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TapasForTwo · 02/04/2019 22:28

I hope the visit home cheers your DD up Hardwickwhite. I hope DD doesn't end up spending too much time on her own when she goes to university.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 03/04/2019 09:57

Dd spends a lot of time in her room, if they are content I think that's ok. But it is a worry when they aren't eating well. For DD that's a sign of exhaustion. I hope the break helps Hardwick.

Dd is either working really hard in prep for her exams or doing stuff with friends this Easter. It seems to be a nice balance, though I expect shed like more gaming time

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 03/04/2019 09:59

I guess if we remember that part of what they are paying for is the whole opportunity and experience that helps.

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NoHaudinMaWheest · 03/04/2019 11:07

Dd is coming home this weekend for two weeks too. (and I really hope Flybe don't cancel my flight up)
She is very tired and had a bit of a health scare but it seems that actually it is ok.
I have to praise disability services at her university. The lift in the building for one of her subjects is broken so she missed Mondays lecture. They rearranged the rooms but the new room was in a bit of the university a long way from the central area and dd didn't feel confident to go there when she didn't know the route and had no time to practise (combination of autism and access issues).
She didn't want me to book a taxi as drivers can be quite off about taking a powered wheelchair and she didn't want to manage that herself. No one doing both her 10 and 11 o'clock subjects so no one to walk with.
At 9 am yesterday I emailed her disability advisor (dd had to go to the doctor) in the faint hope of getting any help.
They arranged for a taxi to take her to the new venue (with an escort) and back and arranged more central rooms for the rest of the week. All at less than two hours notice. I was very impressed.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 03/04/2019 13:30

It's really good that they sorted it so readily NoHaudin.

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Nettleskeins · 03/04/2019 15:58

I think you have done a wonderful job Haudin to prompt the disability advisor and get things rolling, and yes, it does sound amazing what they sorted out. Sometimes even people without a wheelchair would need that escort to get them to a lecture, I wish there was more of those simple helpful efforts to assist people who were feeling wobbly MH wise.

Dog has been for its first session of doggy daycare, in preparation for boarding for 4 nights next week when I'm away. It felt like the first day in nursery, I missed him so much, although I have to say I was able to clean downstairs in a way that has not been attempted for the last six weeks. And then when he returned he seemed very "odd" sort of detached and bewildered as if the most important person in his life had suddenly deserted him!! Sob! I am anthromorphizing here. My sister sends her dog to the same place and she says they are lovely..but still..

UrsulaPandress · 04/04/2019 19:39

Oh he won’t like that. At all.

Nettleskeins · 05/04/2019 18:17

well he didn't "talk" to me all evening..yesterday. or bite me (his more affectionate moments involve gnawing my forearms)
Today we are back to enquiries and whines and barks and tail wagging.
But he does adore the company of other dogs and puppies..ah well needs must. I am taking dd with two friends to her grandma's abroad and there is no other solution. Short of suspending him in animation.

ds1 rang me again late at night with the annoying news that he passed his essay. Passed only? luckily it was so late I didn't have the energy to show irritation.

TheFirstOHN · 09/04/2019 20:59

Sorry, you'd dropped off my TIO.

DS1 is going to a vintage clothing sale tomorrow with a friend from sixth form. One of those things where you pay by the kg. I did suggest that he might want to start washing the giant pile of dirty clothes he brought back from university before buying more.

TapasForTwo · 10/04/2019 08:57

I have added this to threads I'm watching so I don't lose it. This is by far the friendliest and most supportive FE thread on MN. Many of the others are too competitive and full of smug parents. Long live this one.

Knotaknitter · 10/04/2019 10:11

I think DS has his last written assessment on Friday and then I think (or rather "he thinks") that there is no tuition after Easter and that they will be focussing on their practical assessment. I know from the website when summer term officially finishes but I suspect that he will be effectively finished weeks before that. I'm itching to know exactly when so I can book a holiday but I'm guessing I'll get a week's notice and then only if I ask.

Nettles Ds has cheap or free tickets to a large number of performances but the only ones he goes to are the ones that they are told they have to attend. I look at the events programme from time to time (mostly to check he's not on stage and not bothered to tell me) and there is a lot I would love to see but to be honest, at 19 it wouldn't have appealed to me at all.

marmiteloversunite · 10/04/2019 11:32

Tapas that's a lovely comment. It is true though. The GCSE thread I am on seems competitive at times. Never felt that on here.

DD is home. We enjoyed her opera at the weekend. Lovely to have her home and not too grumpy so far!

starfleet · 10/04/2019 11:54

I hope you're well marmite - I was just thinking about you the other day.

DS came home on Friday night - he was originally planning on staying to celebrate his birthday but had gone out earlier in the week as his friends were either working or on a field trip towards the weekend.

We've brought some stuff back that he says he won't need as he finishes at the end of May which will now save us a couple of trips/or borrowing a van when term ends. He seems to have far more that he originally left with.....

He's arranged some shifts at work so I haven't seen much of him - with that, his social life and revision he's got a busy few weeks.

marmiteloversunite · 10/04/2019 12:16

Starfleet I am ok thanks. Got 3 more radiotherapy sessions to do. Will be finished on Monday. Then need to reclaim my life and get back to normality. Sore skin and a bit tired but nothing compared to chemo. Got lots of lovely things planned for the summer after DD2 finishes GCSES.

TheFirstOHN · 10/04/2019 12:33

marmite you certainly deserve something nice to look forward to after enduring all that treatment.

The thread for DS2's year group has also been supportive. Supporting DS2 through GCSEs and beyond has so far been low maintenance and quite a contrast after my experiences with DS1, which you all helped me through.

Supporting the other two (healthy, no SEN, moderately able) through GCSEs will hopefully be fairly straightforward. If anyone here posts on the GCSE 2020 thread then please send me a PM.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 10/04/2019 13:08

Monday is so close Marmite :) Yay!

It is a rather lovely group we have here

Nice to see dd planning a holiday independently in the summer, booking her own flights and stuff. I've not seen her very much so far this holiday, she's either buried in her room studying, or out with friends. It feels it is a though it should be. The sun is out and next week I've got a week off work. Hooray!

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TheFirstOHN · 10/04/2019 13:22

OhYouBadBadKitten enjoy your week off.

I have two weeks off work (I work in a school) but can't go away for logistical reasons (needs of other family members). I have a lot of new music to learn so I'm spending an hour or two on that each day.

Hardwickwhite · 10/04/2019 14:52

DD seems transformed. She is (relatively!) bouncy, chatty and smiley. She has slept a lot, and has arranged to meet friends. She may even be popping in to 'town' later today to meet up with a friend from uni who is down visiting. I think this may be what growing up looks like.

We are heading off to see our DPs for a few days, and I am even looking forward to just having all of them together in the car for the day. I expect the DC will all be plugged in to their headphones or asleep most of the way, but I am all warm and fuzzy just thinking about that.

The dark days of this time last year, when we didn't even think she would be well enough to go to uni at all, seem both very far away, and ever present. DH and I both cheer (quietly and just to ourselves!) every time she says she is making plans.

marmiteloversunite · 10/04/2019 14:58

Ah that's lovely Hardwick so happy that she is doing well. Hope you have a nice break.

TheFirstOHN · 10/04/2019 15:02

HardwickWhite that's lovely to hear

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 10/04/2019 15:09

That is so lovely Hardwick :) I feel warm and fuzzy for you too.

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TapasForTwo · 10/04/2019 17:43

Marmite good luck with the rest of the treatment. I hope it kills of all the nasties for ever

Great news Hardwick

I'm beginning to feel rather sorry for DD and her BF's mum. Said BF decided that a holiday to France was more important than revising for exams which are happening later this month and visiting his family/girlfriend. He did pay a flying visit on his way back at the weekend, then is paying a flying visit at the end of May, then moving to his flat at the beginning of June with no intention of coming home. I will be advising DD to make the most of her time at university and move on to pastures new.

How is your DD @MsAwesomeDragon?

Knotaknitter · 10/04/2019 23:02

Hardwick It's good to hear that she's doing so well, I hope that you get to enjoy your time together as a family

UrsulaPandress · 11/04/2019 07:35

Dd and I are currently in South Africa. She keeps on bemoaning the fact that her first year is nearly over. Her exams will be done and dusted by Feb end of May then a summer of festivals beckons.

Lovely to hear everyone's good news.

marmiteloversunite · 13/04/2019 19:35

Oh dear. I just had a bit of a moan on the GCSE thread. Seems to be a lot about high grades on there and just wish it was as supportive as this thread, more child centred and wanting the best for all. Anyway just wanted to say I appreciate you guys!