The reels I’ve seen always feature very young women with no children. I think we are living through a time where the pressure on marriage is unprecedented. The success of a marriage depends entirely on the happiness of the couple, with none of the external forces of social stigma or excommunication to keep couples together.
Yet despite having the legal right to work, having children is a gamble that can significantly impact your earning potential or plunge you into poverty. Men can and do walk away from their moral and financial responsibilities with no social or legal consequences.
So I can understand why the illusion of the trad wife/ surrendered wife/total woman or whatever iteration is compelling but it’s a very naive fantasy. And it’s grim when you place it alongside the male version of this fairytale as pedalled by people like Andrew Tate.
It’s funny how there isn’t a comparable men’s movement promoting ideas of being a good and loyal husband and giving yourself over to the life goal of keeping your wife happy.
And for me that’s my standard of all the versions of female empowerment I’m offered - is this how man are empowered too? Selling sex, pole dancing, wearing see-through or pornified clothing, wearing a veil have all failed that acid test for me.