Fired! Now what!

[Pinkypong]

Hi, I posted before, I just got a new job after ages as a sahm. It was a wonderful role with prospects and I’ve been let go. My it skills are not enough. I’m not what she thought I would be.
im devastated. I can’t sleep. It took me so long to find this role. Worse, it took some of the stress off Dp and he’s started to look almost jolly. How do I tell him? What do I tell the teens? How do I get another job?
I’m feeling so stupid, I’m an older mum and I’ve just been lost ever since moving here, now I’m ancient and unemployable. I just seem to have struggled for years and been lost now I’m ancient and lost. I honestly don’t think I can cope with whatever else life throws at me. It’s exhausting and lonely and oh so rubbish. I can’t understand what happened. Just a waste. Please help me get back on track.

So glad this worked out for you OP. I hope the sertraline works for you xxxx

Are you sure it's you OP? Is she making excuses? Perhaps the business is struggling in current climate.

Lick your wounds and move on. Sounds like you're being more than proactive.

Don't let it bring you down for too long.

Oh didn't RTFT - doh.

Brilliant news, well done. You should be very proud of yourself

@Pinkypong - so pleased you've come back with a new job. Well done!

Have you ever seen that vid of the violinist playing on the subway? International musician who sells out concerts. Yeah, no one really stopped to listen to him except a three year old.

Sometimes it's your surroundings not you. If your old job was a small business they can massively understate/underprice skills especially if the owner is a workaholic. I'm an current IT person and I struggle switching between Google and Microsoft systems.

My story. I had to move into a role that paid 2/3s less than my previous role for health and family reasons. I kept my mouth shut and got on with the doing - and was bullied because I was good and could network with directors. Then I joined a small business and couldn't connect with a colleague- she's since jumped the owner, broken his marriage and everyone else has left. I'm glad she froze me out. These two experiences nearly broke my confidence and mental health - they were so painful.

Since then, I've had 3 jobs (I consult) and everyone has LOVED me. It is night and day, if anything I am less committed as I can't make work my life due to those bad experiences. The relief I feel that it wasn't just me is huge. I hope with hindsight you feel exactly the same xx

Volunteer at a charity doing admin to pick up skills. Most of the charities near me advertise lots of different types of roles in their offices. Try volunteering with them to up skill yours skill self. I did a free online business admin course last year at my local college.

Fantastic, well done!!

Thank you everyone!usereror you did make me laugh! nodogz thanks for sharing your story, that sounds awful and I’m so glad you are in a nicer situation now.
thanks to you and everyone you have helped me see it’s not just me being rubbish!I love the violinist story. So true

I know this is an old post but this exact thing happened to me today. I’m in bits. I had a career break of 10 years bringing up a child (previously I had been working as a manager in a lead financial company, I was successful, got promoted twice in that company) - and today I got fired! I only lasted there 12 days, I had been given no training whatsoever! as they looked at my cv and assumed that with my previous experience I’d take over the new role instantly, but instead, apparently, I was “asking too many questions”! I’m completely distraught, my confidence has been destroyed…My manager who is her 50th, never had any children so she has no idea how it feels for a woman to be back to work after such a long break…What will I do, what if this is it for me 😪I’m so ashamed, I had never been fired before!

@7vio please, please start your own thread. It sounds like you could really do with some help and support but your message is likely to be missed when it is tagged on the end of someone else’s thread.
@Pinkypong I hope you are enjoying your job.

Hello.its me, pinkypong. Popping into say, oh my gosh that's horrendous@7vio I'm so sorry I know how hard it is to return. I think high worth is right - you will get a lot of support and advice off the amazing Mumsnetters with a fresh new thread.
I believe very strongly that you will get through this, and you will find a place to thrive, though you won't believe me at the moment. If I can get a job I enjoy, you certainly can.
In other news..I loved my job and DH persuaded me to give it up as it was impacting family life. DOH.