a homemade chicken curry (tomato based sauce rather than creamy).

Tesco value curry sauce is only 4p a can (or at least it used to be). If you have a quarter of a tin that would be about 100g, works out at about 85 calories and 3.5 g of fat. And you still get your curry chip fix.

I used to have a low fat Korma recipe made with natural yogurt, will see if I can dig it out.

And the best Kebab subsitute (if you like kebabs, which I do) is falafel in a toasted pita with salad, mint, natural yoghurt and loads of raw onion. Yum!

sorry if this post comes across as patronising, it's not meant to be. Skinnying up recipes is something I had forgotten how much I used to enjoy doing.

Oh and quarter pounder - buy quorn burgers and omit the cheese, but have loads of ketchup, mustard, salad, onion and pickles.

So it still tastes like you are having a proper burger.