Correct. A kidney is not a baby.
Babies can be commission for a price.
Kidneys cannot. Well, outside of the black market you can’t.
Make that make sense. Creating tiny human beings to function as commodities / gifts is deemed not just ethical, but to be celebrated.
I think what many surrogacy/ donation activists, clients and human farmers forget is that babies become children, children become adults. The “seems fine” at 11 years old can look entirely different in later life.
I changed my mind (as in 180°) about gamete donation and surrogacy after reading 100s of stories written by adults (young and not so much) who were conceived, born and lived as a result of this trade. It’s fucking heartbreaking reading about a human falling apart on the inside because they tamped down everything they felt when young. From birth trained to the language required of them, which deliberately stripped away the reality of mother/father, dressed it up as “just cogs in the wheel of making you exist, emotionally irrelevant other than being grateful to them. Only for the “human created by mail order” to hit a wall at some point of their adulthood, quite a few when they became parents themselves.
As my username suggests, I’m more child-needs-centric than adult-wants-centric. My 180° turn on opinion happened because there were so many emotional overlaps between their experiences and my own. Except nobody tells me to be grateful for what was done to me. Whereas they run the gauntlet of adults on the commissioning, benefitting end of gamete donation/surrogacy constantly doing the “flying monkeys” & screeching at them. Calling them “vile”, “ungrateful”, the “occasional case” (they don’t say “acceptable tiny human collateral damage to get what adults want” but it is clear what they mean)
Yes there are children born of gamete donation and surrogacy who have no issue with how they came into being. Some of them grow into adults who will live a lifetime with no issues. The same is true of children of adoption, parental alienation, abandonment & bereavement. But only one of those is celebrated as a good thing to do to a person ON PURPOSE with an absolute refusal to heed the lessons we learned in the wake of attitudes towards all the others once being “no biggie”.
In time (too much time for the number of people left to deal with how they came to be, and who they were given to, like a present or a product) gamete donation & surrogacy will come to be perceived in the same way the Magdalene Laundries are today. They didn’t think they were doing wrong either. They thought they were helping, doing the right thing. That the kids are OK. No doubt they called their own detractors “vile”, “unfeeling” towards infertile couple and morally bankrupt too.