Onwards and Upwards - the cvq/ns support and hot chocolate thread

[Habbibu]

Since we've nearly tipped the last one over the 1000 posts mark, here's the new thread for cvq and for her friends to help this lovely lady to keep on getting better.

and we're supposed to be going to Proms in the Park tomorrow afternoon/evening too - betcha he tries to get out of it cos he's "not well" - pah!

bu thibgs i say get me in trouble and ive had enough of that.godi just want to say the bit thats upset me most and i cant

How would you feel about posting it and getting it withdrawn? It may not happen immediately, but there are not that many people around just now, and so very few would read it.

petal, listen, there is only me and Habbibu and you here at the mo and I'm sure Habbibu is with me on this, you can say whatever you need to - you will not get into trouble. If you want to get the post deleted after you have written it, you can request MNHQ to delete it. Then it won't be there forever to haunt you - but you will have got it out. So go for it without fear.

x-post but said same thing - see, we are on the same side for you

Yes, I completely agree, tw.

be brave lovey, just go for it, don't worry about spellers or sense, it won't matter, so long as you feel you're expelling it from your system

try to think of this as a safe place for you to vent - you won't get into trouble here.

Oh, darling. he did an awful, terrible thing to you. I'm so so sorry. Please don't be sorry for telling us. You poor love. I wish I could hug you.

well done for getting that out onto the screen. That must have been incredibly hard. Oh love. What a fucking bastard. There just aren't words strong enough to describe him.

you still there, darling?

don't be sorry lovey, you had to say it. I'm for you that your dream has taken this route - is it normal? If you can answer, did that happen in RL?

If you want to email me instead, my email is [email protected] - feel free to do so if you want but I won't mind if you don't.

yes it did

So sorry, love. Have you dreamed this part of it before?

no

you poor, poor girl - what an absolute sick monster. and yet still so very proud of you for getting to where ypu are now.
(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

oh god. I'm going to say sorry now in case anything I say is really crass or stupid. Do you think that maybe your subconscious mind is going over what happened to you because you've started to open up about it more? Kind of like opening up the wound so it can heal properly later?

is it possible for you to look at this as a further step in your healing path? Because you haven't dreamt it before, it was probably buried deeper than other bits, so if it is surfacing now, that is a "good" sign in one way. Obviously not in others.

habbibu I think we must be brain-sharing here but you type faster than I do.

cvq, you are so great, you know. so brave. I'm so sorry you were hurt like that - just so horrible.

what would you like to do now, pet - do you want to talk more about it or be distracted more? Your call..

I know you're so so sad, darling, and I don't blame you. If what's happening is what tw and I both thought (!) then it is part of the healing process. A really really hard and horrible part, but maybe a sign that your mind is feeling able to cope with "looking at" things you had had to shut away before.

i cant have this dream againthey make me feel dirty