The military shouldn't have children

[scaryteacher]

...current boarding thread on AIBU - someone has just suggested that the military shouldn't have kids. Come and help!

that's not what she said at all!

No, it's too scary over there in current fragile state (involving DH being extended for another 6 wks somewhere hot and sunny) but go for it!!! will cheer for you from here

aaarrrggghhhh!!!! Am so sick of the military bashing in general.

I dont expect hero worshipping or even gratitude really but have read a few threads in here recently and am totally agog at the ignorance and misconceptions some people have towards the Forces.

And I say that as a woman who knew absolutely sod all before meeting DH.

Oh yeah - bring on vasectomies in the masses for all joining up!!! I am humouring them!!!

Dont take them seriously.

It is classic, I dont understand it so I will condem it.

I come from a forces family. My mum made my dad leave as she didnt want her children being moved around alot. He resented it then & still does!

I think that if the parents are happy then the children will be happy. The same if they are unhappy.

I support you all
Have some

dont put out a come and have ruck call.fight your own battles without asking mates to pile in

and fwiw no i dont agree with such silly sentiments

Just ignore them........they are rude narrow minded and just after a fight!!!!
They will never except anything other than their own views and will twist every word you say to use against you!!!!!
They are not worth the effort.
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I've been riled. One poster said that fathers who went to work abroad for lengthy period were bad fathers.

There has been a lot of ill-informed yet harshly worded comments.

But at least in this forum there posters who support those in difficult circumstances, don't make sweeping judgements, and who raise a smile despite the shit.

all round - here's to us!

cheers

Okay - had a glass of wine - off I go girls.....

wish me luck - I could be some time

on mn people say all kinds of stuff.doesnt make it true.military is a specific and unique set of circumstances and a way of living the majority wont/dont experience - so cant expect their empathy cup to overflow.not to diminish anyone upset,but cant expect strangers to get it

I'm back!

Blardy blardy blardy - I couldn't be doing with all that anti military stuff. I thought I was ready for a good old debate but when I got there, I realise I'm knackered so I'm reverting back to iplayer to watch about the Amish

scary I have been lurking on that thread, biting my tongue but nearly posted after that "shouldn't have children" comment.
It must be very difficult squaring the circle between the services job, the OH and children. I don't envy you at all. Rest assured, though, that many people do appreciate how important the services are, and are very grateful for them.

very true scottishmummy - even my parents (completely non-mil background) don't get why we have to pay for our married quarters.

They don't like the tradition and certainly think we have to 'put up with a lot'. They only get that impression from the media and certainly not me and DH (although we do moan a lot about MODern Housing.

However, just because some people don't understand the whole military thing, doesn't mean they shouldn't have empathy at least.

i agree,but pragmatically should do and do,are different entities.and many people genuinely dont engage or consider another person/family circumstance.and certainly not additional consideration for military personnel and families

'dont put out a come and have ruck call.fight your own battles without asking mates to pile in' Thanks for the advice, when I want it I'll ask.

I am fighting my own battle, and yours too. I only put it there because I am sick to the back fricking teeth of all the military bashing that goes on on MN at the moment. God forbid someone should have an existence outside their kids.

I am not in the military......and I can't begin to imagine what you all go through on a daily basis, but I take my hat off to you all and am thankful that we have you and for what you do and sacrifice for thus country.
I don't think anyone has the right to speak to someone they don't know like they have been speaking to you tonight.
So no i don't have experience, I can never experience, I can't walk in your shies but I can try to empathise.
Do not let them win by getting to you......rise above it.

posting for contributors to "Come and help!" is asking

and is a pretty explicit ask

i dont disagree with you,but a shout out to others to pile in is bit juvenile.if people want to contribute they will,and probably without Come and help!pleas

That is not what was said, but I don't think anyone should have children if they are not going to look after them full time.

i have never looked after my children fulltime apart from 6mth mat leave

I have never wanted to be fulltime mum- i actively chose not to do so,and I am a better mum for it. I have choice to pursue career and vocational personal satisfaction.

what a stupid, childish thread

Scottishmum......why did you have kids then, to junk them off on someone else.....a fashion accessory?

fashion yes!thats it to match my lin & leo bag and bugaboo

how well you know me

Surely that's a question for every parent who isn't a full-time SAHM/SAHD?

Particularly if both parents work (assuming 2 parents in the first place).

I just think poor kids........she had them but had no intention of looking after them full time.....

aye,no intention of sahm at all.nursery booked 12wk pg.it was always the plan