Class of '18 still nattering.

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forgot the old link hang on a mo...

Ds has survived his first week. I am flying back to the UK tomorrow and meeting up with him on Wednesday as he has the whole day free.

Well done your DS Shanghai, and how lovely to have a day with him to look forward to before you go home

According to her bedder there are others on her floor! And there is evidence of more milk in the fridge, but clearly they are very secretive shy little wombles

30 to a kitchen. Yikes!!! The bathroom situation sounds good. Our dds sound so similar! :)

That's lovely Shanghai. Safe travels tomorrow.

dds room is all cleaned and her bedding hanging out. She's a tidy soul, so it was an easy job. Her cat was looking for her though.

What are the duties of the 'bedder'? Do they clean the students' rooms?

They do Ursula, it varies from college to college. They clean any communal areas including the gyps (teeny tiny kitchens), empty the bins, clean the rooms and in some cases change the beds for the students.

dds will start cleaning individual rooms by about 8:30 every day (I think maybe not the weekend? I hope not!) so the students should ideally be dressed by then.

At Oxford they're called "scouts" but the description matches. DD met one of hers this morning and apparently she's lovely.
They empty bins and hoover twice a week, and do the shared kitchens/bathrooms every day!

I want a bedder.

When I was at college we were not allowed to be on the corridors between 9 and 10 am as the cleaners were active then, which made going to the toilet difficult. That was when I realised how useful a sink in the room could be

Hi! popping into the thread to say hello. Dropped off DS last Wednesday and she seems to be getting on with things and making friends and getting organised. It's me I'm worried about. So sad and lonely - I guess it will pass. I don't feel like talking to anyone or going out and being sociable. I don't like life without her here . Anyone else in the same position? Being told to get out and do new things isn't helping.

30 to a kitchen OYBK

Dd has been to see about accommodation and the woman isn't in till Wednesday
She went to see about swapping degrees and she needs to speak to her senior year tutor she's emailed him and will see him tomorrow

She said her interview was tough

In fact dd has just rang she doesn't think she got the oxford street one as they've just rang and offered her 20 hours at canary warf? So I suppose there's a positive in that they liked her

DS1's (rather small) kitchen is supposed to be shared between 15, but in reality the whole block (30) comes to their kitchen for pres and hanging around in the early hours after nights out. It's smaller than our kitchen at home, but their halls don't have a common area within the same building, so they make do.

DS1 has fallen into a routine, which is good. Unfortunately the routine (pres, out till 3 or 4am, chat in aforementioned kitchen till 5 or 6am, sleep till 3pm, shower, breakfast at 4pm) is in a different time zone from lectures, so he is going to end up with jet-lag as soon as he decides to rejoin daytime life.

DebBaillie I felt really odd for the first few days; anxious, slightly bereft and out of sorts; I was finding it difficult to focus on anything.

I'm starting to feel better most of the time now, although it still catches me unawares at odd moments.

third ds says his flat is very quiet and he never bumps into the other 3 cos their lectures are at different times to mine...I think this is short hand for sharing a flat with three hardworking early risers..
Today's parting shot was..."you know that stirfry you left for me?"
"Yes".
"Well it has gone off. It was well past its sellby date."
"Not when I gave it to you."
"Well it is now. pause. the stuff in the freezer is still okay."
better to know as little as possible about his catering arrangements.

Yes, there are a couple of people on DS1's corridor who he rarely sees, but perhaps that's because they are awake (or even at lectures) during the day and sleeping at night.

DD2 spent the weekend back at home. For no particularly good reason it was a sober weekend. I think I heard her liver cheering!

Nettleskeins - saying from my work - if there's no mould it aint old!

(dont worry, I dont work in catering!)

Nettle that's hilarious! How dare you give him food that might go off at some point!

Deb it's such early days, I think it's ok to wallow for a little if you need to, watch crap tv, take baths, whatever soothes your soul. If it lasts more than a few weeks then that's the time to start looking deeper at what is going on.

I've not had time to think about things, barely getting time to breathe at the moment.

I think dd has had a really packed day. I've missed not getting photos from her today.

This is why my favourite communication method with DD is snapchat - I get near immediate responses (I think they are genetically wired to not ignore snaps!) and I get to see either her face or her surroundings depending on which way she points the camera!

Maybe I'll try that!

I may have recently joined Snapchat just to increase the chances of hearing from / seeing photos of DS1.

Hi all. Had my biopsy results today.

Good news is that the lymph nodes were all clear.

Bad news is that I had lots of pin head sized cancers in the removed breast (very unusual, typical me) and as I am oestrogen resistant I need chemo just to make sure a tiny cell hasn't travelled along the bloodstream. So oncology appointment next week.

I am more upset about losing my hair/eyebrows/eyelashes than my boob. I think because then everyone will know.

Scar healing well though and I am getting used to looking at it.

(Sorry if this is not what is expected on this thread but just wanted my friends on here to know!)

DD2 who has many wigs offered to fashion me a fringe to attach to a hat/scarf!

Thanks for the update marmite. I hope the chemo gets rid of it for good, and wish you a speedy recovery

Sorry you need chemo, marmite but good news the lymph nodes are clear.

Maybe eyeliner rather than mascara and at least painted on eyebrows are in. Not sure about the hairy scarf!

Marmite I'm on another group with a lady that started treatment for a large lump in her lung just at the same time as my husband died. We were in a bad place at the same time and pulled back up from there together. She had a point where her hair started to fall in patches and she shaved the lot off. I saw a photo recently and her hair is growing back again now.

Thank you. I have just ordered some pretty bamboo slouchy hats so I am prepared and I can rock a red lip!

Great news about the lymph nodes Marmite - but sorry for the need for treatment. Sounds like it was a good thing you had the full op due to those pin sized places of Disease. Better out than in.

Thank you updating and please do keep us in the loop. I hope the treatment is not too ardouous. And that soon this difficult time is a distant memory.