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Who did you walk down the aisle with at your wedding?

109 replies

Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:36

Don't want my dad to "give me away" - bleurgh!!

But not sure I fancy the walk on my own?

Not that we are having an aisle as such, it will be into the centre of a circle as we've chosen to have all of our guests form a circle around us (small wedding, just family and a few close friends).

We have a gorgeous little girl together who will be flower girl Smile and one much older bridesmaid.

I'd love to hear suggestions/about what others have done.

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MaMelon · 14/06/2021 13:18

I walked down with my dad but he very definitely didn't give me away.

Wanttocry · 14/06/2021 13:20

DH. We got ready and arrived together, and walked in together.

TedImgoingmad · 14/06/2021 13:26

My dad walked me down the aisle, but he didn't give me away. I did the whole traditional white wedding thing because I was trying to make everyone happy, and my mother was very ill, so I just wanted to keep the peace. Also DH's family are quite traditional, so I didn't want to call attention to my family's general weirdness by doing anything "different". I hated the whole thing. There's almost nothing about my wedding I wouldn't change if I could turn back the clock. Including actually getting married, to be honest. We did have a fucking amazing band though, so that was good!

PioneerWoman · 14/06/2021 13:38

My Dad was lovely but I walked briskly down myself. I don’t enjoy fuss. Did my own hair and make up (tinted moisturiser, lipstick and brushed my hair) and bought some flowers en route. You should do whatever feels comfortable to you.

dratalanta · 14/06/2021 13:38

We each walked down the aisle with both of our parents (one on each side). Marriages are about family, so we wanted the parents included in the ceremony. If we had children, we would probably have chosen to walk with them instead, but we didn't, so parents it was!

But it was important to me that we both did the same thing. I wouldn't have wanted it to seem like my parents were involved and DW's weren't (lesbian here). If I'd been marrying someone who didn't want to walk with their parents, I might have walked down alone.

Although men don't usually walk with their parents, especially men marrying women, I've been to several heterosexual weddings where they did exactly what we did (each partner accompanied by both/all available parents). In fact it was a straight wedding we went to fifteen years ago which gave us the idea.

DumbestBlonde · 14/06/2021 13:42

I first asked my Grandfather, as he and Grandmother had brought me up from age three. He did not want fuss as he was recovering from a heart attack.
I then asked my Father (their son) with whom I had on and off contact throughout my life, more so as an adult. He did, however, live in France, but was regularly here for business.
He agreed, but changed his mind (urgent matter in France, he said) two days before, and shot off back to Bordeaux.
I then had to ask his brother, my uncle, who had featured largely in my life. If nothing else, the hire morning suit fit him OK.

Speaking of which, his wife, my aunt had already interfered when I had my grown up male cousins as ushers, and boycotted me hiring their suits, as "God wants us to be thrifty" (Mormons.)

My Uncle then gave a disparaging "Father - ^sigh -of the Bride Speech", making fun of me to the hugely diverse guests.....
And my absent (always) Father made a phone call to me that I had to walk into the main bar of the hotel to respond to, the oh-so-glamorous Man of effing Mystery.

You could not make this shit up Sad

All the lovely stories are SO nice. I really should have just not asked anyone....

YetAnotherSpartacus · 14/06/2021 13:57

Marriage free :)

Terranean · 14/06/2021 14:07

Registry and just with the one family due to travel issues. End on divorce, luckily no children. Now marriage free with two children for 20 odd years.

Usernameisgone · 14/06/2021 14:09

My brother walked me down the aisle

1starwars2 · 14/06/2021 14:15

Church, walked in with husband to be and both kids (they were still cute then).

slug · 14/06/2021 14:24

DH and I walked in together. Dad was there, but quite happy not to do the father duty for once (he has 7 daughters)

TheDogsMother · 14/06/2021 14:26

Walked in with DH to be.

ShivRoy · 14/06/2021 14:30

The taxi driver who took us to the all night chapel - viva Las Vegas!

girlwhowearsglasses · 14/06/2021 14:51

My twin 12 year old sons. Was lovely! Then my 14 Yo read a poem

Pyewackect · 14/06/2021 14:55

My father. Church wedding.

NutellaEllaElla · 14/06/2021 14:57

My mum and my dad but retrospect I would walk with DH

RedToothBrush · 14/06/2021 15:02

We got married abroad. We were told the local tradition was for the bride and groom to walk down the aisle together. We didn't have any guests (just witnesses) so otherwise i would have been walking alone so it made sense to do that but I quite liked the idea anyway.

There's no law that says you have to be given away. There's no reason why you can't do it your way / a different way.

Natsku · 14/06/2021 15:06

Not married but if/when I do get married I'll be doing the same as my parents did, and walk down the aisle together with my partner. That's the normal way in Finland.

VolcanicEruption · 14/06/2021 15:12

My Uncle (mums brother ) My dad died when I was 13.
Sadly my mum, uncle and DH parents have now gone and a number of relatives from the group photo.
This year is 45 years married though.

annonymousse · 14/06/2021 15:21

First wedding my dad. Second wedding we walked in together. None of that not seeing the groom before the wedding nonsense. He was laid on the bed and we chatted and drank champagne while I got ready. It was a perfect day

AliasGrape · 14/06/2021 15:22

My brother. Had my mum still been alive I’d have asked her to walk with me.

It was very much a case of holding my hand and walking with me rather than giving me away though. I have 3 siblings and we’ve lost our parents and we’re close so I liked involving all of them in the ceremony - one walked me down the aisle, one did a reading and one was a witness. I was really happy with my choice in the end, my brother was excellent at keeping me calm beforehand and I know how much it meant to him - ultimately that was more important to me than the statement I would have been making by doing it alone (even if I’d have quite liked to have made the statement anyway!)

AliasGrape · 14/06/2021 15:23

I made my own speech though - brother isn’t the speech giving sort and I’ve never been the type to let anyone else speak for me Grin

EishetChayil · 14/06/2021 15:35

I had a Jewish wedding, and was walked down the aisle to the wedding canopy by both parents.

dementedma · 14/06/2021 15:37

With my brother, as my father refused to

Miller2021 · 14/06/2021 15:47

My husband and I got ready together, walked over together and walked down the aisle together - it was lovely, and made the whole thing seem a bit less formal. There are some things I'd change about my wedding if I could, but not that.

I'm very close to my dad and he is still with us, but I've always felt uncomfortable about being "given away" and he understood. I think he would have found it a bit too emotional anyway!

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