The Anxiety Club (continued) !

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Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

Hi - how are you feeling now?
I was just looking here to see if anyone minded me joining this thread but then saw your message.

Are you able to do any breathing exercises when you feel like this.

(breathing in through nose for count of 4. Out through mouth for count of six. put hands on abdomen and make sure abdomen goes up an down as well as chest so that you are breathing deeply enough. At the same time you have to force yourself to only think about your breathing and stay in the moment. Its just gives you a break for fiv mins from thinking - 'ive got too much to do, ive taken on too much, i'll never do it etc.')

Sorry - youve probably heard all this before but didnt want to leave your post unanswered

Hey BTP, i'm here too! How u doing now??

Sorry to hear you are having a bad day! Wish I lived closer - i'd love to help you with the cakes!!

Have to put a very tired DS for his nap, brb!

Welcome Kizzie - newbies more than welcome anytime

x x x

Sorry I wasn't around earlier Greyskull. How are you doing now? Around a bit this afternoon if you come back xx

Did you get out to nursery Yommy? Thank you for your kind words. Most days I'm ok, but I get myself worked up over little things and then I don't eat, which I need to sort out. How are you feeling today?

Welcome kizzie, how are you?

I've done the dreaded Tesco trip this morning and spent way too much. But I didn't go last week so had to stock up.

Was supposed to be having some friends over this evening, but 2 of them are ill so we have had to postpone.

Awe Blissa,

I hate when that happens - especially when you are looking forward to the company! I am feeling good today - got a bit of asore head coming on though . We are still snowed in, but all the men are out digging so might get out for a bit later! DS2 is getting really fed u in the house, he just wants to be out all the time! I remember DS1 being like that at that age too - now he just wants to stay in and watch cartoons, lol! Had DS2 out in the street, the neighbours must think I am mad - its too deep for him to walk,lol so he just moans out there too! [hhm]

Well done for getting to tesco! We really need shopping too, but will do the big shop on line!

Hope your okay BTP - come back n talk to us! Whats making you feel so bad today?? Is the pressure of thinking you have taken too much on?? You'll get there with the cakes! You always do And they are fab!!!

x x x

thanks all,
am around, I just am trying to rationalise the time I have aailable and remind myself that there are enough hours in the day.

so to write things down...

new cake taken on for next wednesday (short notice but have said yes) we are not busy this weekend so should be able to get most of the decorations done ready to bake the cakes on Tuesday.

Next wednesday I have to bake a fruit cake and make some lillies for a 90th cake for the week after.

I also have to make a postman pat van to go on a cake that is being picked up on the 11th

a lightning McQueen cake for the week after that and

I have a girls 10th birthday cake for the week after that.

so that is 5 cakes in the next 5 weeks.
I have wanted to make money out of my hobby for ages but I am not comfortable with this level of resposibility.

There are enough hours!! I CAN do this..
I just wish I believed the words that I am typing

Hi - thanks for the welcome - hope greyskull feeling better now and making lovely cakes :-)

I have had recurrent bouts of severe anxiety/depression following PND 10 years ago. I had no probs before then but it seemed to trigger something.

Ive been on long term low dose AD's since then. Tried to come off many times but always relapsed.

Dropped dose a couple of months and panic attacks started again a couple of weeks later.
I upped my dose again about 3 weeks ago but still struggling. Although its still a low dose so wondering if I might need to go higher.

Im actually ok now at dealing with panic attacks - its the following constant anxiety and then depression which i find impossible.

This has come out of the blue in a way because ive been very very well for the last 3 years (altho on the low dose for all that time.)

x

Do you feel better now that is all written down Greyskull? I often find that if I'm under pressure and my head is full, just writing it down helps a lot. There are enough hours and you can and will do it. Your FB page is fantastic, I wish I could produce something half as amazing

Sounds like you have been through a lot kizzie, it's horrible when it hits you again after a period of being ok. You will feel better again, do you find exercise or hobbies help?

Thanks Blissa. I try to go on long walks - and do really 'boring' activities if that makes sense to calm down the anxiety (so needlework / sudokus etc. - things i dont normally ever do plus i take fish oil capsules and a multivit/min - and make myself to 15 min relaxation excercises twice a day.
I also really cut back on sugar etc.

(of course when im ok i do none of these things!!!

morning all,

thanks for letting me pop in yesterday,
am feeling a bit better today Ihave got some of the stuff done ad rationalised the other bits.

Kizzie, I apologise for not saying Hi. sounds great that you do your relaxation exercises may I ask what it is you do with these exercises?

Hi Blissa and Yommy, how are you both doing?

I have agreed with DH that I am going to join the local gym it is less expensive than the ones in town but it has everything I would need. It is also a potential good space for me to escape to.

wishing you all a very calm and happy day.

Hi greyskull - glad your day is bit better today.
The main relax exercises i do are the ones i listed above. So for 15 to 20 mins do 4 breaths in / 6 out. Keep counting the breaths and try and focus all your thoughts on that. Sometime its difficult to keep your mind focussed on it but its worth keep trying. I also do one where you tense and relax each muscle in your body. Again the idea is to completely focus your mind on it for 10-20 mins.

x

Afternoon Girls,

How are you all! Finally managed to get the car out of the street today so had the boys out for lunch and the amusments, started going for a walk and the rain came on

BTP Glad to hear you are feling better today and nice to have you around - the thread has been so quite recently! And well done on joining the gym - I really need/want to do that!

Hope your having a nice weekend Blissa - did you do anything in the end up last night??

Kizzie that must be so hard being well for all that time then for it coming back! I am the same as you in that I had never experienced anything like this until after the birth of my ds1 (4 years ago) it really sucks as I just want the "old me back". I haven;t tried meds, just try to cope on my own with some councelling and although I am much better than I was its still a daily struggle and stops me going places I would really like to go with my boys

Better go check on DS2 - in the car sleeping!

Need to think about dinner - I am feeling sooooo exhausted today. Feel like I could sleep for a week! yawn!

Hope you are all well x x x

Hi ladies, hope you all had a good weekend.

Glad you are feeling calmer Greyskull. The cakes you have made look great. That's a great idea about joining the gym- I still haven't got very far with my getting fit thing.

Good to hear you're no longer snowed in Yommy! It rained here all weekend and today there is glorious sunshine . Didn't end up doing anything on friday night, just sat in with dp.

I feel knackared today, managed to have a lovely bath this morning while ds was at pre-school. Also got hoovered round and mopped the floor- although now ds has been playing in the garden and has traipsed mud everywhere coming in to show me the carrots he has dug up!

evening ladies, hope u are all well. Had a fab day out with my family today, despite a very early start with poorly ds2. Beautiful first day of spring :D summers on its way, woo hoo!! typing this on my phone from my bed, so not a long message. X x

Hi girls, how are we doing?

Hope ds2 is feeling better Yommy, and that you had a lovely day.

We had another beautiful day here yesterday, and today isn't too bad. Although I did see the forecast for snow on friday night

Just enjoying a peaceful 10 minutes to myself with a cup of tea and a hot cross bun. Need to go to the bank and then the shop for mushrooms to go in our spag bol tonight.

Watched Shameless for the first time last night, was very funny.

Hope you're all ok
xx

Lol Blissa, I love shameless, been watching from the beginning - I love it!

DS is still loaded with the cold, but he seems to be feeling better, thanks!

Ima just having 10 mins me time too - going to ready my magazine while DS is napping

We have had a few gorgeous days too, today a bit hazzy, but still nice.

Hope everyone else is well x x x

Hi ladies,
sounds like you are enjoying the good weather
I am feeling on bit of a downer at the moment and really trying to drag myself out of it.
convinced myself yesterday that DH was going to ask for a divorce when he came home so spent the afternoon planning on how I was going to tell him the answer was no... so I got in there first when he came in and said, if you are about to ask for a divorce the answer is no - we have just got to make it work. He got upset - he thought things were fine with us and wants me to stop having dark thoughts about him... I just feel like I am failing him and the boys again and beginning to wonder the merits of me being with them.
Going out for a coffee with a friend tonight so will probably just spend the evening listenin to someone elses shit.. hey ho..

sold a cake today £55 in my pocket! yay!

Awe BTP - please don;t put yourself down like that! You are clearly a wonderful person, wonderful mum and have a wonderful talent for making truley brilliant cakes

By the sounds of things your DH wasn;t even thinking those thoughts, doubt he would have got upset if he was! I doubt very much if he or the boys would fair better without you!!! 3 men in the house without a womans touch - I don't think so

Watching something about MN on the news at the moment

Seriously though BTP - I hope you get out of the dark place soon, please keep speaking with us if it helps! {{{{{{Big Cyber Hugs}}}}}

Need to go get my wonderful little boys to bed Meeeeee time, woo hoo! x x x

thanks Yommy,

I don't know if it helps but it feels strange being able to voice these thoughts rather than keep them in my head.

it is like giving someone a true insight into my mind, without the day to day restrictions of worring abou the effect that your thoughts and words would have on those you love.

I have been trying to be a better wife and mother but just listening to my friend last night makes me realise how far short i am falling.

We were talking about swimming lessons for the boys and I was honest with her that i am only just really coping with doing school pick up (dh is still doing morning run) and the idea of having to include many after school activities fills me with dread.

I already take DS1 to speech therapy 15 miles away after school on Tuesday and he has an after school club on a Wednesday I just don't think I could cope with another activity at the moment. Dh takes him to football on Saturday morning (which he loves) and I want him (and me) to have some down time in the week.

god I am rambling. hope you enjoyed yoru me time after the boys went to bed!!

Greyskull please don't beat yourself up and start comparing yourself as a mother to someone else. You have to do what works for you and your family, you are not failing your ds by not taking him to a swimming lesson. Your boys are well looked after and loved and that is all that matters.

at £55. Looking forward to seeing the Princess and the Frog cake!

Hope you're ok today Yommy, and that you enjoyed your me time last night.

I've been watching that 5 Days on BBC 1, has anyone else? I reckon it's either going to have a really fabulous shock ending, or be really crap!

I have been watching it..
FWIW I think the cleaner at the hospital (female cleaner who keeps loitering) is the 40 year old hooker that the train driver has been having relations with. Also that she is the 40 something woman who was in the house next door to the old lady where the baby lived. I think the mother of the baby is a drugs mule and it wasn't methodone (sp?) but that the "package" broke in the mothers stomach which cause the baby to be born with an addiction?

What is goign on with the wierd trainspotter man? is he a journo?

Hmmm very interesting Greyskull. I thought maybe the cleaner was the mother of the baby??

Not sure about the trainspotter bloke, I switch between thinking there is something sinister about him and he's going to hurt her mum and thinking he's just a lonely man who wants some company.

It made me laugh last night when it started off saying "one week later" I thought it was called 5 Days because it was about what happens in the 5 days after the crash

Evening Girls,

Blissa is right BTP - def don't beat yourself up over waht you can and can;t manage on a day to day! Some days I struggle with the nursery run. I would love to take my boys swimming, but too scared to go in on my own I case I have a panic ! Your amazing!!! Think about the horror you've experienced in your life and still all you think about is making others happy - im my book you are a wonderful, very brave and very thoughful person P.s. do you give out your FB page with the cakes on???

Blissa - me time was good as always, lol! Just nice to have some time to yourself at the end of the day!

Been out enjoying the sunshine again today! Got a few jobs to apply for tonight - so excited about the prospect of getting a job, lol! Don;t think I will, but one can hope!

Hope you are all having a good day!

x x x

P.S. not been watching 5 days thing - but it sounds really good - might see if its on BBC i player! ha - who am I kidding - when will I have the time! double x x x

Hi Yommy, yes I do advertise the cake page... do you think it is a bad idea?? I suppose it does "out" me

What jobs are you applying for Yommy?

I don't think your FB page outs you Greyskull, I still don't know who you are!!