General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

@Riley1989 youre not in the NW are you? Peeing it down here too! Have you considered using the 15 hours free childcare and putting your dd in nursery part time? It'll do you both some good.

It's great to hear you want to get better and reaching out is definitely the first step so be proud of yourself for that.

Have you tried cbt? X

I'm writing today off as a shitty day. Had a little cry to myself. Then I've read a heartbreaking thread and feel very selfish for feeling the way I do....

It’s not selfish. It’s how you’re feeling. You’re allowed to cry and you’re allowed to say today has been shitty. Wishing you brighter skies soon.

@Wolfiefan thank you. I've been feeling much better but the past 5 days have been a struggle. How are you? X

@Jk24 Just googled it, it seems like such a lovely book

As @Wolfiefan wrote you are allowed to feel how you feel. Sometimes a shitty day is just a shitty day and it passes. It's really decent of you how you make everyone on this thread feel included. You help a lot of people, including me, with your presence x

@Riley1989 Welcome and keep writing. Ladies on here are wonderful. Sometimes it just help to express your thoughts somewhere so you're not tormented by them. It seems like you are really tired and pethaps burnt out. I've been there, as well.

Some days definitely need to be written off as shitty days. Nothing you feel is selfish. How are you feeling today?

@snowfoxglove thank you so much you just brought tears to my eyes! And I 100 percent feel the same for you lovely ladies on here. Glad we're here for one another. I also wanted you all to know jk24 is an old user name I'm also under helplessandheartbroke I've seen a few of you on other threads but realised you wouldn't have known it was me :) how are you today? Please look to order the book its amazing.

@JamSandle I'm not too bad today thank you. I think you also wrote on the thread I was referring to. A lady had lost her little girl 💔how are you today? X

I thought it was thread! 🧡

I'm feeling a mix of apathetic, low and angry today.

I'm just trying to get through the month really.

@JamSandle you're riding the waves. It's a grieving process as you're grieving your relationship. As hard as it is, I am a huge believer in everything happens for a reason. It just won't seem like that now. Make sure you're doing things for yourself and not just work. Here for a handhold x

Thank you. I'm nearly 35 and just feel so disillusioned with it all now.

Youre the same age as me hun. 35 in July! Don't feel disheartened being single at 34 yo its better to wait for the right person x

@Riley1989 a warm welcome from me also. I've been where you are several times, most recently last year. I know its really hard to believe you will get through it when your in the thick of it but you did it before and you can do it again. X

Thanks for this thread, it's been helpful to skim through. I am sorry others are struggling too.

I've been feeling low intensively for several weeks. Going to bed very late as I do not want to face the next day and not getting out of bed some mornings.

Days when I get to the gym are a bit better.

The general apathy I feel is frightening; I want to be be applying for more work but I can't face it. I'm barely cooking, tidying and am neglecting myself. Don't like my DC seeing me like this; Parked on the sofa with my duvet most days, if not in bed.

Sorry - I hope it is ok that I am joining!

Of course it's ok for you join @Greenspace81 ! Although none of us would wish this crap on anyone else.

I started the thread and have had a really hard few months but I think I am coming out of the other side. So to those struggling, keep going and keep the hope as best you can.

@Greenspace81 From experience I have found that making a small change to try to get back on track can be a good way to start - so eg trying to get to bed half an hour earlier than you have been, then another half an hour earlier. When I've been really bad I've taken the advice of others on here which is to try to be strict about a soothing bedtime routine. So much of this stuff is about looking after ourselves like we would a child or sick/elderly relative. Show yourself kindness.

Sending positive and calming vibes as always to your lovely ladies x

@Greenspace81 welcome. This is a really supportive thread that @Kielyflower started. I've been where you are 3 times. Each time I've not been able to see way out of it but somehow you just get through it. I've just thought of that line Tom Hanks says in Sleepless in Seattle , 'I'm going to get up every day and breathe in and out all day long'. Sometimes that's all you can do till it starts to get better. X

@Ilovedogs1 love that expression! I should watch that film. Hope you're ok.

@Greenspace81 hello and welcome. Sorry we couldn't meet under better circumstances. Please talk and share as much as you'd like to. I see this as my safe space.

@Kielyflower can't thank you enough for this thread it's really helped me get through.

After my kind of breakdown I had 3ish ok weeks but the last week feel like I'm back to square 2 (not square 1 as that was extremely bad) I feel so much guilt over ddog and miss him so much. I've also convinced myself I'm a bad person not worthy of nice home, car, family etc. I just can't shake the self hatred 😪hindsight is a wonderful thing isn't it....

Is anyone in tonight? X

@Jk24 , I haven't seen you on here before, but I'm here if you need anything.🤗🤗🤗

@Teasie123 thank you. I've seen you on other threads I think. How are you? I'm feeling very sorry for myself tonight been quite down. Thanks for responding x

Oh I have another user name helplessandheartbroke x

@Jk24 , ach missus. What's up? I feel the same especially when you feel like the whole world is against you...vent please
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@Jk24 and I have only this user name.🤭🤭🤭🤗🤗🤗

@Teasie123 helplessandheartbroke is my user name jk24 is an old one. I had my ddog pts before Xmas and I'm feeling incredibly guilty for numerous things. I've got an asd son I find difficult although I love so much. I had a rough childhood and just feeling very selfish and sorry for me.... I try not to do this but I'm feeling it tonight. How are you? X