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Dh memory problem - should I be concerned

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Forgoodnesssakemeagain · 27/12/2022 00:22

Not sure where to put this thread. I have chosen here as his problem is affecting me a lot.
im unsure if I should be concerned or annoyed at dh but think I am more concerned.
his memory is really a problem and I don’t know what it could be? I have said it’s like he as dementia at times as that’s the only way I can describe it. I have wondered if he has adhd or asd so maybe this could be it but what else could it be? Should I be concerned or he is just being a man and not listening to me?

he often says things and then doesn’t remember he has said things or we discuss things and he doesn’t remember and asks the same again.
ita really hard to live with and I don’t understand it. We were just with my dad and he asked my dad if he had read the card my son had written to him with a lovely verse in and I had to remind my dh that my son had read it to hi. Earlier. He had no clue that had happened but it was only a few hours earlier and he sat and watched him do it..

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Forgoodnesssakemeagain · 05/01/2023 15:41

He has also messed up plans for himself too so nothing to gain when it doesn’t involved me and he has disappointed himself if you see what I mean

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isthewashingdryyet · 05/01/2023 15:48

Long shot, but low vitamin D levels can affect memory. Could you get a multivitamin for you both, for the New Year, as need to look after yourselves now you are getting older, and extra Vitamin D for him, and see if things have improved by Easter
Agree it sounds worrying though.

Forgoodnesssakemeagain · 05/01/2023 20:11

Certainly can it’s worth a try thanks

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Forgoodnesssakemeagain · 06/01/2023 16:53

Gosh equally embarrassing reply from a different doctor today I asked who said that lots of people who are intelligent are scatty..

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Muchtoomuchtodo · 06/01/2023 17:23

Sorry but your Drs sound awful

Forgoodnesssakemeagain · 06/01/2023 17:53

I had to laugh! I just thought we’ll shows how much you know about adhd when she said if he’s ok at work..
she did say that with dementia other signs such as confusion when out and other bits that didn’t match. I think a private look at adhd is my best bet to rule in / out

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