What is your biggest mistake in life?

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Just wondering..if you are happy to share of course...what has been the biggest life mistake you have made and did you resolve it/how did it end!?

Comparing my life to others. I have an amazing life.

Getting married. Is a nightmare to untangle and I feel guilty about messing up people's lives with it.

Drinking alcohol.

So many. Drinking too much in early 20s. Giving good jobs and flats up. My cat died and then rushed into getting 2 more. One was pregnant and was pressured to get her kittens aborted at the vet. Had a good flat near work and family but discarded it, even though id had alot of help with it to move in with a no gooder.

Moved away from family, and then one by one they get ill and die. A house out of the way. A bloke with no empathy at all.

I absolutely feel the same way about Nursing. It ruined my life.

Tw mentions abuse: Having a relationship with a friend’s ex. We were teenagers, so young and idiotic, but it really hurt her. I can never change that happening to her and I caused her a lot of hurt. That I regret.

I don’t speak to my own family (CSA from family member on me and sister excused by them - including sister) I have regrets about that but I glad I was able to do it because their behaviour was deeply harmful to me. I lost friends after that as I recovered I have regrets about that but again accept it was a necessary part of the process.

Moving 4 hours away from my home. Its been 2 years, I still miss everything about my home. I know some people have it so much worse, and have to leave their countries in horrible circumstances, and end up in awful living conditions. But the effect on my mental health is profound, and I also feel guilty for not coping better and being ungrateful for what I do have.

I spent the first year wishing every night that I would die in my sleep, and waking up so disappointed. I have my suicide kit all ready to go, and have done my research, I am very confident it will work.

I am a bit better now, and can manage my intrusive thoughts most of the time. But this is only because in my head I don't live here. So I am aware that my grip on reality is shaky and could get worse.

Trying to look as if I was coping with looking after dh, when I wasn't. If I'd had a meltdown and walked out of the clinic refusing to do it any more, he might still be alive.

@Ladydinosaur

Same. Born to a narcissist parent. Then marrying one.

Still trying desperately to get divorced after several years.