Sexism examples

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Has anyone got any examples of sexism here in UK recently?
husband truly believes there is not much sexism “these days” 🙄 we work in the same profession and i gave him a few examples of at work and he was like “really! I’m sure most people don’t experience sexism nowadays”
I agree we have come a long way but also think he doesn’t see and a lot of little things will go un noticed

Because they earned more than women for doing the same job. I still believe the retirement age should not have been equalised until the women it affected had all been born before the sex discrimination act.

Everyday sexism by Laura Bates worth a read by your dh

Very common in the NHS sadly. Especially if you are their mum's age. Suddenly they think you are their mum.

Reminds me of this:

So true I'm (only) 21 but I know from history that a man used to earn more than a woman for the SAME job!
We should ALL be compensated!
Sorry but why did having a dangler merit more money?

I believe the justification was that the man was expected to be the primary earner and pay for everything. Which is of course patriarchal, but women at the time would've also expected this of a man.

But men just got a worse deal full stop. I'm not saying the WASPI women shouldn't have got compensation (although I'm sceptical tbh of many who claim to have been completely unaware) but there's an argument that it's not acceptable just because the government said so at the time. We see many other demographics getting reparations for the events of the past so I think men would have a good case here.

Oh it gets worse.

Men got the 'married couple's tax allowance' so they paid less tax on their superior earnings.

If, by chance, the woman earned more then the couple could not transfer the allowance to her, this only changed in the late 1980s.

I despair of the world...

That, and some of the other gross inequalities of the past, have been removed so I wouldn’t say that example is a cause for despair.

OK but there are still plenty of things to despair...

Being asked to stand on the scales every time I go to the GP yet my husband who has high blood pressure and high cholesterol is NEVER asked.

Some other things I am old enough to remember but have, thankfully changed:

Rape in marriage was legal.

Women had to get permission from their husband for a hysterectomy.

Single women were not able to get the pill.

Places like banks would advertise jobs for men and women but the jobs are different.

You needed your husband or father's signature for a loan.

When a couple in our family moved overseas pretty much everyone assumed it was for his job. No - it was her they wanted they constructed a job for him.

I suspect a lot of sexism is not fully obvious. I have been reading unwell woman which highlights the way women are perceived in the medical world e.g. if a man goes to doc with pain they are taken more seriously than a woman. I have various joint problems (mainly osteoarthritis) which causes pain and I don't think my GP takes it that seriously. I don't know if a man would be treated differently but I think so.

In work I and female colleague are expected to be good at the building morale in team and to have softer skills than our male counterpart. We are better but only because we play the role of leader not that we are inherently better. It's not easy but we do it. When members of our team reach out with personal issues we listen. Male colleague doesn't. We see it as part of our role as team leader he doesn't. I see it as human, he sees it as female.

I had a good one today...female sales rep had come from Ireland to visit my company. Within the meeting she mentioned she had a daughter and a husband. After the rep had left my female boss commented that she doesnt know how she can do a job with travel when she has a kid as "who on earth is looking after the child"...I answered that I imagine her husband is as she mentioned she had one...
Second example last weekend...I was visiting some friends, male friend asked where my child was, I told him she was at home with her dad (he knew I had a partner and it was obvious he wasn't out with us), he then asked if my partner is "ok" looking after our child and "does he mind"...

And when they changed it, there was a married couple’s allowance which went by default to the husband. The wife had to apply to get her half of the allowance but couldn’t get all of it like the husband could. I married in 1999 so only got it for a few months before it was abolished.

Paying vat and tax on sanitary products until 2021 was it?
Getting told to "smile love" by (and always in my experience) older blokes. Just fuck off and leave me alone!
Being told not to wear my hair in a pony tail as when I'm walking home in the dark it'll make it more easy for an attacker to get hold of me 🙄
When going out out, people asking me if DH is at home "babysitting" erm....no, he's parenting his offspring, as he should!
People being shocked when I book an overnight stay somewhere "what about the children?!!"
Presuming when I'm upset or stressed, it's because I'm "due on".
Being behind with my pension compared to DH as I was a sahm when DC were small so he could progress in his career.
We moved house recently and all the tradesmen we had in for the jobs stated they would have to speak to the "boss" in terms of the finances after I had contacted them all and had discussed with them the plans for the work.They were shocked when DH turned around and told them I was paying for all the work so it was up to me what work would go ahead 🙄🤔

Why is it not optional?

Just thought of another one, many years ago I worked in the NHS. My uniform was usually a white dress (one place had a trousers option) but the men usually just put a white coat on.

Patients would assume they were the Dr.

A couple of years ago a nurse ran the London marathon wanting to break the record for a nurse running the marathon in uniform but was initially denied the record because her uniform wasn't a dress.

www.runnersworld.com/uk/news/a27329345/runner-nurse-guinness-world-record-london-marathon/

There's a current thread where posters are debating whether it's appropriate to go to a Magic Mike show for a hen do. People are saying the groom is being 'controlling' and 'abusive' for not being happy about this.

If this was a groom going to watch topless women doing sexy dances we'd all be calling him a creep and defo not calling the bridge abusive for being a bit unhappy about it. There'd be calls to LTB.

I have a different name and nationality to my daughter. We just keep a copy of her birth cert in the back of her passport, hardly a problem. I do feel now though I should have gone for both names for her, at the time I was not bothered.

Sexism - wait staff assuming the 7up is mine and the IPA his, male colleagues introducing female peers as 'the lovely...', my mum complimenting my husband on the decorating and gardening I DID ME ME, then patronisingly admitting that 'oh I am sure you helped', men claiming women can multi task to dodge the boring tasks, the car rental desk in Dublin airport that handed HIM the keys despite me being the only driver and the one that just that minute did all the paying and box checking...

None especially life shattering. My.mum alone would fill a thread. Maybe I can change one or two so when my magnificent teenager is my age she will laugh. And give her daughter her name.

I went into my local bike shop to buy an e-bike and was asked if my husband was with me.
Same week, DH and I went into a cafe and the waiter gave us one menu, he handed it to DH saying ‘I’ll give it to the bill payer’

Did you say anything? I’d have been fuming at that.

especially as I’m the earner and pay the bills! Dh is part time.

he actually quite enjoys challenging the stereotypes, it’s been an eye opener for him as when we first met we used to take turns paying on dates. Back then titles were included on cards and every single time they would bring my card (dr) back to dh. Buying cars, dealing with all that stuff, he now redirects every time- “no point talking to me, it’s my wife’s decision/money/who knows what she’s on about”

@Whatsgoingonherethenagain ooooooh yes! With the bike shop I replied “Do I need to? Said with attitude and a hard stare. I got an apology. A genuine one at that.
The waiter didn’t think he’d done anything wrong though and walked away a bit miffed saying it was only a joke. Both got my back up straight away and I’m still annoyed a few years later!
Will always call it out and have many more examples over the years. Luckily having pointed it out to DH over the years, he is much more aware of it and also directs people to me when appropriate.
What I find hard though is when women do it without thinking. For example, someone in my hobby group was describing a man and said ‘he’s like an old woman’ as an insult. I’m sure she didn’t realise what she was actually saying as it’s just one of those sayings thrown about by society but as a mature woman myself, I was immediately annoyed by it.