What's your title?

[LorlieS]

I'm married.
I go by the title of Miss at work (primary teacher) and Ms everywhere else.
Hate it when people refer to me as Mrs S.
Nope - that's my mum!!!

Ms after divorce

I go by Dr, I kept my name professionally but I use my married name elsewhere - I didn’t for many years, but our DC have my husbands name (I didn’t feel strongly enough to go against the tradition, although my husband said he would be fine if we’d used my name) so I like having the same surname as them. We used to travel quite a lot too so it made sense for us all to have the same surname if I was in my own with them.

I've been Ms since the age of 16, through two marriages and divorces. I don't care enough to correct those who address me with Mrs, Miss or Mr, but I choose Ms for the same reason I did as a teenager: there's no good reason for women to announce their marital status every time they give their name!

@DistinguishedSocialCommenator Take it you use Mrs?

Dr.

Depends on whether I'm trying to avoid being outed or not. So Dr or Ms. It is interesting the way you sometimes get a better response on switching from the latter to the former.

Just thinking it’s weird that mister is male and sister is female. Maybe we should stake a claim for it instead of missus.

I digress.

I’m a Mrs for things involving the children, and avoid titles for everything else where I can.

This really annoys me - not you, but the morphing of Ms into YET ANOTHER marital signifier!

I just want a relationship-neutral, female title. That's what Ms was supposed to be.

Mrs because I prefer the sound of it and don't care that people know I'm married, because I am married.

Should women do away with wearing engagement and weddings rings? If giving away your marital status is somehow problematic to some.

Mrs husband’s surname

@AgateQ Married women don't have to wear any rings if they don't wish to; they're still married!!

Miss, Mrs and Ms are all contractions of "mistress". Wonder if I should start using Mistress Garlic?

@ApoodlecalledPenny Why "a Mrs for everything involving the children?"

@LorlieS It's the admin aggravation, and I have enough of that already.

I found people treated me better as Mrs than Miss back when i first got married a long time ago. Which isn't right, but not surprising in a patriachy. I know you are supposed to fight against it, but sometimes it's easier to take the wins.

I think that has probably changed over the years as its been less and less common to change names so i doubt theres much difference between a miss v a mrs now. So well done girls. I wasnt part of that change but i did other thing around dads doing flexible working.

@Garlickit Why not? 😀

Or Madame. The French change your title when you're about 18, it's got nothing to do with marriage.

I'm a Ms. I used Miss until I got married, and then used Mrs for a while. I got a more clued up about feminism and the patriarchy, so I switched to Ms, and I've been using it ever since.

I was proud to be a Miss in my younger days, but very proud to get married and be a Mrs. If I found myself single tomorrow, I’d switch back to Miss or Ms. And if I had to buy a washing machine from Curry’s tomorrow I’d happily stick it in the drop-down menu.

Of course they don't have to! But I have yet to come across a married woman who doesn't wear her wedding bands (unless they can't be worn for work purposes) Point being calling yourself Miss because you don't want people to know your martial status while simultaneously wearing a wedding band is a bit odd IMO.

Nothing, Dr or Mrs depending on the context.
If I was getting married now I'd maybe have stuck to Ms and my original surname though I never liked it so I'm not sure tbh.
I haven't worn a ring for years though - afaik absolutely no-one has ever noticed.

@AgateQ I do neither! Why does anybody need to know I'm married unless I wish to tell them?
Do you find it equally strange if a man (known as Mr regardless of marital status) doesn't a wedding ring?

I dont wear a ring. Noone seems to notice.

Miss( don't like Ms) l do get Mrs.. but I'm divorced many years ago and use Miss.

But I have yet to come across a married woman who doesn't wear her wedding bands (unless they can't be worn for work purposes)

Xpost, I don't, nothing to do with work, was uncomfortable when I was sailing and a pain to get on and off so I decided not to bother. Not sure I know where my rings are now tbh. DH never wore a ring anyway so why should I?