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Class of '18 still nattering.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 16/09/2018 12:49

forgot the old link hang on a mo...

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captainoftheshipwreck · 20/09/2018 19:33

DD has just asked me for some polish to take back to uni. She says she has a regular polishing day, that it happens every Wednesday afternoon when there are no lectures. Parallel universe.

voilets · 20/09/2018 20:02

Good luck to everyone travelling to new unis tomorrow. Day to remember!

Hope all DC there already are having a really good time.

1of mine going tomorrow. 1 next week.
Will be good and bad. New era.
Do hanker after a tidy house - a silver lining.

May I add good wishes to marmite. Flowers
And regarding A level notes, we burnt them here soon after exams. Was cathartic! Think she kept a few MFL notes.

GnomeDePlume · 20/09/2018 21:36

I hope you recover well marmite. Agree with PP about keeping up with pain meds

Feeling a bit worried about DD2 tonight. She's feeling a bit disconnected from her flatmates. DD2 struggles without lots of sleep which makes late nights out followed by morning starts difficult. Her flatmates seem to have no such worries and can stay out until 4am and then be up and good to go the following in morning. DD2 is worrying that she's missing out on the Freshers experience.

Not sure if there is anything we can do to help. She phoned earlier which is unusual for her. DD1 made some suggestions which may have helped. She just sounded so down.

voilets · 20/09/2018 21:47

Flowers to gnomedeplume's DD. It's tough starting out. Bound to be some ups and downs (I tell myself too - got to get through those first few weeks without too much worry.) I worried sick about DS1 3 years ago.

Fingers crossed she'll meet some PLM ( people like me- her) soon. Most usually do. My very shy DS did so too.

UrsulaPandress · 20/09/2018 22:08

I like to think I rarely brag about my DD, but I just need to say that she facetimes every day. At least once. Sometimes twice.

Go me.

captainoftheshipwreck · 20/09/2018 22:22

Ah but does she polish weekly Grin

GnomeDePlume · 20/09/2018 22:31

Thank you voilets. I think the big problem is the way Freshers week is pushed as a week of drinking. DD2 would have been happier with just a couple of days then on with the course.

UrsulaPandress · 20/09/2018 22:31

I've realised she take the bloody masher with her after all that.

I offered to hoover yesterday when I called in with forgotten items but she wasn't having it.

voilets · 20/09/2018 23:09

Be careful what you wish for gnome. My DD has been scared by a student in year above on her course being given an essay on 1st day at uni!! Very little freshers!
Your DD has a bit of time to acclimatize.
Once she tries a society she'll enjoy hopefully

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 20/09/2018 23:20

Aw, all the chicks leaving the nests with their potato mashers!

DS2 enrolled on his HNC today. He needed passport, NI number, student loan letter and exam certs and results letters. A bit worrying to let him have all that in one folder. Luckily he hasn't lost it.

His timetable has been a bit of a surprise. All his lectures/lessons crammed into 2 days a week, 9am - 5.15pm. The other 3 days free. Confused We've still got to fit in 2 hours of mentoring funded by DSA. No room on his college days.

I'm assuming some on the course have day release from an apprenticeship or a job or something. It's supposed to be a full time course, though. He gets a student loan etc.

His problem is that he compartmentalises college and home, college for study and home for sleep and fun. God knows when he'll get any college work done! I was hoping for a more spread timetable with 'free' slots at college to get some work done in. Oh well.

DS1 is back for his 3rd year on Saturday so I'll still be losing one chick. No sign of any polishing or mashing though. Grin

NoHaudinMaWheest · 20/09/2018 23:39

Ellen that's a shame about the timetable. I totally understand the compartmentalisation. Could the college do a compulsory study slot or something? Probably not because of their 'They are all adults now vibe'.

Gnome sorry your dd is feeling down. The party central is difficult to cope with if it is not your thing for any reason.

Dd's corridor are having a party in the pantry ( kitchen) tonight. Classes have started for them so I don't know why they are having a party on a week night. When they told dd, her first question was 'when are you finishing?' Which she acknowledges is likely to label her as the party pooper of the corridor.
They are supposed to be quiet after 11 so hopefully will. Dd was talking about calling security if they are still noisy after 11.30 as she won't be able to sleep. I hope she doesn't as that is the way to make yourself really unpopular however much a pain in the neck it is.

GnomeDePlume · 21/09/2018 05:43

Thank you NoHaudinMaWheest.

I think what DD2 is struggling with is understanding the new social 'rules'. Twice now her nights out have been curtailed by feeling she has to help one or other of her fellow students who has got themselves into a bit of a state.

On the whole she tends not to drink heavily (suffers with crippling hangovers) so on a night out is perhaps more aware of her fellow man than the people who are cheerfully getting off their respective faces. She then cant just leave a fellow student in need to their fate.

She wants to go out and enjoy herself but is then finding herself stuck holding the baby.

I am hoping it will get a bit easier once studies start and the frantic partying comes to an end.

doistayordoigo · 21/09/2018 07:41

Marmite Flowers

It was me who had the issue with the Chemistry A level notes, but the university said it was fine if he didn't have them, as he was going straight from school and it would still be fairly fresh in his mind. We did find one of his A level text books though, so he is taking that.

LoniceraJaponica · 21/09/2018 07:44

Your DD sounds very much like mine Gnome. She needs her sleep. Her BF is out partying nearly every night until 3, 4, 5 am even though his course has started, and drinking bucket loads. He is either on coke or will burn out before the end of term. DD would burn out after a week of that. She is also the one who looks after the incapacitated.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 21/09/2018 08:02

That's tough Gnome, it will settle, but lack of sleep makes the intensity seem even worse, so I do feel for her. When she finds her tribe she will be able to go out with people who don't need rescuing.

I know that dd will get on fine at uni if she gets her sleep, if she doesn't it's likely to start unravelling.

Amazon do a bulk pack of really good earplugs for anyone who needs them.

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voilets · 21/09/2018 08:31

Good call on earplugs! Smile we have some here actually as DD is light sleeper and DS stomps around after night out. Not good.

Sorry gnome, my post before did not sound sympathetic-i was rushing out to collect DC. I really hope DD gets good sleep and more sensible people around her soon. Not much fun tending to drunk people. Best wishes to her.

UrsulaPandress · 21/09/2018 08:47

First world problem. In the kitchen in DD's flat there is a breakfast bar but only three stools for five of them. Is this the norm or should one expect that they could all sit and eat a meal together? I've told her to speak to halls maintenance to ask for another couple of stools but not holding my breath.

Knittinganewme · 21/09/2018 09:13

It will all settle down into some sort of normality once the excesses of Fresher's Week are over. Roll on the start of actual tuition.

Ellen if he/you can identify one of the other days as a "study day" rather than a "free day" and label it as such that might do the trick.

LemonysSnicket · 21/09/2018 09:39

@Lucycat if it helps, tell DD to read Bleak House aloud. Helped me get through it and I wrote an A grade paper in third year on the politics of walking in BH 😂😂

starfleet · 21/09/2018 10:22

Hope today is a good day marmite Flowers

Gnome sorry to hear your DD is feeling a little down. Once they actually start with lectures etc her flatmates might curb the partying and late nights so she will feel more in tune with them.

DS is another one who doesn't drink and quite often ends up looking after inebriated friends. He also isn't one who would be pressured into going out all the time - if he doesn't want to then he doesn't feel obliged. His flatmates plus some boys from across the hall have been quite happy to stay in and hang out to play xbox/listen to music etc.

His kitchen/living area has enough tables and chairs for all 9 flatmates and a decent sized seating area with sofas - Ursula do they only have a breakfast bar?

Stay safe those who are leaving today - it's rotten out there.

FantasyAndHope · 21/09/2018 10:38

That’s tough gnome I suspect dd will be similar to yours in that she looks after them.
ursula as lectures begin this might not be such a big problem?
Haudin
She shouldn’t be made to feel bad everyone’s different hopefully it will all calm down soon.
ellen
Dds timetable is very strange and spaced out

Dd goes tomorrow but it is mine and her birthday today, she woke up and said she felt old, she’s 20 imagine how I feelHmm I’m twice her age and a little bit more

NoHaudinMaWheest · 21/09/2018 11:39

fantasy happy birthday to you and dd. Hope you can have a good final time together. Has she recovered from her op?

Party finished just after eleven so dd was able to sleep without making herself unpopular. She didn't go to the party because a room full of people she doesn't know drinking is her idea of hell.

Knittinganewme · 21/09/2018 12:16

A room full of people he doesn't know drinking is my son's idea of hell. He is not much enjoying welcome week as several of his course's mixer activities have been pub based and people haven't yet found where their limits are.

One of the flatmates has found an instant boyfriend and it's all got very serious very quickly. I would have thought it would have taken longer before they got to the big discussions about when is a visitor a resident.

UrsulaPandress · 21/09/2018 12:21

Happy Birthday Fantasy and your DD

The kitchen has 2 x 2 seater sofas plus the breakfast bar but with just three stools. They will want to all eat together occasionally (even when lectures start) so I think they will need to ask for two more stools.

DD had asked me to buy a poof and I thought it was for her room but it seems she wanted it for the kitchen. Makes up for the missing masher and bread knife.

Having thought that DD was coping admirably she is having a tiny wobble today as she has no one to go to the Fresher's fair with and she cannot possible go alone. Sigh.

Knittinganewme · 21/09/2018 12:27

Ursula It sounds like DS's flat. Two two seater settees, a massive empty floor you could line dance in and a breakfast bar. I don't know how many chairs they have but to get five around it they would be blocking the doorway out of the kitchen.

Happy birthday Fantasy I missed that earlier.

Hope you are getting some sleep Marmite, keep taking the tablets (and the apricots/prunes/bran)