Thread 37: Covid Cohort 2020 Results Thread 'Heroes of Their Own Stories'

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DstarD and AstarA in bold in my last post.

Thanks @Benjispruce4 we really are. He's wiped the floor with my grades.

@singingstones thanks, yes he could. I think he just likes me there for support. The problem is...he had to go back to work after results. He's at work all day today too. So now he's not answering my texts to phone Lancaster. He needs to be home to call really. I look on google says he has 14 days to change his mind. I just looked on google maps to see how far from home Lancaster is, forgetting I'm currently in Cornwall. I didn't think it was that far! 🤣 I'm sure he will end up sticking with Sussex. He wants to go abroad for a year too. No idea whether Lancaster offer this, I can see a year in industry.

@EquallyDivided Fantastic - how brilliant!

@Benjispruce4 York St John is really good.

@Alsoplayspiccolo we are state school but I really despair when there is assumptions made either way about kids. There is also someone wanting to be spikey. I had someone badger me yesterday about DS's grades (her DS wants a different route in life to uni - and fair play to the lad) but when I said he got AAB, she said oh not great then. WTF? it is all relative! He was predicted BBC and would have been cool with that or whatever he got: He missed tons of school due to health but really tried hard in the run up to the exams. It it really boring to deal with others' nonsense. project it right back at them where it belongs.

Wow ED those are amazing results, congratulations to him!

Thanks for the support and the safe space to get it off my chest.
My relationship with this particular friend has a history of similar little digs and passive-aggressive moments from her side, and it’s made worse because she tries to get away with it in a backhanded way, eg by making out that she must be a terrible, neglectful mother for not putting her children at the centre of everything.

Benjispruce, chenin and ParvuliThankYouDebbie, I’ve got everything crossed for your DCs today. You must be in a special kind of purgatory, so I hope there’s some light at the end of the tunnel very soon. X

Ds also messaged to say he was 4 marks off the A* that's great considering he was predicted B. He has always said he'd have done better in GCSEs if he'd taken the exams, rather than predictions. So maybe he was correct. It was only the science grades he was really disappointed with. But I said let it go as he hasn't gone on to study science after GCSEs. So it doesn't matter.

I haven't read all posts. I can't keep up. I'm sorry to hear of those struggling or waiting for updates. How frustrating.

@Heifer Another mum who doesn’t sleep properly until they’re all in!

Anyone else for Newcastle? There are a couple over on the medic thread, but it feels unusually low on here.

Best of luck for today @Benjispruce4 @cheninblanc and @ParvuliThankYouDebbie .

Ugh Also she sounds awful and definitely not a good friend. I am proper fumin on your behalf 😂

I would be so tempted to get into a PA contest with her and say something about everyone having different priorities about how they spend their time and money according to what's most important in their lives but that's fine.

But rising above it is the better choice!

@Alsoplayspiccolo I came in to say what DFOD has just said!

Fantastic results @EquallyDivided

@Alsoplayspiccolo I went to private school (against my parents political values) because education was super important and trumped their values and the local comp was appalling.

They scrimped and saved and we got a big discount through dads work. We didn’t go on fancy hols tent or caravan in uk to afford it and our car was so bad their had to turn on the lights for a time with a screwdriver under the bonnet (super embarrassing and probably outing on MN if you knew us at the time) It was a divisive step which still might be mentioned today by some.I didn’t do amazingly (had undiagnosed SEN) but it gave me other opportunities and a knowledge and mindset which has been a foundation on which to build. Results day was a nightmare and I got onto my course in clearing. Graduated with a 2:1 and a great experience at NTU not Loughborough ended up going to another few unis fir degrees and have worked at one of the best in the country so got to that RG one eventually 😂

Grammar school Education can also be very very divisive with friends and family. 2 of my kids went to the comp and one the super selective grammar. People feel grammar school is elitist but everyone can do the 11+ in our county. One of mine had SEN and the other didn’t want to try so only one did it. It was great for them.

We aren’t in the position to pay for 3 at private schools (but I entirely support those that can) so we paid for tutoring in weak subjects to ensure progression.

I have been laughed at for attending so many open days for uni, fighting for better support for my kids within school for SEN and other reasons. I taught my dyslexic child French and sciences at gcse as the school were weak after work in evening for six months.

i have friends with all sorts of levels of supporting their kids. A few like me, some at a normal level and others leave their kids to it with no support (I offer to help these kids and some take it as they are lost) Whether you work or not has no bearing on the support you can give your kids. I took the day off yesterday but have more than 1 job and crazy commutes but still am there for the kids. Uni choosing, visiting and associated paperwork mostly happens in evenings and weekends.

Never feel bad for the support you give your kids - it’s hard in life when we all come from different places but their lack of involvement with their child’s uni journey is nothing to do with money, their work or time.

Sorry for my rant but don’t let them get to you. 😂🤣 think you can probably tell I’m passionate about the subject ! 😂

@Alsoplayspiccolo I don’t understand what people get out of being like that. Definitely not a friend IMO

My DS is going to Newcastle but not until 2023. I know there’s quite a few from his school going there

@272newnames there are a few more on the Oxbridge rejects thread, come on over !

DS got back at about 2:30. He (and his friends) are very lucky that DH who is his stepdad is happy to pick him up and also deposit friends back to their houses as well. They are all grateful though 😊

Piccolo, agree with DFOD, tell her to FO. What a knob.

Congrats ED.

Ds1 went nightclubbing in Winds0r till 5am. I was asleep by 9pm.

We paid £59 last night, to get his Edexel Business paper remarked. He needs 4 marks to go from A to A. (Sorry of this is petty compared to all the other shit others have going on). But his Business teacher said she could see points.I wouldn't normally do this. But I just thought Fuck it. He can't go down. So what's the risk. Then he'd have 3 x A*'s.

I know none of you will remember this, but I'm mentioning it now because we all started off on this thread together for GCSEs. But I wish I'd made more of a school fuss back then about his GCSE grades. They were fine, varied. Very good in maths and English. But that religious studies grade I think he only got 5 or something when he was predicted an 8 and remember this is a catholic school !! and I went in to speak to one of the members of leadership and he was really blasé - actually we didn't do very well in religious studies generally! and I was like yeah it's not just a minor it's a drop from 8 to 5 and that's his lowest grade.

Anyway, I didn't push it. This time I did. Who cares!

@JustHereWithMyPopcorn it's OCR RS. Will update if I hear anything today.

We had a great dinner out with all the family and DD1 surprised us by walking in and joining us, having finished at work in London and getting straight on a train! 💕💕 So I had all 4 chickies together which made me very happy! DS then went out and got back at 2am- but still managed to get up and out for his job at 8.30. Good boy.

We are so relieved he got through this with a place at his 1st choice despite dropping two points of a low offer so I can only imagine how frstrating and infuriating it is for @cheninblanc @Benjispruce4 and @ParvuliThankYouDebbie - my heart goes out to you. I really hope you get to bed tonight with a clear path ahead.

@Oblomov22 I am not a pusher, either but DS was 1 mark off the next grade in one subject. At first he did not care cos someone has to be on the border but as this was a subject he thought he had done better in he said could I email the school. I did and the Head of Sixth Form emailed back a form and said DS could talk to them about it if wanted. The thing is while we have the raw mark, we don't have a breakdown and his subject teacher is not available to look at scripts. I know it is now a review of marks (not a remark) so we are not sure whether to bother. We'd be scrambling in the dark without a marks breakdown per paper or a teacher looking at the scripts.

I posted on FB. Only that he's got A'level results and was off to Nottingham. Loads of his old football team mums gave much more detailed posts, getting firm, where, what they were studying, what grades etc. I chose not to. (But they are all really really nice). Everyone is pleasant, when I popped into school, everyone is really jolly, no nastiness. No PA digs like Piccolo's fwend bitch.

@Benjispruce4 @cheninblanc @ParvuliThankYouDebbie we all are thinking of you today and hoping the magic of this thread from the past can give you good news!

if their are any of the lurkers also in this limbo please say hi and let’s see if we can offer practical support or just a listening ear 👂.

A few years ago DS1 missed out on first choice after an incredibly tough year for us as a family but was offered foundation year at his 1st choice or his second choice. He’s ASD so this new option threw him and us. ( this is before I did the plan A-E)

We had 24hrs of hell for him as he likes a clear plan and no changes. He was upset and confused and scared of the 2nd choice as it was a big city uni not a small campus. After the 24hrs - he chose 2nd place late on the Friday as it meant no tough pass mark after a year. The uni didn’t have enough accommodation and kept us hanging then said we have nothing after a week so after looking and looking paid for private halls. Lots of unplanned changes trips to search for accommodation which after a tough year was the last straw BUT when he got there he LOVED it and it transformed him with confidence - so I feel the pain but let’s help you if we can!

I totally understand Trying. But I'd go for it. what have you got to lose? Worse case Scenario? He can't go down. Worse case scenario nothing happens. You spend the money and get nothing. I'd still do it!

So apparently Brighton halls are full or they don’t reserve space for insurance choices.
how can this be?

they’ve sent an email with some private halls options but they are £300 per week, we can’t do that

they also suggested he find other people to house share with but with 5 weeks to go this sounds very difficult.

I don’t know what to do and DS is devastated

Does anyone know if it is normal for btec results to take longer to update the ucas offer tracker. DD exceeded what she needs to have got but ucas still not showing as accepted or whatever it is supposed to say.