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Anyone know how CvQ is today? Has she been in touch with anyone?

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thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 00:35

She was in a bad way in the early hours of this morning, has anyone had any contact with her at all today? Am quite worried about her.

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differentID · 03/09/2008 10:48

have you had any meds at all today? WOuld they relax you enough to lie down for a couple of hours?

mellyonion · 03/09/2008 10:54

oh love,
popped by to saty hello and hope that you were feeling not too awful today.
i'm sorry that you feel so terrible and that its not shifting....

how would you feel about doing something physical, like er...boxing or something..you know, for you to work out some of that built up anger...may it help to be able to physically punch or hit and kick your way out of some of it...you know, give it a direction instead of being kept inside, bubbling away???

maybe your gp could give you gym membership and you could find a sympathetic instructor who would help you to do it safely????

just thinking aloud really....

i really hope today picks up for you love. be honest with your hv...she may be able to point you somewhere new....

will be back later this afo.
thinking of you. xx

needsupport · 03/09/2008 10:57

ive takenmy ads.ive got diazepam too.
maybe i shoud get one

differentID · 03/09/2008 10:58

what time's the hv due?

Original poster
thumbwitch · 03/09/2008 10:58

Hi NS, sorry you had another crappy night. And Greyskull, sorry you're having a bad one as well.
Thinking of you - hope your day goes better today
(((((((hugs))))))))

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needsupport · 03/09/2008 10:59

thankyou mellyonion.you are so very kind to me x

needsupport · 03/09/2008 11:00

shes coming around 1oclock

differentID · 03/09/2008 11:06

when she comes, why not have a chat and see if she knows anywhere that would have those sort of classes?

differentID · 03/09/2008 11:07

If there's soemthing locally while J is at nursery?

bythepowerofgreyskull · 03/09/2008 11:12

hope that your visit with HV goes well..
Interesting ideas from Mellyonion.. boxing classes or something

She was an amazing old lady who's body had already failed, the only thing she had left was her fabulous wit and great conversation.. she had a massive stroke..

Sorry to have been self absorbed .. hope your day improves NS

differentID · 03/09/2008 11:15

Sorry to hear about youur lady- my mum used to work as a home carer and she'd get upset when her ladies/ gents passed on. YOu just become so involved in their lives, it's almost like being a family memeber.

bythepowerofgreyskull · 03/09/2008 11:18

you are so right DifferentID,.. she had 2 sons, one killed himself about 10 months ago.. she never really recovered from the upset..

differentID · 03/09/2008 11:19
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MerlinsBeard · 03/09/2008 11:24

NS - do you think that maybe YOU need to get into a night time routine as well? I find that when i am very low i seem to sit on the 'puter more and i just get so as i i am too tired to move because then if i do i will wake properly IYSWIM.

If you say to yourself that you will switch of the PC at say 10:30 and then get in bed by 11 it may do you more good than you realise. It will takea while but it may help

did you think more about the M&B unit?

DutchOma · 03/09/2008 11:39

Have you thought of getting a little radio which you can tune in to Radio 3,4 or World service? Then when you do wake up at night you hear someone else talking or some music. It gives you an opportunity to turn away from yourself and your horrible thoughts. The hatred you feel is understandable but is doing you more harm than the person you hate. None of our thoughts can harm another person, but they can harm us very much. Only you can decide what you want to think, nobody has any power over that. I know that unbidden thoughts come into your mind but you can identify them and think to yourself:- Nah, don't want to think about that now. I am deciding that I will listen to this man talking about the political situation in Afghanistan... or whatever.
Or I will imagine that I am in Kew gardens and I can see, goodness, what is that little plant? There might even be a bee on it

cherrymonster · 03/09/2008 11:47

ns can i make a suggestion please? i read earlier in the post that you were struggling to cope with the fact that you had been awarded money for the terrible thing you went through, and dont know what to do with it? would it possibly help to make a donation to a charity for people who are going through the same thing as yourself? it might make you feel better to know that you are able to help people who are in a similar situation, maybe to people who's attacker has not been caught? sorry if i am being insensitive but i think it might make you feel a little better about having the money to know that there are people out there in a similar situation and you have done something to try and help them. love and hugs to you hun xxxxx

MatNanPlus · 03/09/2008 12:04

Hi NS it was a crap night, do really 'talk' to the HV or write it all done and give it to her to read so she can take it all in then think before she answers you.

How often is the diazepam prescribed for?

Walking is a good therapy as you can stomp down the road with each step being your anger and then gently walk home so you are in a good place when you open the door.

A routine were you are ready to fall asleep once J has eaten would be a good plan, some music on low and maybe a cuddle item for you to squeeze hard/stroke/hug/mumble to would be useful to unwind without feedback?

needsupport · 03/09/2008 12:17

sorry i was laying down.
am going to turn off for a while or i think my head might explode
will come back later today some time
x

differentID · 03/09/2008 12:36

no probelm sweetie. Hope your chat with the hv goes alright. Glad you lay down for a short while
(((hugs)))

MatNanPlus · 03/09/2008 13:03

Good idea need you in 1 piece not several

hazygirl · 03/09/2008 13:36

ns i wish we could make things better here for you, its must be so hard and you do so wonderfully well,the girls on here are amazing ,and i know everyone cares about you,you are an amazing person.mn is my savior i dont go out anymore other than work,or if my dp is about,i work in care work and that helps ,i realy wish i could help you ,big hugs

bellavita · 03/09/2008 15:38

Hi ns, just got back from work (flippin busy) some first day back eh!

Sorry to not see you on msn - but maybe we can catch up tonight when I get in? If you fancy an early night then I am fine with that, but I will have a look to see if you are signed on anyway.

I will pop back in between doing the tea.

Love to you. xx

needsupport · 03/09/2008 16:04

sorry bellavita its been a bit of a day
but ive now done my 3 'things'

cherrymonster · 03/09/2008 16:43

are you getting any fresh air hun? sometimes a walk can help- you know blow the cobwebs away and make you feel invigorated. x

needsupport · 03/09/2008 17:03

yeah thats one of my 3'things' im trying to do everyday.i walked for half hour just breathing.