Social taken my children

[FLICKFLICK89]

Probably posting wrong here first time user Lost my children for a second time due to mainly mental health there already on care order from previous different issues what are My chances of getting them bk as 2years been suffering and asking for.help but nothing was put in to place to help me till 3weeks b4 they where taken

The very first sentence on their website is about keeping children safe.

OP says she has been given little information about why her children have been moved and what will be required before they can be returned. The FRG may be able to explain that to her and support her in doing whatever she needs to do.

hi flick

i wonder if you could accept the children living with their grandparents on a permanent basis. Are their grandparents stable and kind parents? It might be a good outcome for you if you had the children looked after in a home without chaos.

you can have a bit more time to work on your own health needs. The children could then see you more regularly and they would feel better to see you getting well.

the fact that you are posting here and asking for advice shows that you want the best for your children. So my advice is to let them settle and remember that life away from chaos is better for them. You can have a good relationship with them in the future but for now as long as they are ok leave them stable.

sorry this is so long but if you are still reading another piece of advice I would give you is this- if it were me I would go around the house and pack the possessions that mean a lot to the children- favourite toys/clothes/ books etc. and I would make sure to pass these on to the grandparents so that the children know you are wanting them to be happy.

good luck and take things slowly. See how you feel in a few weeks. Then a few months etc.

And you believe that social services have just whipped the kids away and given 'little information' and she and her dh haven't had several meetings regarding it?

I strongly disagree with those chiding the OP to focus on the needs of the children. She can't at present, that is why they are not with her. If the children were not safe than, yes, that would be the first priority, but from what she says, they are. What she needs to do therefore is focus on her mental health and that only. She obviously can't "forget" about her children and what they need, but the only way she can really help them now is to do everything she can to improve her mental health. Everything else comes later.

first these posters would need to establish the facts, which has been challenging due to the manner in which OP writes.

@RachelSTG

Exactly it's clear that OP isn't in a position to answer these questions, especially here, and the posters pushing her (and saying she's failing to) are attacking her in doing so.

I believe nothing of the sort. I believe this is a serious situation for which OP needs frank advice from people with knowledge and understanding of the law. She’s unlikely to get that on a MN thread, so the FRG or specialist lawyers might be a more reliable source.

Flick,

You need to follow any instructions given to you by Social Services, as hard as that may be.

If they have asked you not to approach the children or make contact, then please don't.

I honestly can't understand why - if your husband is an OK person that the children were taken and not left at home. So there is something wrong that maybe at the moment, you don't know what.

You need to find out facts. Do it slowly and over time and with as much support as you can.

You need to know

1. Why your children were taken - on what grounds?

2. What meetings and discussions will take place that you are included in?

3. What actions or behaviours you are expected to take in order to possibly get your children back?

4. What support you will be given to get well enough to have the children back?

Maybe your children have been taken to give you breathing space to get well and recover?

What are your local mental health team saying? Do you have a key worker? A social worker? A community health nurse?

Can you ring the Crisis Team and get them to put something in place for you?

Please don't drink alcohol, this could be a problem. Please take any medication you're on correctly, this will help.

@GertrudeJekyllAndHyde she actually has been given a lot of good advice/feedback on this thread, including from people who would appear to have pertinent legal/mental health knowledge (like myself). It might however be hard for her to know who to listen to, my advice would be not to listen right now to any poster with a hint of criticism/blame in their post.

How are you flick?xx

You had your DC’s removed for 2 years due to your drinking. That’s some serious drinking. Are you still drinking? If so, this will be why MH teams aren’t picking you up. We can’t pick up people who are still drinking a heavy amount, as the alcohol will be contributing to low mood & anxiety, as well as actually causing these symptoms.