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"WEANING 2"

109 replies

laneydaye · 26/02/2005 12:20

What started out as a few mums trying to get helpful, friendly advice seems to have turned into a witch hunt....Get the mothers who even consider giving their babies solids before 6mths.
I was quite happy in my decision to start dd on a tsp of baby rice but now i just feel pressured even bullied that i could have done such a thing.
THANKS MUMSNET!

Any mums who would like to discuss weaning (no age restrictions)
would love any advice tips and help without being judged....

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hermykne · 26/02/2005 12:23

hear hear laneydaye

rickman · 26/02/2005 12:24

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emkana · 26/02/2005 12:37

laneydaye
I didn't post on the other thread but read it with interest. There have been similar threads in the past. I'm astonished by your post on this new thread. As far as I can see nobody has been personally attacked for weaning before six months on the other thread. I can't see a witchhunt anywhere. You yourself thanked other posters for the information given - and now you suddenly feel offended?
Hercules and other posters took the time and effort to make you and others aware of the most up to date research and advice on weaning. This is not a witch hunt, it's trying to help you and others in the interest of the health of your baby. After all it's the health of our children that's at stake here. Would you prefer people to read your post (and others like it) and think to themselves "Oh she's planning to wean early, I know that's not a great idea, but I won't tell her that" Wouldn't you rather be told?
When you're told, you can make your own mind up of course, and nobody, I say again, has attacked you or anybody else.

hercules · 26/02/2005 12:37

err, labeydaye, you asked for the link and seemed very concerned that your health professionals had given you wrong advice.

I'm sorry if answering your questions and giving you correct information was so offensive.

As for being bullied?!? And a witchhunt? Now that is offensive!

hercules · 26/02/2005 12:39

I dont think you can accuse people of bullying and witchhunting without providing the evidence. I'll look forward to seeing this.

If you dont want information then it's best not to ask for it if you know you wont like it.

hercules · 26/02/2005 12:40

I even started a new thread to post a link so as not to offend anyone.....

Please, explain exactly where you were bullied. I do not want my reputation on mumsnet to be tarnished by anyone reading this.

hercules · 26/02/2005 12:41

I have to go for a short while but will look for your justifications when I return.

Newbarnsleygirl · 26/02/2005 13:09

I can honestly say that when my dd was born I was told by my HV and Midwife to wean from 16 weeks.

I started her at 15 weeks because she was'nt sleeping (had slept through night from 6 weeks old) and did'nt seem satisfied after having her bottle.

I think I did post this on your other thread LD.

I gave her baby rice for 2 weeks as HV said it would be easier to detect allergies if I started gradually. I then started to make simple purees like potato and carrot, potatoe and other veg etc. When she was 6 months I started her on meat in her food.

She has been a brilliant eater and still is. She has no health problems and I don't regret my decision. However I am aware what the reccomendations are but I always say no one knows your child better than you so if you feel the time is now for weaning then go for it.

Lonelymum · 26/02/2005 13:12

I missed the original thread but I started weaning all my children at 4 months (ds1 was actually only 12 weeks as his appetite was insatiable) I have 4 children altogether so have loads of experience. Any thing you would like to know, I would be happy to help, with no judgemental comments included.

Twiglett · 26/02/2005 13:15

if you don't like the way people post advice then don't ask for it .. it can't always be what you want to hear especially when its changing advice in the UK

For DS (now 4) the advice was 16 weeks (I started him at 14)

For DD (now 9 months) the advice was 26 weeks (I made it to 25)

you can only do what you can do with the current advice given

Lonelymum · 26/02/2005 13:19

Laneydaye, how old is your dd? Current advice is just that: what is current. It does seem to change with the wind almost. Yet generations of babies have grown up on different regimes and most are perfectly healthy and live long lives. Try not to worry too much if what you feel is right for your baby doesn't fit exactly with the latest advice.

Twiglett · 26/02/2005 13:21

Hercules .. I just read your posts on the other weaning thread, there is no way on earth that this poster can be complaining about your posts ... you were helpful and informative, please don't worry (not that you are of course)

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laneydaye · 26/02/2005 13:22

Thanks every one, dont think there was anything wrong with what i said like you say isnt it better to be honest...

straight away hercules your offended which tells me 1 thing... this is not meant to offend anyone!

I just wanted to get advice (for) weaning, i have read with interest all the arguments and like you said i did thank everyone. Now i would love to hear from anyone regarding weaning..
thanks again....

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Lonelymum · 26/02/2005 13:23

What do you want to know Laneydaye?

hercules · 26/02/2005 13:33

You havent explained where you were bullied and where the witch hunt was.

Sorry, but you cant make statements like that without justifying them.

I'm still waiting.

hercules · 26/02/2005 13:34

What does me being offended at being accused of bullying and a witch hunt tell you?

Twiglett · 26/02/2005 13:37

tells me there's a human being behind the poster that is hercules

hercules · 26/02/2005 13:38

am I not allowed to defend myself and ask for comments about me to be justified?

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laneydaye · 26/02/2005 13:47

Hercules can we draw a line under this and move on because its becoming a one way discussion, sometimes i think the problem with email as with texting is its emotionless you cant see hear or feel what the other person is feeling can i also take this opportunity to apologise directly to you for any offence caused(it wasnt meant to turn out like this)
You are obviously very well educated(much more than me) on the subject.
SORRY HERCULES
AND ANY ONE ELSE WHO FEELS OFFENDED...

This dosent mean that mums who do/have/will and want to wean at 4 mths shouldnt get the help and advice they need without being made to feel a little bit guilty......

OH AND WITCH HUNT MAYBE WAS A LITTLE STRONG....

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Cod · 26/02/2005 13:48

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JoolsToo · 26/02/2005 13:51

what I want to know is - doesn't anybody trust their own instinct these days?

Cod · 26/02/2005 13:53

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Original poster
laneydaye · 26/02/2005 13:54

Yes and thats why i started weaning.....
as a mum i dont know all the right ways or answers to most stuff so i just go with my instinct......

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JoolsToo · 26/02/2005 13:54

I guess not

hercules · 26/02/2005 13:56

No, it doesnt mean mums shouldnt be supported. You'll see in my other messages I state just that. What I do think is wrong is that so many health professionals are quite simply uninformed and giving out incorrect information.
You asked for information as you also admitted you had been told wrongly and even thanked me for taking the time to oblige.

This morning, I find that you have accused those who helped you of bullying and starting a witch hunt.

So, yes, I am offended. I dont think that "witch hunt" may have been too strong* - it was completely out of order not to mention the being bullied comment.

If you genuinely dont want to hear current advice it may be better you stay unaware that way there is no danger of you feeling offended.

It's probably best I dont offer advice to you in future just in case it's not what you want to hear.
I really dont like being accused after helping you with what you asked for.

That's all I say as I dont suppose you'll say you were wrong, just maybe wrong.