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Onwards and Upwards - the cvq/ns support and hot chocolate thread

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Habbibu · 06/09/2008 20:33

Since we've nearly tipped the last one over the 1000 posts mark, here's the new thread for cvq and for her friends to help this lovely lady to keep on getting better.

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jurahasfoundthehiggsboson · 12/09/2008 00:50

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differentID · 12/09/2008 00:54

eek. now you're asking. I'll see what I can comeup with.

thingamajig · 12/09/2008 00:56

This is from the homestart website:

Precious time for listening and talking
Help with the children
A break for parents
Practical help and reassurance
A chance to meet other parents in the same boat
Support to use local services and resources

So maybe think about things in each catagory. I know that you are hoping that your mum will go home soon, so think about what she helps you with, and write that down. I dont know if you could ask her to talk to homestart too? As you have your arm back you will be able to do more things, but having the support will help you to have time to get your head straight.

differentID · 12/09/2008 01:06

I know you have difficulties in going out to the shops alone- could you arrange for some company when out and about with J, so that you have someone to help if you begin feeling overwhelmed? you will probably need a hand with going up and down steps until you fully regain strength in your wrist for a while anyway.
When you have counselling sessions, would they be able to look after J in a safe location for you rather than having to arrange everything for when he is in nursery?
don't forget, they are here to help you, so if you don't feel comfortable with anything just say so- it's easy to say, i know, but you are taking control of your life back at the moment and you know what both you and J need.
Just a couple of pointers, but I hope they help.

differentID · 12/09/2008 01:07

have you been to their website?

bythepowerofgreyskull · 12/09/2008 09:13

morning hon. Hope all goes well with home start today - really sorry about my drunken thoughtlessness yesterday

bellavita · 12/09/2008 10:02

Morning CVQ.

I was sorry to see your thread about your Nan. Is your mum going back home now to sort things out?

Hope you have a positive day with your meetings.

CvQ · 12/09/2008 10:17

shes packingg up her stuff

bellavita · 12/09/2008 10:27

My darling - you will be fine. We will help you.

Look at the positive outcome of this though, you said earlier on in the thread that you need your mum to go home so you can deal with things, you told me that you had not yet broached the subject of her leaving yet, this way the matter has been taken out of your hands which is is a blessing because it is one less thing for you to worry about.

CvQ · 12/09/2008 10:40

yes that is true but what a crap way of things working out.her train leaves at 13.44 and ive got homestart arriving at 2.that is crap timing

Ready4anotherCoffee · 12/09/2008 10:45

hey, good to see CvQ is back, I'm sorry to hear about your Nan.

I hope your homestart meeting is helpful, that's a good idea, using your volounteer to provide support for getting out.

CvQ · 12/09/2008 11:20

thanks.need to do some mental juggling.im not ready for her to go but get on with it is what i will have to do.this is not about me and i understand that but it doesnt make it easy though.

MatNanPlus · 12/09/2008 12:37

You will step up to the plate - so to speak and be fine Hun.

Don't forget that with the Homestart if your needs change then a new meeting can be arranged so at all time your needs are being met - waste of time otherwise.

When you have counselling is there a space that the person could wait with J so you know were they are?

Sorry about your Nan but it does ease the burden of ousting your mum and you feeling guilt over the required action so look at it positively, you have had a renewed relationship with her that wasn't stressed at the end xxx

CvQ · 12/09/2008 13:22

oh crap shes just gone.

bythepowerofgreyskull · 12/09/2008 14:52

hope all is going well with homestart -

CvQ · 12/09/2008 15:12

well that was hard.im a bit unsettled but on the whole it went ok.so now they try and find me someone to help me.thats the most scary thing for me.i dont trust.im very worried and i have to let someone in i dont know and im missing my mum

KnickersOnMaHead · 12/09/2008 15:26

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bellavita · 12/09/2008 15:30

Well done though for getting through both meetings

Can understand your uneasiness about letting someone in who you don't know, but they will understand your situation and will make allowances for it.

Sorry you are missing your mum.

DutchOma · 12/09/2008 15:41

So sorry to hear about your nan and about your mum having to leave you.
Glad to hear that he homestart meeting went well.
Was this your mother's mother, or your father's?
Stay with us, though and keep talking, we're here for you.

CvQ · 12/09/2008 15:45

i suppose it could be worse.i could still be in plster but it doesnt make it better.i wasnt ready for her to go but this isnt about me.shes needed elsewhere but it doesnt stop me feeling sad at her going.its dads mum.

bellavita · 12/09/2008 15:47

am glad that you are thinking like "it isn't about me, she's needed elsewhere", this is good CvQ, well done.

CvQ · 12/09/2008 15:54

is it

bellavita · 12/09/2008 15:58

well I thought so, you are seeing the needs of others too......

CvQ · 12/09/2008 16:09

i guess i am.although i feel a bit embarressed now

bellavita · 12/09/2008 16:22

oh CvQ - pleeeease, no need to feel embarrassed - we are friends - no embarrassment between friends please!