Sexism examples

[Magicboobies]

Has anyone got any examples of sexism here in UK recently?
husband truly believes there is not much sexism “these days” 🙄 we work in the same profession and i gave him a few examples of at work and he was like “really! I’m sure most people don’t experience sexism nowadays”
I agree we have come a long way but also think he doesn’t see and a lot of little things will go un noticed

If you went on holiday to Dubai, you don't care about sexism. Or, for that matter, human rights.

All that, purely from a holiday destination? You know me so well 🙄

For you know about Dubai's record and on human rights?

Anyone who holidays in Dubai is either ignorant or stupid.

I suspect it is mainly mums who are prosecuted for non school attendance.

This is outrageous.

My PILs are very sexist. Examples:
Women's job is to look attractive
A woman should look after her husband
Women shouldn't play football
It's a DIL's job to look after her PILs (thankfully not directed at me)
Only a woman will know how to do domestic tasks
Men shouldn't be expected to tidy up after themselves
A woman's job is less important than a man's
Etc...
That's just from this afternoon...

oh yes- my pil were the same.

the did a lot of childcare for their grandchildren. Boys played video games, watched dvd’s, played football. No demands were made of them.

girls “loved helping” grandma, spent their days being given dusters and toy vacuums so they could copy housework. If they went into the garden it was to help peg out the washing.

I ended up putting my kids in nursery, that was one of the deciders.

And it's not as if this is optional once you have kids, as it's hard to travel with children who have a different surname. Maybe children should carry their mothers' surnames, since more children are raised by mothers than fathers.

In my case it was because my maiden name was my father's surname - also patriarchal. But I chose DH. I didn't choose my father. DH is way less sexist than my father. Switching to his name aligned me with a name that reflected an independent choice I had made, not a patriarchal family name that came from a line of male bullies.

It is not hard to travel with children with a different surname.

never has been.

Urgh. Another day, another “my name was my father’s name” that you only ever hear from/in relation to women. We apparently aren’t robust enough to ever own our names like men are. 😡

yep- your name is your dads name, but dh’s his his name.

you don’t mention dh’s dad’s character, if you changed your name based on your dad, why haven’t you taken Dh’s dad into consideration.

@WinterFoxes where on earth did you get the idea it’s “not optional” once you have kids? It absolutely is.

Ah. And another one. You’re filling my “That’s Sexist Bollocks” bingo card at quite a pace this morning.

Why is the father’s name the default for children? Again, a hideous tradition where men were so insecure about themselves that they wouldn’t pass any of their wealth onto children that weren’t branded with their surnames. How very jolly.

DD has both mine and DH’s surnames (his is a middle name). We’ve both travelled extensively with DD together and separately, and only once been questioned. It was on the way back into the UK from Switzerland when we were all together (and my dad as well). DD just told the officer who we all were to her and all was fine. No hassle whatsoever.

I travel extensively with DD’s sport.

mix of mums with same names and different names.

the only time there was a serious problem was when two mums with the same name were stopped. They had no documentation to show they had permission from the child’s dad, or to show their relationship.

they very nearly missed their flights. They had to get in touch with their Dh’s, and get him to send bc and speak to customs giving verbal consent.

i will say though for dh having the same name makes him more comfortable travelling. It doesn’t make a difference obviously, but when he takes the dd away for a sport trip he’s concerned that a 50 year old bloke checking into a hotel with a 14 year old girl with a different name could end up raising flags.

Easily solved by giving children both names though. Not a reason for women to change their names routinely.

Recent one (last night). Seat on a plane between 2 men. Both (one was DH) took the armrests as belonging to them by right. DH got a Paddington stare and we lifted it. The tiny, tiny man next to me spread across it with a cheery smile. No idea at all that this was shared / communal or a dividing line. He took the space he needed. I am way taller than him so it was not a size thing.

what’s a reason for women to change their names?

i have never said anyone has to change names.

dh and I both have very long surnames, for us giving both names wasn’t an option. Mine is “foreign” as well with random consonants. An 8 syllable surname seemed a bit ridiculous.

i actually like having a different surname to my kids and husband. For me it comes with more pros than cons. In fact I don’t think I’ve come across any cons.

sorry, I must have read your post differently than you intended. Did you give that example as a reason children should have their father’s surname?

DD’s name is long. Double barrelling would have been 5 syllables, and with a 4 syllable first name it would have been a mouthful. So she got my 2 syllable surname and DH’s went as a middle name. The link is there without the frustration of a long surname.

No, not as an example as a reason to give a fathers surname. Dd may never have got into the sport she did and it might never have come up.

just an anecdote for the poster who seemed to think women had to have the same names as their children or they can’t travel. Although as dd is getting older he feels less comfortable staying in a hotel room with her anyway, nothing to do with names.

It's really not... I never married ex, so I've never had the same surname as one of my kids (gave the other child my surname - one each). Travelled a lot with them solo, both holidays, and to live places. Never had any issue.

Estate agents are hugely sexist - nearly lost a rental once because they sent the paperwork to ex - despite having never met him or spoken to him - and he was away and I didn't open his mail.

Then my house, is rented out right now, with my dad as the local contact - they know this, they know it's my house, I've corrected them multiple times (not least because it has both legal and tax implications) - yet still, they address statements etc. to him.

It's a continuous drip-drip of little things

Men taking away single sex provisions and replacing them with mixed sex.

I have heard so many men say ‘but it’s fine on a plane’ urgh

Yes but its NOT fine is it?
Maybe its NECESSARY - but then again maybe it's not!
If there's room for 2 toilets, there's room for female and male ones. Imho the ONLY times there should be mixed-sex toilets is if either there isn't room for two or if one or the other stops working.
(Though I'd say that if the Men's stops working, they can rough it outside - I'd relax that rule on a plane though!)

I think the whole WASPI situation is an example of sexism. Why aren't the men being compensated for the previous disparity in retirement age?

The compensation is because the Government failed in its duty to inform. It would have applied had they done the same to men.