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What is your biggest mistake in life?

110 replies

pllaqsd · 05/03/2023 19:49

Just wondering..if you are happy to share of course...what has been the biggest life mistake you have made and did you resolve it/how did it end!?

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Gotafaceon · 06/03/2023 19:57

I regret tying my finances so completely to DH who isn't very financially savvy. Regret not sticking to my guns about the importance of pension payments.

LadyIckenham · 06/03/2023 20:10

@Wuatro

FlowersFlowers. I am not sure what else to say but feel for you.

Robin233 · 06/03/2023 20:12

@Pd05
Well Done.

maeveiscurious · 06/03/2023 20:19

Smoking

AngelinaFibres · 06/03/2023 20:25

Training to be a teacher because my passive aggressive parents wanted me to. I knew on day 1of training that I hated it but it was an acceptable career for 'naice' middle class girls and I had no idea what else to do.
Marrying my first husband and then having children with him. I should have had a good time and then left when I wanted adult things like a mortgage, joint account,marriage and children.

Jujuj · 06/03/2023 20:27

Staying in a dead relationship as long as I did in my twenties, cos it felt safe

MotherOfVizslas · 06/03/2023 20:49

I'm always wary of regrets, because I do believe that things happen the way they do for a reason. Having said that, the thing that makes me saddest is my inability to maintain friendships. I've messed up so many, and I've given up now.Sad

NCSQ · 06/03/2023 21:33

Leaving a job where I was excelling because I couldn't take anymore bullying. I should have stayed and stood up to them more, but it was during the pandemic and nearly broke me. It cost me financially and my career is now fucked. I am trying to find my way back again but don't know how long it will take to recover.

IDontWantToBeAPie · 06/03/2023 21:45

Going on a diet aged 18.

Ndd135632 · 06/03/2023 22:05

garlictwist · 06/03/2023 19:03

Sounds like me. I dropped out of Cambridge to be with my boyfriend of the time with whom I had got together two weeks before starting university and was sure was the love of my life and the one 🤨

Transferred to his (less prestigious) university. Had an awful time. Cheated on him whilst living in the same house as him and his mates. Broke up and deservedly lost him and friends. Very awkward year ensues.

Got a good degree in the end but really feel like I ballsed up university and have some terrible memories of what should have been a great time.

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Dropped out of Cambridge for a man????? But you must be clever ?

Icecreamandapplepie · 06/03/2023 22:23

Had a crappy start to life and made many mistakes in my teens and twenties.

Don't regret one of them. Wouldn't be who I am today without making them.

I worry every day about mistakes/ not being good enough since having kids. I don't want them to ever feel the way I was made to feel. Makes me irrational and put massive pressures on myself.

They are 6-9 now and though I'm not a perfect mum, I have done my best and still regret nothing.

I can't have done anymore. I look forward, not back. The past is done.

garlictwist · 07/03/2023 05:24

Ndd135632 · 06/03/2023 22:05

Dropped out of Cambridge for a man????? But you must be clever ?

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You'd think, wouldn't you? But no. Clearly being able to bang out essays has no bearing on common sense.

Whydoievenbother · 07/03/2023 05:51

All the relationships I've been in. Wanting to be in a couple rather than wanting to be on my own and be independent

Zola1 · 07/03/2023 06:01

It took me until I was 30 to seek medication and therapy to address the depression I've suffered from since I was a teenager. I feel angry at myself for losing so many years but I just didn't recognise the issue as I'd always felt that way

JamSandle · 07/03/2023 12:12

I'm not sure I have any. That's not to say I've lived like perfectly.

opinionssoughtplease · 07/03/2023 14:40

Wasting at least two decades not moving forwards in life or accepting/making the most of opportunities due to undealt with low self-esteem and anxiety. But I did my best with what I had at the time, so I can't really regret it, just try to make up for lost time now! I definitely am!

Needaholidayyesterday · 07/03/2023 14:44

Getting onto a bus when I should have got a taxi
regretted that for a long time

ladygindiva · 07/03/2023 14:44

Getting involved in the thread about babies at drag shows, I've wasted loads of time today.

EdvardMunchsMuse · 07/03/2023 17:58

Being born to my parents. Awful childhood.

Being an alcoholic for 30 years and all the money I wasted on it.

I no longer drink and have a lovely husband so got there in the end. Feel so lucky now.

moita · 07/03/2023 18:35

Moving away from my family and friends to be nearer his family. Biggest regret of my life.

spicysausage65 · 07/03/2023 19:02

@moita - could you move back??? Why did you move in the first place and would he support you to move back?

Afoxindeed · 07/03/2023 20:20

Wasting at least two decades not moving forwards in life or accepting/making the most of opportunities due to undealt with low self-esteem and anxiety. But I did my best with what I had at the time, so I can't really regret it, just try to make up for lost time now! I definitely am!

How is this turning out for you/what are you doing (or not doing)? I'm in a similar position.

OffToThatPlace · 07/03/2023 20:27

Taking the wrong GCSE options at school, wanting to study different things to those I excelled at.

Not leaving school at 16 and going to college, instead of staying on into 6th form to resit some GCSEs and then do A-levels. I wanted to stick with what I knew and with the very few friends I had.

Taking out credit cards, loans and overdrafts in my early 20s.

Staying in an abusive relationship too long, back in my early 20s I truly believed I couldn't live without him.

Weak, clingy DM and distant, cheating DF partially to blame for my poor decisions.

WakyWally · 16/01/2024 22:32

Where do i begin? Blunder Woman is my name!! Absolute law onto myself with the errors.

Netcam · 17/01/2024 09:37

denpark · 06/03/2023 12:55

Getting married.
Then staying married when he generally made my life miserable.
Not paying enough attention to the many red flags.
Then having children with him (don't do that - people like this don't get better)

I did pretty much the same. Now remarried to a lovely DH though.