I am fed up of being made to feel like a bad mother...

[fedupofgoody2shoes]

on MN. Most of the time I oove it but recently there have been far too many gasps and rolling eyes (well if we could see each others eyes that is).

Yes - I breastfed and will do again
I use disposable nappies
I used a mixture of homemade food and jars when weaning
I have a freezer with readymeals in it as well as home made meals
My kids have crisps and biscuits

I will never use washable nappies (I have a life)
I will never breastfeed and my bottle fed kids are healthier than some kids I know who were breastfed until they were 2.5. My kids have no allergies at all and that includes ezcema, asthma etc.

Please - give us mums who choose alternative ways a break and stop all this goody 2 shoes attitude with people. there is no need to look down your noses. Not everyone has time to spend washing nappies and cooking all day. Some of us have full time jobs, school runs, house to keep, dancing and swimming lessons, and some people don't take to breastfeeding. If powder milk was so bad they wouldn't sell it!

Please stop making people feel so judged (not all of MN is like this but there are a select few!)

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If you haven't got the bottle to post in your name, don't bother. I really hate that.

I find some posters more, ahem, spikey than others, some annoy me and make my teeth itch, and some I would love to meet. They all make MN what it is.

it's a good job there's no archive search facility in RL conversations - I can't believe comments made in the heat of a really fiery debate many many months ago are being dragged up now .

forgive and forget ladies!

moondog has given loads of help to huge numbers of posters about bf - is that all worthless because of that one comment?

Exactly. I remember when HM was making me annoyed over the Aptimal debacle and now I think she is lovely. Ditto Expat, Moondog (second homes thread!), there are loads I have been jabbing my finger at the screen at and now wonder what I was fussing about.

Get a grip folks.

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oh moondog brilliant put down and one of three techniques you use when made to look stupid.

Well thanks CFM.

I acknowledge that my tone is a little ahem..abrasive on occasion but yes,I do try and help out in an enthusiastic amateur way with b/feeding advice to those that want it.
Jeeez,even sent my two b/pumps to an MNer who has been decidedly ambivalent about the whole thing in the past.

Won't be losing any sleep over the liar's silly comments though.

"I acknowledge that my tone is a little ahem..abrasive on occasion but yes,I do try and help out in an enthusiastic amateur way with b/feeding advice to those that want it. "

and even those that don't eh moondog

Hey Olive,only get wound up about second homes,breast feeding and wild accusations of racism that I seem to attract.

Honest.

Ah, right, moondog, sorry. I was wondering why you were talking about zebra when she hadn't posted anything on here for ages.

liarpantsonfire, if you want to actually have a useful discussion, how about you have the guts to post under your own name?

I think moondog is very supportive of women trying to breastfeed. If you believe breast is best, seeing a newborn bottlefeed can be sad: it means either the mum has tried to bf and hasn't managed it, or hasn't wanted to in the first place (as is her right).

Hah! Moondog is a hypocrite!

Why change your name pants then? So people dont think badly of you for speaking your mind? is that how you feel about moondog and you dont want people to think the same of you?

Hypocrite indeed!

I dont really know moondog but so what if she said x a few months ago. People are allowed to change their opinions. People are also allowed to change their nicknames. Gotta wonder why someone has to change their name to say something "controversial" though, havent you?

Was feeling really depressed earlier. Feel so much better now thanks to everyone who posted on this thread. Laughter really is the best medicine.

Dammit! Have been made to feel...warm inside OOO, I'm not lovely, honest

And doesn't MN frown upon malicious namechangers liarfierypants one? If you have something to say, say it as you, there's a dear.

Liar - come on, it's out or order to vent spleen anonymously like that. How can that ever be constructive? What are you trying to achieve?

bit rich calling moondog a hypocrite I'd say.
she is absolutely the one person to be relied upon to speak her mind without fear or favour.
part of the rich tapestry etc etc.
(how are you hunker?)

Hunkerpumpkin - are you feeling better today?

Still sore, and now have throat infection Am at home, doing as little as possible - DS is at my mum's.

Thanks, ladies - feels odd and nice to have people I've never met asking after me

oh and I agree with this nugget of moondog's:

"But...when people accuse b/feeders of making them feel bad because they dare to talk about b/feeding and congratulate themselves and each other of mastering a very tricky skill,well that's when the red mist descends."

well put

nice work hunker, rest up.

I will be monitoring your posts HM and may yet revise my opinion .

At least if I have something to say, I post in my name and not under NoGutsHaveI or some such nonsense.

LOL at nogutshavei
or
I'mabigwussyscaredycat

or ImAHypocriteForChangingMyNameToCallSomeoneElseAHypocrite

You gotta learn to roll with the punches on Mumsnet - if everyone on here was mild mannered with no strong opinions it would be a bore. There's plenty of bitchy sideswipes at both breast and formula feeders - it all blows up, there's a big row, the row then becomes a discussion about respecting each others choices. Then a few people become bessie mates having wanted to punch each others lights out 10 posts earlier.

How succinct and accurate puff!
Very funny!

Glad you're getting a rest HM.

Indeed puff. It would be nice to know who you were trading punches with though!

on an additional note....why is it people ask you for advice STATING 'good or bad or slap me' and then when they get advice 'good or bad and maybe slap me' they "thank" those that were supportive and slate those whose advice they didnt like? wtf is that about?