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Onwards and Upwards - the cvq/ns support and hot chocolate thread

984 replies

Habbibu · 06/09/2008 20:33

Since we've nearly tipped the last one over the 1000 posts mark, here's the new thread for cvq and for her friends to help this lovely lady to keep on getting better.

OP posts:

eandh · 16/09/2008 19:26

Hope you get some sleep and J is settled for you x

bythepowerofgreyskull · 16/09/2008 19:34

Am here hon..
sorry - if I am too late..

differentID · 16/09/2008 19:37

hiya sweetie- took me a while to find this thread agian.
What's bugging you?

Ready4anotherCoffee · 16/09/2008 20:42

hey you,

I heard this quote on Aled the other moring and wanted to share it with you, it came with a little anecdote too, but it just made me think of you [no i'm not a wierd stalker]

'it's the love we give one another which makes people special to us and not just the love they gve us.'

It's 1h 19m 30s into here if you want to hear the anecdote too.

MatNanPlus · 16/09/2008 21:49

Evening,

your feeling low.

MatNanPlus · 16/09/2008 21:51

Evening,

your feeling low.

MatNanPlus · 16/09/2008 21:52

Evening,

your feeling low.

MatNanPlus · 16/09/2008 21:54

oops

thingamajig · 16/09/2008 23:02

Hi CVQ, hope you are away from here because you are sleepy not cos you're upset.
Did you pick up any hot chocolate?

CvQ · 16/09/2008 23:10

anyone about

CvQ · 16/09/2008 23:24

anyone

thingamajig · 16/09/2008 23:50

Only me. Whats up, honey?

thingamajig · 16/09/2008 23:57

If you are there but dont want to talk can you just post x?

CvQ · 16/09/2008 23:57

sorry
im feeling very alone.and fed up and someone i didnt know had hold of j tonight and its upset me.and that sounds really unreasonable but nursery knows how i feel and i just feel like pulling him out now because i trusted them and i feel let down and i am worried about saying anything incase they talk about me behind my backi just dont know what to do and this hs rocked me alot

thingamajig · 17/09/2008 00:06

I am sorry that you are lonely. Who was holding j? Is that what you wanted to ask about earlier? I think you have every right to be upset with the nursery. I would try not to be hasty in pulling him out though - can you talk to them about how important this is to you - or perhaps get someone else to. I know that it is not the point but presumably he was in the nursery premises and supervised by someone you do trust - who was it holding him?

Don't worry about the staff talking behind your back - all sorts of parents have all sorts of circumstances and they should have been trained in being sensitive about this.

You have had a few upsetting incidents in the last few days, its no wonder you are feeing blown about.

Have you had a hot drink?

thumbwitch · 17/09/2008 00:17

Hi CvQ - sorry, I have been proper working tonight instead of half an eye on MN and half on my work. How are you feeling now?

It's not that uncommon to be worried about people you don't know holding your baby - if you look at all the PFB threads you'll see that - so I doubt your nursery people will think you are that different and therefore won't even comment on it to themselves, let alone to each other.

Please don't pull him out of nursery just yet tho cos it does give you some respite, doesn't it. Perhaps you could just gently remind the staff that you feel a bit funny about people you don't know holding j, even make a bit of a joke about it on yourself, e.g. say "I know it seems a bit silly but..." and they will be fine about it.

If, however, you truly think that they are not respecting your wishes then look around for another nursery. But I would give them the benefit of the doubt this time - and if they do it again, then leave.

Sorry that you are feeling - can we cheer you up in any way? Have you got your hot choc?

CvQ · 17/09/2008 00:18

it was a member of staff id never seen before.his keyworker wasnt there.the manager knows how i am because i have spoken to her before he started.my confidenece in leaving him there has been knocked.so he was in the babyroom with another baby and j was being held by the member of staff i dont know.i just wish i wasnt like this.i get very frustrated.
ive had a coffee

thumbwitch · 17/09/2008 00:28

no hot choc still? never mind, so long as the coffee is quite milky and has some sugar in it and isn't too strong.

Your confidence levels in leaving him there can be restored, I'm sure, if you just have a quiet word to the manager and explain that it upset you to see j being handled by someone unfamiliar. No doubt they had their reasons, maybe short-staffing, but still they should at least try to make sure that your wishes are complied with, but again I think you should give them a second chance to get it right for you.

How is your purple fluffy blanket tonight? I shall keep reminding you of it so that you remember to use it.
And I hope you found the source of the draught and sorted it out ok.

CvQ · 17/09/2008 00:38

ive been brooding all afternoon but i think i will have to call and talk it over tomorrow or this will hang over my head for the next week.
my purple fluffy blanket is here its just not on me at the moment and that draught hasnt been back sinc so im still not sure what it was.although i still think it wasnt a draught.

thumbwitch · 17/09/2008 00:43

well m'girl, put your purple fluffy blanket on you quicksmart so that you can get some comfort from it!

Now, this "breeze" - it could still be a draught, that only crops up when the wind is in a certain direction. It hasn't been so windy dahn sarf since you mentioned it, has it been windy where you are? If you think it is some kind of presence, tell me what feeling you got from it - was it neutral, good or not good?

CvQ · 17/09/2008 00:48

it was like someone breathing on your face but really cold breath.it washed over my face.it was freaking me out

thumbwitch · 17/09/2008 00:55

I remember you saying - but as well as being cold breath, did you get any associated feelings of goodness or badness? Or neither?
I mean, if we're going the route of spirit breathers, it might have just been an interested spirit looking in to see what was going on, or a naughty impish spirit who was trying to freak you out (and succeeding!)

The other possibility is that it was some kind of neurological thing happening in your face - I have had problems with my low back and have felt an icy wet patch on my thigh (like a dog nose being pressed against it), which turned out to be compression of a nerve in my lower back. I knew it wasn't a dog as I was driving at the time!

CvQ · 17/09/2008 00:57

well my nan died lastweek if that helpscould it have been her?

thumbwitch · 17/09/2008 01:05

you never know, do you. She might have been trying to say sorry. If you didn't get any bad feelings from it, then that is as good an explanation as any. Funny things can happen when people die unexpectedly and there is "unfinished business" - when my Nan died suddenly of a massive heart attack, all of us had a dream sometime in the week after where Nanna spoke to us and told us she was ok now. That can't be coincidence.

(any people who think I'm a freak can just push off! )

CvQ · 17/09/2008 01:09

oh i hope it is something like that.i wont get to say goodbye so if it was her coming to see me she would have seen j aswell

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