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Who did you walk down the aisle with at your wedding?

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Iecydda · 13/06/2021 22:36

Don't want my dad to "give me away" - bleurgh!!

But not sure I fancy the walk on my own?

Not that we are having an aisle as such, it will be into the centre of a circle as we've chosen to have all of our guests form a circle around us (small wedding, just family and a few close friends).

We have a gorgeous little girl together who will be flower girl Smile and one much older bridesmaid.

I'd love to hear suggestions/about what others have done.

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OneEpisode · 14/06/2021 20:09

One point is what to do with the bride’s mum (assuming she’s invited to the wedding) if the bride is on dad’s arm. One option is for the parents to walk into the venue first, maybe groom’s mum with bride’s dad & etc.

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JulesJules · 14/06/2021 19:07

We had a very small wedding, us, 6 guests and the vicar. The vicar led us in, me and DH first, then we all stood in a semi circle with us and the vicar in the middle.

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LeanneBrownsLonelyBraincell · 14/06/2021 18:46

My dad, not from a 'giving away' perspective but as his only daughter it would have been his only chance to do so

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HaplotypeK · 14/06/2021 18:45

Walked in myself holding my newborn. I'm not anyone's to give (or receive).

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Gatehouse77 · 14/06/2021 16:20

I walked down the aisle with my brother (father isn't invited so it wasn't about being 'given' away).

DH walked down with his brother (before me).

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NinaMimi · 14/06/2021 16:18

I’m getting married next year and been thinking about this. It’s a registry office and I’ll have a 1 year old. I don’t want my dad to walk me down so I’ll have to work out what to do. Most likely walk down as a family. I’ve never been to a registry office wedding so don’t know how they normally start.

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firstimemamma · 14/06/2021 16:03

Walked in with DH, our DS and 2 flower girls. Perfect for us.

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trevthecat · 14/06/2021 15:59

Me and my husband walked in together

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InTheNightWeWillWish · 14/06/2021 15:52

DH walked with both of his parents, then my bridesmaids, then I walked in with both of my parents. We each gave both our parents a hug at the end (or I tried to, my dad just went and sat down 🙄). I’d have walked down the aisle with DH but he didn’t want that. DH wanted to see me walking down the aisle and I didn’t want to be given away (or have it viewed as being given away, even if I got rid of the words), so it was a bit of a compromise. It was actually really nice.

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Miller2021 · 14/06/2021 15:47

My husband and I got ready together, walked over together and walked down the aisle together - it was lovely, and made the whole thing seem a bit less formal. There are some things I'd change about my wedding if I could, but not that.

I'm very close to my dad and he is still with us, but I've always felt uncomfortable about being "given away" and he understood. I think he would have found it a bit too emotional anyway!

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dementedma · 14/06/2021 15:37

With my brother, as my father refused to

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EishetChayil · 14/06/2021 15:35

I had a Jewish wedding, and was walked down the aisle to the wedding canopy by both parents.

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AliasGrape · 14/06/2021 15:23

I made my own speech though - brother isn’t the speech giving sort and I’ve never been the type to let anyone else speak for me Grin

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AliasGrape · 14/06/2021 15:22

My brother. Had my mum still been alive I’d have asked her to walk with me.

It was very much a case of holding my hand and walking with me rather than giving me away though. I have 3 siblings and we’ve lost our parents and we’re close so I liked involving all of them in the ceremony - one walked me down the aisle, one did a reading and one was a witness. I was really happy with my choice in the end, my brother was excellent at keeping me calm beforehand and I know how much it meant to him - ultimately that was more important to me than the statement I would have been making by doing it alone (even if I’d have quite liked to have made the statement anyway!)

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annonymousse · 14/06/2021 15:21

First wedding my dad. Second wedding we walked in together. None of that not seeing the groom before the wedding nonsense. He was laid on the bed and we chatted and drank champagne while I got ready. It was a perfect day

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VolcanicEruption · 14/06/2021 15:12

My Uncle (mums brother ) My dad died when I was 13.
Sadly my mum, uncle and DH parents have now gone and a number of relatives from the group photo.
This year is 45 years married though.

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Natsku · 14/06/2021 15:06

Not married but if/when I do get married I'll be doing the same as my parents did, and walk down the aisle together with my partner. That's the normal way in Finland.

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RedToothBrush · 14/06/2021 15:02

We got married abroad. We were told the local tradition was for the bride and groom to walk down the aisle together. We didn't have any guests (just witnesses) so otherwise i would have been walking alone so it made sense to do that but I quite liked the idea anyway.

There's no law that says you have to be given away. There's no reason why you can't do it your way / a different way.

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NutellaEllaElla · 14/06/2021 14:57

My mum and my dad but retrospect I would walk with DH

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Pyewackect · 14/06/2021 14:55

My father. Church wedding.

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girlwhowearsglasses · 14/06/2021 14:51

My twin 12 year old sons. Was lovely! Then my 14 Yo read a poem

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ShivRoy · 14/06/2021 14:30

The taxi driver who took us to the all night chapel - viva Las Vegas!

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TheDogsMother · 14/06/2021 14:26

Walked in with DH to be.

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slug · 14/06/2021 14:24

DH and I walked in together. Dad was there, but quite happy not to do the father duty for once (he has 7 daughters)

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1starwars2 · 14/06/2021 14:15

Church, walked in with husband to be and both kids (they were still cute then).

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