How do I get help-I want to hurt my dd, I don't care if I never see her again.

[Hatemyselfforthis]

I used to love her so much but now I can't even bare to look at her. I am making her life a misery and I despise her, but she gives me no real good reason-the girls at nursery think she is an angel and she behaves very well, but I feel no love towards her. I hate her so much. I have been to the doctors but he said it is normal, but I keep leaving her in shops or in the street if we go shopping as I can't bear to be near her-I can't bear to touch her or bath her or do anything with her, I hate it all-she is 4 so it can't be pnd. Pleas help me, I want it to be as it used to be, I used to love her so much.

I really hope this is the start of a new chapter in your life with your daughter. Admitting the problem and getting help is the key to recovery. You've done so incredibly well and you must never underestimate yourself.

Just one thing though, if things get tough, you cash in that prescription. Whilst it's great that you're coping without the pills, you mustn't see it as a failing if you feel you need them.

From experience I can tell you that it's good to cope without pills but it feels like admitting defeat if you decide to start taking them. This is not the case, if you have a good doctor (and it sounds as if you do) the pills will aid your recovery and work in conjunction with the work you are doing yourself. They make it easier to get to where you know you should be.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not encouraging you to take the tablets, if you're coping without, that's fantastic. I just want you to feel able to use them where appropriate without guilt.

You will get through this. You and your daughter obviously love each other very much and together I'm sure you'll be OK.

Hey, how are you getting on?