When does PND turn into Depression.........and what is the difference?

[emmatmg]

Firstly, I know there is a million treads on this but TBH I haven't got the energy to look through them all and would really like aquick answer.

After Ds3 was born I had a bit of a run in with PND but thanks to my HV (and here) I recognised the signs and I got over ir quickly.

Now I been feeling quite shit lately and this morning just had a complete, well the only way I can describe it is a meltdown brought on be the simple fact the DH had a lie in (again). I have been in tears. scraeming that he has no idea how miserable I am and he hasn't. I'm not sleeping well ATM and when he commented on the fact that I choose to stay up late I lost. I don'tfucking well choose to, I can't sleep so whats the point of lying in bed wide awake.

I just have this horrible "I don't care" feeling all the time and living with a neurotic and anal man like DH(a whole other thread that) drives me mad.

Do you think by reading this little snapshot of my life that it's PND again, depression of just a selfish wanker of a DH?

Sorry about typos and crap puncuation.

he's back......

Oh Emma - so sorry to hear you are feeling low. TBH, it sounds like you are lacking in sleep and getting little help. I too would go ballistic if dh was staying in bed while I got up with 3 kids.

xx

I think I could safely say that the atmosphere here could be cut with a blunt knife.

UUGGHHH! what a fantasic day I've had

emmatmg, I know this is inadequate advice really but could you go and have a bath and an early night and tihnk abotu this again tomorrow? Sleep will make all the difference (if you can, I know).

well, he is home tonight and the thought of idle chit chat fills me with dread, so probably will finally get an early night, will make sure it's ALONE.

kid's in bed now so can't run the bath unless I want 3 little helpers.

Don't have any experience with PND but I would have thought if you can actually 'lose it' and put your finger on what makes you lose then it is likely to be tangible external factors that are making you depressed - ie your dh and his lack of support. I must admit I did have a small smile to myself when I read your description of his little ways - it sounds so much like my dh...totally anally retentive about so many things! Our house is like a minimalists dream with white walls, no toys around once dd in bed etc but still he is always going on about what a state it is in and manically wiping surfaces etc.

Had a relatively good night sleep, woke early becuase of the alarm going off.

Not sure if it's made me feel any better, but I think I agree wih you Roobie about being able to put my finger on the reason. I'll wait a while to see if anything cahnges at home after yesterday.....I doubt it will though