I feel quite low, could do with some friendly advice.

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I was going to change my name but don't really see the point.

I just feel really low atm and have done for a few weeks. I think it's a combination of things but a worrying one is that I think things may be coming to an end with dh.

We haven't said anything to each other but it's just little things we say and do and sometimes I'm sure we look at each other and realise things aren't right.
There would be so many problems if we did seperate and tbh I can't quite believe I'm actually admitting it. Maybe things can be patched up, I don't know. He spends so much time working and if he's at home we never do anything as a family hardly and we never do anything as a couple as he hates going out.

My anxiety/phobia is also making a come back when I thought it was on it's way out which is something else. I'm almost sure it's triggered when I know dh is going to be working for a long time and I know I'm going to be on my own for while. It's seems silly really considering things aren't fantastic atm.

I don't really understand why I've bothered posting this tbh but if anyone could offer some good advice and make me feel less pants I would appreciate it but please please no one cat me as dh will see it!

Having read this thread for the first time I thought I might be a little late. Life is crap sometimes isn't it. And I completely understand. You feel lost in your own world, hopeless and alone.

Bur there is hope, honestly! I still suffer from depression, my last bad bout was about a month ago but I am slowly learning to cope with it. Like you my partner works long hours, he's still out at a business dinner now. I have 3 children, an ex husband and a lost baby.

I tried different things to help me, drugs (horrible) counselling (good cos it helped me identify the problems. But I have found the most helpful thing was time and emotions. When I feel depressed now I allow myself to go with the flow rather than fight it, i try to open my mind and drift along with it. After a certain amount of time I say to myself what's positive today and slowly my mood starts to lift and I'll do simple tasks to help alleviate my sorrow. I try to think about myself in a positive light and be a little more selfish.

I don't have any close friends to rely on but I think that has to do with my perspective on the world. I know I could make more of an effort.

Women tend to be selfless. But I have found that if I do the things I want that makes me happy than everyone else seems happier too.

I truly hope this helps. I know its not always easy but I wish you all the best love in the world.

Thanks goodkate.

about your lost baby.

I agree with the positive thinking. I find when I'm having "a do" I try to think of positive things, plan things so I have something to look forward to or like you said just do simple tasks.
I found when it was really bad in the early days that writing a list helped me. Thank god it isn't that bad now.

The fact that it isn't as bad as it has been is a really positive thing don't you think? It makes us realise that we are slowly getting better.

Time is a great healer and I'm learning to take comfort from the bad things that have happened (strange as that may seem!)

Good Luck. You can contact me anytime if you feel like a chat. It may do us both good.