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Can I be a feminist and not be fully pro-choice until term?

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Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:03

As in to think there should be some restrictions on stopping a mother aborting their foetus very close to term if there is no reason other than the mother has decided not to proceed?

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Riva5784 · 24/02/2024 19:26

There should not be any legal restrictions. As pp said we need to focus on getting abortion out of the criminal framework altogether.

If anything, there should be more support for women so they truly have choices about having children.

HemlockSoup · 24/02/2024 19:26

LauderSyme · 24/02/2024 19:19

You really have no right to decide that.

Being feminist doesn't mean all the rights and none of the responsibilities, imo.

Plus I can think of a lot of things that are way more anti-feminist.

Tough.

I have a right to my opinion and that's my opinion.

Whether you agree or not is of no consequence to me.

BlueWhippets · 24/02/2024 19:31

sprigatito · 24/02/2024 19:11

@ZebraPensAreLife what you're describing is forced birth. It's anathema to any feminist.

But the woman would have to give birth regardless? It's just that one would be a live birth and the other wouldn't

itsachange2024 · 24/02/2024 19:31

I thought termination as a choice ( not medical ) was 22 weeks max but usually less than 12

fedupandstuck · 24/02/2024 19:33

itsachange2024 · 24/02/2024 19:31

I thought termination as a choice ( not medical ) was 22 weeks max but usually less than 12

It's 24 weeks not 22, and allowed after that for medical reasons.

CurlewKate · 24/02/2024 19:35

You can be a feminist and hold non feminist views, so long as you acknowledge and understand that they are non feminist and why.

AuContraire · 24/02/2024 19:36

Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:03

As in to think there should be some restrictions on stopping a mother aborting their foetus very close to term if there is no reason other than the mother has decided not to proceed?

Do mentally-well women ever ask to do that?

Whatsgoingonwithyourhead · 24/02/2024 19:37

Where in the world are there no restrictions on abortion close to term?

elgreco · 24/02/2024 19:39

Can someone please explain why having a live birth at 38 weeks is a forced birth but giving birth to a dead baby is not a forced birth?
It doesn't get reabsorbed at that stage nor is a cesarean carried out. The mother has to give birth at that stage in pregnancy be the baby dead or alive.

Boomboomshakeshaketheroom · 24/02/2024 19:40

IncompleteSenten · 24/02/2024 19:11

I'd be very surprised if a femanist actually fell for that bullshit argument tbh.
We generally understand that women simply do not get to 39 weeks and go actually, you know what? I've changed my mind, let's kill it...

It's a tactic often used by anti choice activists trying to get people to think this is something that would be happening if we didn't restrict women's choices.

I like this in principle, but on the other hand it feels a bit arrogant (and reminiscent of the trans debate) to dismiss a line of argument with 'that never happened/will never happen and you're a misogynist for saying it'. Are we absolutely sure?

I also think about the fact that it's not just one woman's choice, there needs to be HCPs willing to carry out the procedure - I wouldn't want to see them compelled to do so.

itsachange2024 · 24/02/2024 19:41

Sorry the max legal time is 24 weeks after that it's illegal in the uk unless there is a severe threat to the Mothers life or very severe disability for the child.

Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:41

@baileybrosbuildingandloan

Where is that legal?

It's not, but a significant number of feminists seem to think it should be based on the posts on this thread.

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Datafan55 · 24/02/2024 19:44

heldinadream · 24/02/2024 19:06

Yes absolutely. I'm the same OP.

Agree. Me too.

DancingLikeARobotFrom1984 · 24/02/2024 19:46

I agree with you op.

Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:46

sprigatito · 24/02/2024 19:10

The idea that women are having 38 week abortions of healthy foetuses on a whim is in itself misogynistic, btw. The idea that this is a common enough scenario to need legislation to prevent it is really offensive. Unrestricted access to abortion isn't about aborting more foetuses, it's about respecting that women are adults who can be trusted to make their own reproductive choices. Your position is inherently anti-feminist.

Of course there are very, very few ultra late term abortions for anything other than very serious medical reasons, but just because there are very, very few doesn't mean it should be allowed.

There is equally (in this country at least) very, very little infanticide, but we don't say "let's allow it to be legal because so it happens so infrequently"?

Besides, very late term abortion for anything other than extreme reasons is illegal, and if it was made legal, the numbers might increase.

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Knit1Purl · 24/02/2024 19:47

Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:03

As in to think there should be some restrictions on stopping a mother aborting their foetus very close to term if there is no reason other than the mother has decided not to proceed?

You are conflating two issues. MPs could decide to lower the limit at which abortions take place because more 22 to 24 week babies are surviving. The decriminalisation relates to what happens to someone who causes herself to abort at any stage. Ie if a woman is so desperate as to terminate a pregnancy so late, that the last thing she needs is a criminal investigation, trial and possible prison sentence. A case last year or possibly 2022 made a lot of people question what should happen in such cases.

fedupandstuck · 24/02/2024 19:50

Really, do you think that there would be a meaningful increase in late term abortions? That there are women now who are pregnant who want to abort at late term, and the only reason they continue with the pregnancy is that they cannot access a legal abortion?

Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:51

@HemlockSoup

That's as anti-feminist as it gets.

That's one of the most hyperbolic statements I've ever read! Move over Taliban, @ZebraPensAreLife is far more misogynistic because she allows a little bit of nuance in to the abortion debate!

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Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:51

TheMarsBarRover · 24/02/2024 19:17

My understanding of feminism here is to allow women choices. That means letting them choose to abort if they wish. You could choose not to abort: another woman could choose differently.

What, even after her water's have broken?

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HemlockSoup · 24/02/2024 19:53

Moonfishstar · 24/02/2024 19:51

@HemlockSoup

That's as anti-feminist as it gets.

That's one of the most hyperbolic statements I've ever read! Move over Taliban, @ZebraPensAreLife is far more misogynistic because she allows a little bit of nuance in to the abortion debate!

'Move over Taliban, @ZebraPensAreLife is far more misogynistic because she allows a little bit of nuance in to the abortion debate!'

And I'm the hyperbolic one?

Itsmeamandaberry · 24/02/2024 19:53

You are obviously not pro choice if you are putting a limit on women's choices.

DrSpartacular · 24/02/2024 19:54

As early as possible, as late as necessary, for any or no reason.

A woman's decision to terminate her pregnancy should be made with her doctors and is nobody else's business.

JaneAustenshandbag · 24/02/2024 19:55

Thisisthedawningoftheageofaquarius · 24/02/2024 19:12

in ireland we have a restriction on abortion to about 12 weeks. I’m uncomfortable with abortions after this personally; and very uncomfortable with them after c 23 weeks when the baby could live. I consider myself a feminist. My kids were born prematurely so the idea that has definitely coloured my view

I just squeaked in at the 12 week mark. It wasn’t choice - I’d had a NIPT screening that I’d paid for privately that showed a 99% risk of Down’s syndrome. I didn’t want to wait for the amniocentesis because that would involve me giving birth at 20 weeks if I then chose not to proceed. It was put down as mental health rather than medical reasons because I didn’t wait for further invasive tests (99%) was enough for me. I don’t believe women have later terminations on a whim.

Jellybean85 · 24/02/2024 19:56

sprigatito · 24/02/2024 19:11

@ZebraPensAreLife what you're describing is forced birth. It's anathema to any feminist.

Sorry to be crass but if you decided to terminate after 24 weeks (viability) you are forced to give birth by nature?

I'm not against late abortions for all sorts of reasons but I fully assumed you would have to go through labour etc at that stage regardless if you are birthing a deceased foetus or live baby Confused

Tillycx · 24/02/2024 19:57

ZebraPensAreLife · 24/02/2024 19:10

You can have bodily autonomy without having an abortion, though.

I fully believe that a woman has the right to decide at any point that she doesn’t want to be pregnant any more. But if the foetus could survive and be healthy outside its mother, it should be given the chance to do so - so the pregnancy should be ended by a live birth rather than by abortion.

I don’t consider that position anti-feminist.

Yes this pretty much sums up my stance, no woman should be forced to remain pregnant but I don’t think any woman should be able to demand the baby’s life be terminated either. Although also think the idea a woman be punished for ‘negligence’ with her own body which resulted in loss of foetus is wrong too, whether that’s woman who too abortion pills or carried on with dangerous sports and had an accident. I also think abhorrent abortion forced on women in any circumstances whatsoever (for whatever reason, age, disability etc)