I am fed up of being made to feel like a bad mother...

[fedupofgoody2shoes]

on MN. Most of the time I oove it but recently there have been far too many gasps and rolling eyes (well if we could see each others eyes that is).

Yes - I breastfed and will do again
I use disposable nappies
I used a mixture of homemade food and jars when weaning
I have a freezer with readymeals in it as well as home made meals
My kids have crisps and biscuits

I will never use washable nappies (I have a life)
I will never breastfeed and my bottle fed kids are healthier than some kids I know who were breastfed until they were 2.5. My kids have no allergies at all and that includes ezcema, asthma etc.

Please - give us mums who choose alternative ways a break and stop all this goody 2 shoes attitude with people. there is no need to look down your noses. Not everyone has time to spend washing nappies and cooking all day. Some of us have full time jobs, school runs, house to keep, dancing and swimming lessons, and some people don't take to breastfeeding. If powder milk was so bad they wouldn't sell it!

Please stop making people feel so judged (not all of MN is like this but there are a select few!)

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Jazz hands sounds great. But what does it mean? (Slightly thick, quizzical emoticon.)

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i find too much funny imo
i am alwasy wanting ot be more serious

you know those theatre school types who tap dance round life literally? well you call it jazz hands when you waggle your hands round your face like the black and white minstrels used to do. gawd, really hard to explain online!

Pruni ... BRILLIANT !!!!

unker whay re you so dwon on ourself at the mo
get over it
i am missing funny hm

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nope
nada

Sorry, Cod. Should be in bed. Will go now and see if I can find my jazz hands for tomorrow

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i want ot take more seriously
am always looking for a cheap gag
find everyhting endlessly amusing

talk too mcuh
find out tivia aout poeple a lot and really dont need to
knwo all abotu my window cleaners kids!

can i be serious?

ooh oooh

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lol

night!

i better go a dn read godot

NQC..it's refreshing to note that someone at least understood the carseat analogy without imploding in self righteous fury.
Zebrz makes some very intelligent points.

Spider..your dress wearing son sounds very similar to my nephew who has been lovingly nicknamed Grayson (after the potter transvestitie).
He's in Brighton too.
How about starting up a junior cross dressing club?

Oh, was that your analogy?

To be fair, I didn't explode in fury because I've only barely used formula at all with both kids (DS1's first few days). The frustrating thing is, on the bf/bottle threads, the women who get most hurt are the women who wanted to breastfeed, and tried really hard, and didn't manage it, for whatever reason. They already know breast is best.

(I feel pretty much the same way about natural birth. I really really wanted it. I didn't manage it, either time. So I stay out of threads about it, by and large, as I don't see the point to upsetting myself.)

Spidermama - I missed a train as a result of your first 'dress' thread!!

No NCQ ,it was Zebra's.

I don't see that there is anything on MN but deep sympathy for women who had a bash at b/feeding and didn't succeed (don't like the word 'failed').

There is huge sympathy for these people and a real commitment to helping out people struggling with it.Why else would so many of us post so prolifically on such threads?

Similarly,if a woman bottlefeeds and feels happy about it,who cares!? Whatever floats her boat.

But...when people accuse b/feeders of making them feel bad because they dare to talk about b/feeding and congratulate themselves and each other of mastering a very tricky skill,well that's when the red mist descends.

BTW where is SM's dress thread please?

Moondog, what a crock. Wasn't it you who famously said that she had to move into a private room in hospital because the sight of the bottle feeders made you sick?
I don't see that there is anything on MN but deep sympathy for women who had a bash at b/feeding and didn't succeed (don't like the word 'failed').

"There is huge sympathy for these people and a real commitment to helping out people struggling with it.Why else would so many of us post so prolifically on such threads? "

Your blatant hyprocrisy is sickening. You are one of the worst offenders on MN for getting personal and nasty when you don't like the argument.

Another one too scared to say who she is (really,I don't know you and live thousands of miles away so what is the problem???)

I don't want to see people bottlefeeding newborns.

So?????

(You also seem to fail to recognize tongue in cheek comments....)

Spider - dd2 goes to school with a little boy who loves 'dressing-up'. Always has done. She had a 'princess party' for her 6th birthday - all girls plus 1 boy! He's not bothered, he does ballet & is really good at it (apparently, much easier for boys to make a career of as well, if he likes dancing) He's now 8 & yr4, tends to dress up more in 'luvvie' clothes rather than dresses, but still loves dressing-up & performing. Parental attitudes do play a part, he's not encouraged, but not discouraged either, so no-one seems to see it as a problem. I've told him I want front-row seats when he does his first ballet show!

BTW Custy - think your post of 1:09 yesterday was eloquent.

lol at 'luvvie' clothes.
Like what??

Its fine you don't want to see people bottle feed newborns. well of course it isn't fine but I don't really need to say that as most of MN are sane rational women who can see that comment for what it was ie. not tongue in cheek at all and made solely to inflame and annoy. My problem with you is since you ask that you now pretend like you give a damn about people who can't breastfeed. I don't like hypocrites. If you don't give a damn you don't give a damn. Don't come over all saintmoondog on us now.