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[charliecat]

Theres a few quitters here.
Im charliecat and have been fag free for about 9 months after a good couple of years of trying.
Come and chat your smoking fears away!

who else went, drop? Did you miss me? at the Greenwich one I met: Jenweber, norash, toomanypushchairs, kbear, beachy, xena, I think that was all though am sure I've forgotten someone ...

Yah FG... dp told the kids he would be stoppig today..I wonder ...MLL not photos...

O God Photos-the worst thing to be ruined!
Norash,KBear,Micku5,coldtea-I've missed one out-OMG can't remember last one!
Yes,of course I missed you-we must meet up again soon,eh? Half way soemwhere for lunch?

Remember last one-Jenwebber630 was there too!

Alas, cc, yes, some photos. Most of my most important photos are still in the flat, but lots of ones of me as a gawky teen etc. are out there. Dd's 'posh' 3-wheeler is covered in stinky mould. Lots of bits of writing I've done for PhD is there (but I'm hoping it's also on zip), plus a lot of large art books are out there as we had no shelf space. I've got to go to the council and get the key for a different shed to move it to (the leak, apparently, won't be fixed for at least a month because it's coming from a flat with a lot of asbestos in it which has to be removed), take some photos and try to claim some insurance from the council. AGH!

god mll what a pain and how upsetting to have so much personal stuff ruined!! Hope it's not making you feel itchy for fags. No, no, of course it's not!!

Yeah dropinthe, snogging might well be resumed! My dh has tried to quit zillions of times but this 'feels' different. He found first week okay but is now really suffering, poor thing - fluey and achey and sloping off to bed at 10pm cos he's incapable of speech. But he's sick to death of being fag-dependent and knows he was probably gonna make himself ill, the amount he chuffed. It's GREAT knowing there's no fags in the house for me to snatch, not that I want to at the mo.

How's everyone else? How many fags have you NOT smoked now, cc?

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Mll...OMG whAT A NIGHTMARE. soorry eating and desk full of crap cant type properly.
Dp didnt smoke ytesterdya and when he gave me a snog I felt compelled to pull away, it was like being unfaithful coz he didnt stink of fags lol

Lucy-Your book, plus a little survival kit are winging their way to Malaga as we speak.Hope you get O.k and everything is a help to you!

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Wheres everyone slinked off too?

Now I have 5 mins, some b#$^&(&*ard has ordered a grands worth of stuff in my name off a catologue at my old address
I was shaking with rage yesterday, and really felt like having a smoke. I didnt though. I went up the shop for a beer.

Cc, that's AWFUL! How did it happen?

I spent yesterday clearing out the dreaded cupboard. So much stuff rotten and mouldy, amazing that in a week it could've been so ruined. 2 suitcases, a 3-wheeler pram (gift from my mum when dd born), loads of old photographs, magazines I'd saved, large art books we had no room for. Plus a lot of photographs I'd taken for my PhD and articles I'd saved, stuff I can't replace but also can't claim for on the council insurance.

I'm afraid fg, your prediction was right. When I was in the midst of clearing it out, a neighbour passed and I blagged a fag off them. I was going out of my mind. I've had one this morning too. I can feel I'm on a bit of a slippery slope here. A few too many backward slides in close succession. Life's been such a shit this last few weeks. Although I know that's no reason or excuse.

help. How do I get back on track. I'm craving again now ...

Aw Pants MLL...you have to resist.
Thats the thing with slipping, you have one puff then the next 5 days later doesnt seem as bad...arg argh argh.NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
One fags too many 1000s never enough.

I know, I know, I know, cc. I know exactly what's happening, been there before (many times now). The trouble is, each time you start to quit gets harder and harder because you remember how hard it was the last time, with the cravings and all.

and your confidence hits the floor because you were doing so well, I know, I know, I know. thats why i didnt have a fag last night. As much as something was saying have a fag, sit down and smoke and chill with it the other side KNEW there is no one peaceful fag and within a couple of hours I was pleased I hadnt. Relieved actually.
Are you jumping back in the ashtray or back on the thread?

Oh mll. It can be so very hard can't it? All my attempts to quit ever have eventually ended through doing exactly what you are doing now. When you're really stressed it's just so easy to fall back into the ashtray and ime even if you try to climb out again asap that one fag can put the whole quit in jeopardy because your brain now accepts that it's ok to smoke in certain very specific circumstances and then does its best to widen the boundaries of those circumstances to the widest possible point. I know that's my biggest danger point too. I'm so sorry about your photos and other stuff.

I feel bad now because it seems like bad timing but I'd dropped in to this thread to boast about feeling v proud of myself. It's just over 8 weeks now since I re-stopped (for the zillionth time!) and yesterday I went out with a lovely friend who was feeling so shite that she bought lots of fags with her- she quit some time back so it just goes to show how difficult it is to stay off. I was pretty tempted to join her once I'd necked a few vodkas back but amazingly I resisted- so am really chuffed with myself.

that's fantastic scummy, especially hard as your friend was smoking - you have good reason to feel chuffed!!!

Oh mll, I didn't really think you would have a fag, was only jestin'! Please don't make a big deal of it. It's done, you managed weeks & weeks without fags & can do it again. Tomorrow just wake up knowing that you've quit, that ciggies are longer part of your life or an option for you, and that they DON'T MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER OR CHEER YOU UP ONE BIT. They just make you feel more crap & angry with yourself on top of everything else you're dealing with at the moment.

cc that is TERRIBLE!!! Have you told the police? Somone did this at my MIL's old address (84 year old lady ffs) and my dh got all the details from the catalogue company & took the info to the police. They said they'd look into it but we didn't hear anything else, the people in my MIL's old house did a flit & haven't been heard from since.

Am so so glad that you didn't have a fag. You - our leader - just can't do that cc!!!

am still fag free, feeling fine, dh on 2nd week fo cold turkey, doing great but demanding copious massages.

Thanks guys.

Cc, what are you going to do about that catalogue business? I'm nog back in the ashtray yet, just my little toe in there ...

SM, come and boast, please, it's very encouraging to hear success stories. 8 weeks is fantastic!

fg, is your dp feeling a bit better?

And where, oh where, is drop?

Im gonna go to the police station tommorw, feeling like a total twat. The catologue didnt ring back, It was easier for me not to ring them today, didnt want to work myself up and they did say they would ring me...

But why should you feel like a twat cc?

Er hello there Mr Policeman, someone ordered loads of stuff in my name...I guess its the out of my control bit.

It's not your fault though, cc, is it? This kind of thing must happen a lot, no?

Dunno, hope so. I havenny not got pennys for my own bills let alone someone elses. Im hping as im not there and someones signed for the stuff it will be ok.

It's balls isn't it? But how can they be so stupid as to think you wouldn't notice? And that they wouldn't be immediately found out because they've received things at an address?!

I guess its the proving it bit. i ean people burgal places and the poloice dont even look do they?

I mean...