I was reading about South Korean radfems who don’t date, have sex, marry or have children with men.
They sounded really cool.
It made me wonder if there are other women/feminist who have made similar choice?
Feminism: chat
Anyone here who has opt oit having men in their lives?
YouAreNotBatman · 03/05/2022 08:52
Fifteentoes · 12/05/2022 17:21
Thing is you're judging that from a woman's point of view, so of course it's going to seem that way. But a large number of men say exactly the same thing the other way around. So it's probably more accurate just to conclude that there are massive differences, in general terms, between how men and women see things and what they want out of relationships; that it's really hard to make relationships work with the opposite sex and many people (of both sexes) would be happier without them.
I think the OP makes a lot of sense. It's a cost:benefit calculation, for each individual I suppose.
picklemewalnuts · 10/05/2022 14:37
I was wondering about this, and why I'm averse to socialising with men now.
I pondered that a men seem to do well out of relationships, and for a single man a relationship with any woman generally improves their lives. There's no downside to 'settling'. For women, the opposite seems to be true. The right man may well improve their life, but far too many settle for a man who makes their life worse. Thus I tend to see single men as predatory, and am reluctant to socialise with them.
Moonface123 · 12/05/2022 17:44
l do not label myself as a feminist , l stand for equality for all, but l have chosen to live alone the past 9 yrs since my husband died. l am not anti men, l enjoy mens company, but this way of life suits me and my two older teenagers. Even if l date l have no desire to share my home, maybe its the stage of life l am at, but l find it so freeing after years of being a wife and Mother to have my own space, routine and way of doing things. l feel secure and self sufficient knowing l am physically and emotionally independant and accountable to no one.
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YouAreNotBatman · 25/07/2022 17:18
Social animal, perhaps, but it doesn’t mean we all have to have a partner.
Friends, relatives, pets etc. are all social engaments.
And like I said, you sounded very convetional and now you said it.
I’m not traditional at all, I believe in going forwards and making your own path in life.
So, obviosly this is not something I’ll regret.
Moonface123 · 12/05/2022 17:44
l do not label myself as a feminist , l stand for equality for all, but l have chosen to live alone the past 9 yrs since my husband died. l am not anti men, l enjoy mens company, but this way of life suits me and my two older teenagers. Even if l date l have no desire to share my home, maybe its the stage of life l am at, but l find it so freeing after years of being a wife and Mother to have my own space, routine and way of doing things. l feel secure and self sufficient knowing l am physically and emotionally independant and accountable to no one.
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