MrsAwesome I would be relieved that the university is being so pro-active, I wonder if your dd is in fact subconsciously making it much easier to make a fresh start next year by not struggling on below the radar, which would be far far worse. at least she is making it clear how she feels and how difficult it is for her. I always think this year is the Gap Year that might have been and there is nothing lost (except money) by suspending study. Big hugs to you. A friend went through this with her son, and he started again the following year, a year more mature, in a different uni, nearer home, doing loads of extra curricular things which were not uni based, and is so much happier. He also decided to live at home instead of halls, although it was an hour journey to uni. That all helped with the independence bit. At the time in his first year, his parents were in despair trying to find out how to help, and it was only the uni making the decision to tell him to start again next year, that sorted the gridlock of him refusing to admit he was miserable. My friend looks back and it all seems like a bad dream. But it is going very well now and the dynamics of the household, which she dreaded, work fine.
Pup sleeping through the night. By himself in crate. Yay! Garden is sea of mud churned up by scampering. Dh still very cross with Theresa May and new addition and told me I looked v old/dishevelled.