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going to have a 'good' week

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Sax · 06/06/2005 09:58

Hope to be around a bit this week but on the onwards and upwards line not the low and sad one. Decided to take a positive attitude starting now and hope not to disappoint myself. i should be here if anyone needs an ear! Have a good week everyone......

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Sax · 10/06/2005 11:57

I am trying to escape all my responsibilities at the mo. the house looks like a tip, I have 101 things I should be doing (the boys are fine btw) but probably need more attention from me, lots and lots of things but I come on here and try and escape which isn't exactly facing it all is it? Very cowardly!

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Sax · 10/06/2005 11:58

and yes numb is a good way of describing it!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 11:59

Sax - Not at all!! It was coming on MN that finally made me go to the GP. It was some very wise Mumsnetters that helped me put things into perspective. You shouldn't be so negative and down on yourself.... you have not said one thing positive about what you are doing. Why would you think you're being cowardly???

I should be putting together a claim for a my company..... but I'm on here! Now THAT's cowardly.

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:03

there isn't anything positive except the boys are being fed, watered and looked after, everything else important is being ignored!!!!!

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:05

I don't feel good about being me because I don't feel I know who me is - God this isn't making sense!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 12:06

Isn't that one of theeee most important things???

Please don't be so dismissive of the things you ARE doing. Does it really matter if the housework is not getting done today.

Bollocks to housework and all the other practicalities! You're children are now Mumsnet Orphans.... they'll just have to deal with it.

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:10

thank you

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:11

It isn't just today though, the housework is never getting done, I keep being late for things and missing things (ie. two birthdays yesturday), the phone calls are getting done, appointments being made - I have sooooooooooo much I should be doing...

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:12

i just can't be bothered, it all seems too much to face

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 12:14

Sax - So you've got a crap memory too... Isn't that motherhood?!?!?

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're not superwoman! (or maybe you are, thats the wonderful thing about the internet....>ponder

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:17

I just sound pathetic, you must have better things to do, I'm sorry I was just feeling a little sorry for myself - I'll be fine, just need to not think so much!!!!!

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:17

I wish I was superwoman, then I wouldn't be talking so much shit!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 12:22

I know... the simple things feel like mountains to climb. The tablets should help soon.... you should feel the cloud lifting and the little things will start to seem possible.

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Sax · 10/06/2005 12:23

Thank you for your time and keep the name its cool!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 12:25

No probs!

Think I will keep the name... for a wee while.

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Sax · 10/06/2005 13:23

I REALLY REALLY REALLY NEED TO STOP WASTING TIME!!!! Bloody addictive this MN thing - good therapy, to read about others with their probs means you feel you aren't the only worrier, over anxious, don't feel ever doing enough for kids mother!!!!! Going out with boys now, going to be positive and going to smile at the world and pretend all is well!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 13:32

Sax - lol... I think just about everyone on MN are over anxious worriers!! Thats why we joined MN in the first place.

Go out and try to have a genuinely good day. Just think..... one day very soon that smile you're wearing will have a happy feeling behind it.

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Sax · 10/06/2005 13:35

I can't believe you are at work queenflounce getting paid to be on MN - hope you don't get found out! Still here btw, sad aren't i!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 13:35

I know.... I will get fired for it.

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Sax · 10/06/2005 13:36

Sod that, you are helping out friends in need, much more important job...........please don't get fired!

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QueenFlounce · 10/06/2005 14:14

lol I try my best not to.... but one random internet check and I'm fecked!

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Sax · 10/06/2005 21:10

Well - I have come to the conclusion the tablets ARE definatley working.

Today I went to a friends house with all the boys, a few weeks ago firstly I would have been in a total state about meeting lots of new people, plus having all the boys would have daunted me being convinced everyone is judging me about my parenting skills.

Result- boys didn't play up - no anxieties about meeting new people and all in all a good, positive afternoon. I am really chuffed and cannot believe the tabs have such a good effect! Honestly I would have had a panic attack over this three weeks ago, I'm feeling very settled tonight.

So even if I can't make a whole day of positive positive positive, at least I can part of the day!!!!!

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assumedname · 10/06/2005 21:14

Brilliant, Sax. Join us in the bar?

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Sax · 10/06/2005 21:15

what bar?

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Sax · 10/06/2005 21:19

What do you mean, join us in the bar??? where is this???

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