Question - how much of a feminist ally is/ was your dad ?

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My dad, in his 80's now, big burly working Irishman always treated me ..........exactly the same as my brothers.
Sport, DIY, learning to drive , learning to cook, cleaning, life admin, car maintenance. All shown everything, all expected to muck in, all valued.
It's as I go through life that I realise that my group of friends had vastly different experiences with fathers and that their expectations of adult relationships are vastly different.

I think my dad was always a bit afraid of my mum. Never contradicted her. They only ever argued about politics, that would be before elections.

In hindsight, quite a good one. Working class bloke, typical of his generation except he shared the house-work equally with my mum, taught me how to iron my school shirts cos he did the ironing, played footie with me and my sister, called out sexist bs wherever he saw it and championed us in everything we did. Never once did the fact that we were girls not boys come into it. He's not the most academic of men, left school at 14 for tech, but has been a huge supporter of our education and careers.

Absolutely onboard with everything - I had to sit them both down and explain safe space and self ID though, but they do agree with me.

He'd be in his 90s if alive but was a complete ally. Shared everything with my mum. absolutely no "princessification" of me and my sister. encouraged us in careers (as did my mother) . Was explicit with us about what we should expect from a relationship/man (as in don't put up with any crap). sister and I are very different and married to very different men but they both have exactly the same values as my dad. he was a huge influence on me.

My father is and always has been a stonking misogynist, and with hindsight I can see it really affected me negatively.

My Dad used to say 'only a woman could be a mother' as men were too selfish and a bit useless. He definately believed that women were superior and was a very supportive father, he believed i could achieve anything i put my mind too, even if i couldn't manage to always have a clean hanky on me.

Not at all. He used to beat my mother, have affairs and then beat me. He also remortgaged the house that she was paying for without telling her.