Please talk

[purpleme12]

I really need some company
Please can someone keep me company

Bear Grylls in a nightie ☺️

I worry she'll grow up and blame me for us splitting up. It's just a minefield

I’m listening to you as posters on MN have listened to me in the past. You are not alone.

i have put my tiny potted Christmas tree in the garden in a different spot today. Trying out different places to see where he will be happy.

I have a cat behind my knee. Cats are great.

Cats are the best aren't they I don't know what I'd do without mine.

Thank you so much

You don't have to be 'perfect', just remember you are the parent that stayed with her through thick and thin.

I split up from my ex'D'H 2 years ago, and my kids, 16 and 12, now refer to him as Ditcher Dad because he moved to his home country and they only see him a couple of times a year.

Your DD is probably unable to express how she really feels so it comes out as anger - my DS (the 12 year old) is like that. He seems perfectly fine until he explodes. It is certainly not easy, and I've thrown a wobbly in return quite a few times.

But actually I find that helps in a weird way. Once I've calmed down I apologise and explain why I reacted that way, and he's beginning to see it's OK not to be happy and 'good' all the time.

I really wish I had cat though - my DD is very allergic so I have to wait until she moves out (I've told her I'm throwing her out when she is 18 so I can get a cat!)

I'm going to get my little cuddle cat from the garden now.
He was on the naughty list earlier for licking the carrot cake.

OP, she really won't blame you.
I thought that. I really felt like I had let my daughter down when we split.
She was very little, and it felt like everything was broken.
My ex didn't like cats much.

About 2 months later she said 'If Daddy isn't coming home, can we get a kitten?'
Somehow, one cat multiplied into 3.
My daughter is 10 now, and spends a lot of time making TikToks of the cats.

OP you will get through it. I get it. I'm a lone parent, too. Ignore your ex and focus on you and your daughter. It's hard when there's so much to cope with at once and you're the only adult, it feels like a lot of pressure. But you'll be ok and so will she.

You can talk to me :)

Hi OP. Hope you managed to get some sleep. How are you doing this morning?

Hello there purpleme12,
We're really sorry to hear you are having a tough time at the moment, and we're gratified and proud to see the support you received last night.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You may have seen us do this before.
You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.
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Sending kindest thoughts, purpleme12, go easy on yourself. x

I had such an awful morning. She kicked me and hit me more than once.
I just can't cope with life anymore to be honest.

It doesn't really matter anymore anyway.
I don't really care anymore

Yes it's too much for me I don't think I can do it anymore to be honest. I'm so tired.

You can do this. Life is full of ups and downs you need some self care.

Get yourself some new bedsheets and pjs
Lavender under your pillow
Lavender room spray
Lavender moisturiser
Have a bath and or shower and try and have 10 minutes to yourself
Get into yoga have a look on YouTube
Have music playing in the room you are in just something calm and relaxing
No harsh lights in your home, dimmer switch lights are great or fairy lights
Eat well
Drink as much water as possible
Get yourself some damn chocolate and eat it
Exercise if you can even if it's a five minute walk
Take one minute a day to just sit and breathe deep breaths
Try and go to bed at a reasonable time everyday
Do you have friends to talk to? If not talk on here and or the Samaritans
Get talking with the gp about therapy and or medication
Paint your nails or wash your hair that always makes you feel better
Start each day as a new day
Have you thought about an SAD lamp
Humidifier in your room
Sing - sing as loud as you can
Write down why you are great and read it out loud every day

REMEMEBER you are not alone many of us have been where you are but it is not a constant state this feelings you are having will pass

@purpleme12 hope you're ok xx
Sending you positive vibes ❤
I'll be up later for the night feed and will check in xx

Morning... how are you doing? Slept with our two newish kittens last night - one of them purrs like a little motorbike, not sure they helped me to sleep
Hope you have a decent day 🙏🏻

Thank you for people's replies honestly.

I never knew it would be this hard. I'd hoped maybe her dad would have her this weekend or one day but he's poorly again. I'm not working today I'm just going to have some quiet. I slept a good amount but didn't take my glasses off and left all the lights on all night. Have to try to buoy myself up for after school. I've no idea if I'm doing anything right anymore

God this sounds adorable ♥️

New boys in the house😻😻

Oh my god these cats are the best ♥️♥️

In bed with my cat again. Should be up but I'm in bed

Well... there are certain times when "shoulds" can be shoved to the side for a bit - if rest & kitty company is what you need for now

Hi OP how are you doing?

Sometimes you need rest OP. I dropped my DD to school this and then came back to sleep. I've only just woken up now, so starting my day a bit late. But it's okay. How are you doing ? I'm slightly

*pissed off as I've realised my cat can open the fridge. A couple of days ago, I caught him inside the fridge and thought to myself "oh maybe I didn't close it properly" nope. Woke up today and he's eaten some chicken slices out of the fridge. My lunch. Off to buy some fridge locks when I've picked up my DD.

I got through today so that's something