I am fed up of being made to feel like a bad mother...

[fedupofgoody2shoes]

on MN. Most of the time I oove it but recently there have been far too many gasps and rolling eyes (well if we could see each others eyes that is).

Yes - I breastfed and will do again
I use disposable nappies
I used a mixture of homemade food and jars when weaning
I have a freezer with readymeals in it as well as home made meals
My kids have crisps and biscuits

I will never use washable nappies (I have a life)
I will never breastfeed and my bottle fed kids are healthier than some kids I know who were breastfed until they were 2.5. My kids have no allergies at all and that includes ezcema, asthma etc.

Please - give us mums who choose alternative ways a break and stop all this goody 2 shoes attitude with people. there is no need to look down your noses. Not everyone has time to spend washing nappies and cooking all day. Some of us have full time jobs, school runs, house to keep, dancing and swimming lessons, and some people don't take to breastfeeding. If powder milk was so bad they wouldn't sell it!

Please stop making people feel so judged (not all of MN is like this but there are a select few!)

ok logic, show me a thread where somebody has said it's abuse to feed your child crisps.

(I do that sometimes by the way, but am a hippy pc type)

oooh! i really wonder what a psychologist would make of this thread

The so-called 'hippy/pc' posters are soooooooo winning this thread.

Fedup ... you changed your name to make the original post then ran when the thread was up and running. You have thereby made a mockery of your own cause.

Loving this thread. Go franny, senora, hunker, welliemum and others. Such graceful, eloquent posts. I can't compete.

Short memories....!

I distinctly recall a number of threads where people have started off by saying things like - "I was with a good friend at the theatre and to my horror she let her 5 year old daughter drink diet coke and eat crisps..." I remembered these threads quite vividly because I had to smother a guffaw - it wouldn't do to have open hilarity in the office!

..and I can't be arsed to go find these threads...really...am I bovvered?

But in short - I agree that nobody can 'make' you feel a certain way, but it is perfectly reasonable to be irritated by the way some people peddle their parenting ideology - i.e. when it is censorious and judgemental regarding how other people do things (which it usually isn't but frankly sometimes, openly is)

Of course everyone makes choices to do things in different ways - and it's not too much to ask for mutual respect all round.

Biting my tongue in the interests of courtesy and good manners

please dont ask me to stop being censorious and judgemental. my life would fall apart.

You have special dispensation to continue!

ditto

likewise!

lol spidermama, we all have to win at threads now do we? rotfl Not judgemental and competitive at all then? I think my second post just sums it up really...

Hear hear spidermama!
Some really good points made here about doing your best. As the girls say,what the hell is wrong with that??

Most of us are good in some areas,not so hot in others.I can do the mother earth bit,,can't do soft play,playgrounds,watching videos with my kids and having lots of 'playdates'.

No sireeeeeee!

i am still laughing at spidermama's wood joke - very funny, classic mumsnet !

good lord no-one is seriously suggesting we stop judging each other are they? the Daily Mail would go out of business. The MN active convos would grind to a halt...
can I just make a special mention for SQUASH IS EVIL!!! (my particular favourite)

No merely that we stop being potentially rude / offensive - think you can manage it?

..she says rudely and offensively (hypocrite!)

oh and by the way to everyone on that thread about squash being EVIL who recommended Rock's organic squash as being only mildly evil, like a petty criminal or something. I sat to you it's HORRIBLE, really gritty like that powdered squash we used to have in the seventies.
so we're back to the genocidal Robinsons in this house

absolutely NOT hmc. not a hope. because, and let's be clear now, if it is a choice between saying something amusing/witty (to ME) and being rude, well, you know which way I'm going.
It's my DUTY....

lol!

parp ont this chuffin thread

ooh cod how was your day in London?

I haven't got time to read all of this thread.

Has anyone quoted my mate Marcus ??

No LGJ

Ladysherlock - I wouldn't bother if I were you!

OH ok not a good one then................LGJ slinks away.

lovely
had a hoot wiht the mners